cry-it out method?

Question

my baby is 7 months old and won't go to sleep at night when i try to put her in her crib drowsy-awake, because so far i have always nursed or rocked her to sleep(same for naps).in the last month she started to wake up 2-3 times a night.sometimes i can rock her back to sleep other times i have to nurse her.she used to sleep through (8pm-8am) from when she was 4.5 months until 6 months of age.
it tried the ferber method a couple times but after 45 minutes i gave in.it didn't seem to ever end!and she screamed hysterically(already after a couple minutes).she also never settled when i went in to comfort her(seemed to be even worse when i came) .she kept on rolling and turning around. if i want to try it again,do i start with naps or nigh time?or both?how much crying is too long/much?is there a limit?do i just put her to sleep that way but pick her up in the middle of the night?do i slowly approach it or do i let her cio every time she wakes?

Answer 1

AH THE CRY IT OUT METHOD. I WAS TOLD TO JUST LET MY SON CRY SO HE CAN LEARN TO PUT HIMSELF BACK TO SLEEP.LET ME TELL YOU FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE THIS DOES NOT WORK.THE BABY WILL CRY AND CRY AND GET YOU ALL NERVOUS. JUST GET UP WITH THE BABY AND DO WHATS NECESSARY. YOU WILL BE AWAKE IN BED HEARING THE BABY CRY ANYWAY, SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL GET UP AND MAKE IT A LITTLE MORE PLEASANT

Answer 2

Firstly you need to pick something and stick with it. Babies take a while "to get stuff" because they are babies and don't know much yet.

Your baby could be suffering from separation anxiety, she goes to sleep and you are there, then during an awake phase of sleep she opens her eyes and you aren't there and she doesn't like the way it makes her feel, so she is calling out for you during the night just to make sure you are still around.

If you don't want to pat or rock or feed your baby to sleep anymore you have two options, "cry it out" or sit in the room with them and hold their hand until they go to sleep and gradually move closer to the door until you no longer need to stay. From what I have read the Ferber method is less traumatic on parents and baby, but it takes a while.

What ever way you choose to put your baby to sleep do it *every* sleep and stick with it. Over time she will sleep better again, I know because I am living the same thing with my 9mo. I got more sleep when he was a tiny little baby, now I am luck to get 4 hrs a night. But it will get better (eventually, lol)

Answer 3

i did the ferber method with my 8 month old and wished i did it a bit earlier, this is the perfect time to do it and if you percievere it should pay off. I started by introducing the ferber method at daytime nap. What i did was leave him cry for 5mins, go in lye him back down and then leave him for 10 mins for back in 15mins, etc sometimes up to a hour, increasing it by 5min increments everytime. He soon got the message and it took about a week at the most. Although it could feel like a month, i would honestly i do not regret it and i will be doing it will my next child too, he sleeps almost 12hrs without waking most nights. good luck :)

Answer 4

I think you have to do what you feel is right. Some people are so anti control crying but that's OK for them they don't live at your house or know your baby. I think if it helps to save your mental well being and it helps your daughter to sleep better, give it a go. You could wait a few week and see if its a stage. Start at night because during the day if she crys for 45 mins its not fair to expect her to nap longer than that anyway.

Answer 5

First of all honey, I have a two year old and he still doesn't sleep through the night. I mean he will do great for like a week or a month and something "God only knows" will happen and he will get out of his good routine. So I have tried tons of ways that have and haven't worked. You said your child is 7 months, honestly I think that your child is way too young to be ferberized. He or she is still a baby and your child doesn't know what day or night is. You have to think of the stress of crying has on him or her. So here are some suggestions:
1. Make day naps bright and night time sleeping dark.
(In the day open a window or leave a closet light or small light on; it will help get routine started. Then at night leave a small night light on.)
2. He or she might be one of thoese babies that needs to have a warm bath every night to sooth and relax.
(Johnson & Johnson has this great lavender bath soap and lotion that helps babies calm down and even sleep better. I used to take a bath with my son when he was that young and I would use the same soap and lotion so that when we would lay down to sleep he would be able to smell the lavender better.
3. You can also try baby massage; you can look up basic techniques online. (Also you can use a lavender baby oil to work with.
4. Most babies have started teething before 7 months so make sure your child has gone to bed with the proper amount to Tylenol or Motrin. Some times you have to switch between the two. To make sure you have to right dosage ask your child’s doctor exactly the proper amount for his or her weight. If you do that then you know that you baby is getting enough medicine.
5. Also if he or she is teething make sure that you also applied enough Orajel to your baby’s gums, and believe me there is no such thing as too much.

MOST IMPORTANT: If it is because of teething you must , I mean, must start ( if you haven't already) brushing and cleaning your babies gums. The sugars from breast milk and formula sticks to their teeth and cause early tooth decay.

