Are you the favorite child?

Question

Are your siblings resentful?

Answer 1

Nope, certainly not.

Answer 2

According to my sister (younger) ... yes and yes. Actually, she says it tongue in cheek. I'm not smarter than my siblings, but I am more ambitious, and that's taken for smarts no matter what I say. My sis is FAR AND AWAY smarter than I am when it comes to men and children. Mom thinks I walk on water because I can cook and keep a clean house. What she doesn't seem to realize is that sis works 12 hours a day and has a hubby, two children (that fight like cats and dogs), two cats, four cars, a huge house, a garden, and other things. I have an efficiency, no animals, no full-time relationship, and a job that takes 35 hours of the 40 I get paid for. I envy my sis for her life, and she mine. Who's the favorite child ... depends on your viewpoint, the time of day, and the parent you are talking about. Mom favors me (most of the time), and Da favors sis (most of the time). Neither parent is happy with their eldest being childless. Both harp on sis's kids. Viewpoint is a strange thing. Read "Stranger in a Strange Land" There is a character in the book that acts as a "Witness" ... she doesn't say anything more than the facts she can observe with her own eyes. What she will "witness" depends entirely on what she is looking at and from which angle. Change the angle, change the answer. Same thing with your question.

Thanks for asking it ... I enjoyed answering it.

Answer 3

There are two of us, and I think my parents tried very hard not to favor one over the other. Both of us were sickly children, and the doctors thought we weren't going to live very long, maybe not even to 6 or 7. So, they loved us equally I'm certain. Each birthday was a victory. We each got presents though we didn't have much money. That lasted until we were about 10 and 12, respectively. (I'm older.) I guess that was sort of the safety zone.

Mom said that we never asked for much, so even little gifts were such a thrill. My sister might get an extra Barbie doll outfit, and I always loved getting a book or comics. We weren't spoiled, but we did have to be pampered. I had to have a lot of surgeries, but my sister never lacked for attention. Maybe it helped that we lived close to my mom's two sisters and to my maternal grandparents. Everyone pitched in and seemed to favor us equally; both of us had pet names and nicknames.

Now, we are adults, and I don't think we have any resentments from childhood. We never went through the putting-down-parents stage either, perhaps because Mom also has been ill so much in her life. We learned to give care as well as accept it. While we were in high school, our dad had an accident that caused him to lose vision in one of his eyes, so we were caregivers again. If we all hadn't worked together, we'd never have survived all that, especially when my dad died very young, just after he turned 47.

I'm not saying that we never had sister-spats or that we always got along. But, most of the time, our family was pretty doggone functional. It still is.

Answer 4

yes and yes and it caused problems for all of us all our lives. I have 4 siblings, all over 40 yrs of age, and there is still resentment, both my folks are in heaven now, and don't have to deal with what they did. They didn't mean any harm, but they could have hidden it from the others a little better maybe.

Answer 5

No; I was the least favorite, but my siblings were still resentful, or something: they used to beat me up all the time!

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Answer 6

Hell yes

well in my opinion i am im 1 of 7 so there isnt a clear favorite but i am refered to as the "good one"

Answer 7

Nope

Answer 8

My parents are gone and I am the oldest. And, I don't play favoritism with any of my younger brothers or sisters, treat them all the same, with love, affection and I stress having good senses of humour at all times.

Answer 9

No. But, I am the baby, so I think that my siblings say I'm the most "spoiled". They still call me that and I'm 35.

Answer 10

Yes. No there was never any jelousy! We were eight siblings and I am number 4th (right in the middle)

Answer 11

I was sick as a child requiring a lot of surgeries and hospitalization therefore demanding a lot of my parents attention..............yes I believe they do resent me