6. If none of these have worked of has anything to do with your situation, then now is the time to check out your baby’s sleeping situation. Now this might be crazy to some parents but since I breast feed my son for almost two whole years, I slept with him from time to time.
7. Some babies just don’t like the open space of a crib and remember you can not put pillows or extra padding for the fear of some thing bad to happen like suffocation.
8. Try letting your baby sleep in a swing, hell my son slept in his car seat for the first 3 months ad then we bought a swing and he slept in that and once he maxed out the weight requirements I started letting him sleep with me. And even after the swing I still bought him a rocker and would rock him myself with my foot.
9.One last thing some babies are cranky because they have trouble with their bowls, so make sure that she or he is getting enough water. And please what ever you do don't give your baby and caffeine or carbonated drinks, I have seen mothers give their babies coke at a much earlier age.
Well okay honey, I hope that this helped you and your baby and please if you have and more questions or would like to chat with me any further you can email me @ [e-mail] I would be more than happy to help out a fellow mom.
Good luck and Good Bless.

Answer 6

this sounds exactly like my son when he was 7mths old too. I was on the phone to the 24hr child health line in tears because he wouldn't sleep or would be in our bed, or would only rock to sleep sometimes etc...absolute nightmare!

I ended up letting him cry it out. The nurses said this was the only tried and true method and it works!!

I started with a night time sleep, put him down at 8pm like normal and just shut the door and went and folded washing in my bedroom across the hall! He got really agro for the first 20mins or so and then it gradually settled down and by 45mins he as asleep. He then woke again a few hours later, i didn't go in and he fell back to sleep after about 10mins, woke again later and was asleep within 3-5mins. He slept till about 7am then.
The next day, day sleep, I just put him down, he grizzled for a minute or two and went to sleep. That second night he went straight to sleep again and only woke once for a few minutes and by the third day/night he would lay down and I never heard a peep from him till the morning.

I found it really hard the first night as I was on eggshells but I felt so proud of myself (and him!) for sticking it out and was on a high for the next few days that I had successfully got my son to sleep through the night! Some people said it was cruel to do that but when you have tried everything else, what choice do you have. they have to sleep by themselves at some stage and 7mths is great as they don't need night feeds anymore.

I suggest waiting until the night you feel ready for it and just put her down with a full belly (try a little bit of baby rice after her bottle to fill the tummy). Do not go in, do not pick her up, and wait a few minutes after she has quitened to go in and check because she could be fooling you!
You are better off doing it in one hit than going the slow approach or it will not work. She may be laying funny in the cot too when she falls asleep but resist the urge to move her and just cover her up with a blanket and leave her to sleep like an angel.

Good luck, I hope this works you for. It worked for me and so many people I have talked to.

Best of luck

Answer 7

Only you understand what's fine on your children. An eleven month historical absolutely demands to understand how to self soothe. If the no cry procedure is not operating for then you definitely take a look at whatever new. For me, the one factor that labored is letting my children cry it out. It used to be hard to start with however I knew what had to be performed and they're such a lot happier now for it. When I inform them it's bedtime they cross proper to mattress. They do not whine, cry, or whinge. Put your little one to mattress joyful. If he cries, wait it out for five mins. Go in and alleviation him however don't take him out of his room. Lay him back off and watch for 10 mins. Usually via this time he's going to go to sleep. It might take as much as per week however he's going to gain knowledge of. Good Luck to you and don't forget, You and simplest you understand what's fine on your little one. Don't permit whole strangers inform you that they recognize larger!

Answer 8

She could be going through a growth spurt and needs more calories. She could be having teething pain.
With sleeping you sure can hold her and rock her to sleep, she is not spoiled if you do this. But don't put her to bed until she is fully asleep. You can usually tell when they are asleep. My kids would twitch when they fell asleep, of they would breath in a rythm kind of way. Enjoy holding her now because soon she won't want to be held and will want to run around instead. Enjoy her.

Answer 9

I started "trying" to not rock my son to sleep when he was around 6 or 7 months old. He didn't like it at all! He would scream like someone was hurting him, but it was only because he was so mad. I talked to his Dr. about this and he told me to stick with what I was doing. That I was doing the right thing by letting him know that its time to "do this on his own". He told me to get him ready for bed, take him to his room, give him bedtime kisses and simply put him in his crib. Tell him that I love him and that I will see him in the morning and walk out the room and shut the door (remembering to turn the baby monitor on of course). I tried it and it worked! Well we recently moved so naturally my son felt out of place and started flipping out again. I made the mistake of putting him to bed with me...That was a BIG NO NO! He started to really flip out everytime I would try to put him back in his crib, even if he was in a deep sleep. On his next check up I told his Dr. about this again...he reasured me that I needed to do the same thing I did before because if I changed things up it would confuse him. So I did. And he is going to bed on his on now. Sometimes he gets a little fussy but as soon as I get to the end of the hall way he has stopped fussing. Don't confuse her by going in and out of the room, this way she knows that you are going to keep coming back in and you will end up having a long night! I hope this helps a little. If not ask her Dr. for some advise

Answer 10

I used a battery-powered baby swing for my kids as babies.
hand 'em a cup of milk, turn on some soothing quiet music and set them in the magic la la land swing...they were out in no time!
Maybe your baby has a bit of colic? try checking the baby formula/milk...there could be a food allergy causing gas at bedtime...
also look for new teeth breaking thru...that usually gets worse at night for some reason...