I been seeing this girl for the last month and a half. last night I hit the jackpot with her more then once. She's a sweat girl however I DONT WANT to hurt her feelings I want to keep her on the sidelines for a while but I dont want to be to obvious doing it. I also dont want her to know what Im trying to do either. When I was first seeing her I knew 2 month earlier she had a bad break up with her boyfriend I dont want to dump her totally I dont want to screw with her head either. I just want too keep her on the shelf for a while to give me sometime to see If I still want to go with her. She's wants to buy me rollerblades at modells for me so we can go skating In the park together. I think she wants a relationship like a couple like she had with her last boyfriend. I dont know what I want to do with her right now In all honestly I just wanted to bang her and I did. I respect this girl I dont want to HURT HER FEELINGS. any advice
2007-09-09 19:21:23 · 39 answers · asked by John g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
look I'm a good person I WANT TO DO THIS THING RIGHT. THATS WHY IM ASKING PEOPLE FOR ADVICE!
2007-09-09 19:30:41 · update #1
I dont want to see this girl get hurt.
2007-09-09 19:33:04 · update #2
Jesus Christ people I just want sometime to think things out. Dont hold anything back.
2007-09-09 19:43:48 · update #3
If you're asking this question you are obviously not ready for a commited relationship so just break it off so she can move on. If you just wanted a booty call then you should have made it apparent before hand. Believe it or not there are girls who just look for guys for a booty call. You don't have to say, "hey, I just want to bang you." A simple, "I'm not looking for anything serious I'm just looking to have some fun" would sufice. Why guys feel they have to lie about their motives is beyond me. You get better results and less stress when you are upfront and honest. For now, just tell her she's a great girl but you don't feel you are ready for a commitment and since she just came out of a bad relationship you don't want to hurt her. She probably will get upset but there really isn't a good way to break up with anyone. Oh, and please play with the safety on. If you have commitment issues now you would be a mess if you got a girl pregnant.
2007-09-09 19:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If you really did have any respect for her you wouldn't have f8cked her and then now be on this website asking for advice on how to dump her. You said you wanted to f*ck her but you don't want anything else. Why don't you try to get to know the person before you go sticking your d*ck in the pot and being disrespectful. you need to think about where a girl is coming from. What if you get her pregnant? Are you gonna pay child support? Are you gonna be there for her? Do you really give a f*ck? Sounds like you are just sowing your wild oats to me. Go bang some hookers or something and leave the ones alone that really care about you until you are ready to be cared about. What about her feelings? How would you feel if she put you on a shelf and shopped around for a guy with a bigger d*ck, that lasted longer and paid the bills. Hmmmmm........? I guess that is why I'm gay. At least mine takes a licking and keeps on ticking and pays the bills and is there next week and I'm not waiting around to see if they like me. F8ck that!
2016-05-21 00:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John
Young man, as a minister I must tell you that if you intended to have sex with her a month ago and now that you have met your goal you don't want to be serious with her, plain and simple you used her like a cheap peace of material once you use it then discard it as to say I got what I want now go away.
How immature of you. You don't say how old you are but GROW UP.
Then you say your want to keep her on the sidelines just in case you want her again. I want to ask you something. How would you like it if when you were a young child, your parents said well we had a child but we don't want him so let's give him to someone but let's stay close in case we want him again. Or a girl went out with you just for you to spend money on her, then when she bled you dry she bumped you to the sidelines. I know the answer, you would be crushed, hurt and angry. A relationship is based on trust and respect. I suggest you find a church and get some Faith in Jesus. A christian would not do that to someone.
2007-09-10 01:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a man. Confess to her that you were just using her for sex and don't give a crap about her and deliberately took advantage of her being down from just breaking up with her previous boyfriend, and the only reason you want her around now is in case you get horny again and nothing better turns up. You can't help but hurt her feelings, so you might as well tell her the truth. And also pray that she isn't pregnant.
2007-09-10 05:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that scoring with her was your only intention from the beginning. The problem is that in the month 1/2 it took you to get the panties, you saw that she was a pretty cool person and now you are feeling bad about it.
My honest opinion is to just let her go. Don't try to keep her on the sidelines because if she is not worth being with all the time, then why hold onto her?? Evidently she's second rate so just let her go. Be honest with her and let her know that's all you wanted and you know there is somebody waiting for you who is waaaaaaay better!
Good Luck!
2007-09-09 23:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mirry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a bit of a wanker to me, saying you're a good guy but pointing out that you've scored with her. You don't want to hurt her feelings, just want to put her on a shelf for a while. And you don't want her to pick up on the fact that you're doing that. I hope she realizes what you are doing and kicks you to the curb. Either you want to go with her or not. You respect her but you just wanted to bang her. Am I missing something here? Your head is not screwed on tight enough to have a good relationship with someone. You took advantage of her breakup and moved in like the cad you are. You don't deserve her, you're just trying to get what you want and aren't mature enough to see what a jerk you are. So my advice would be grow up!!!!!
2007-09-15 04:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you enjoy spending some time with her, and that she's a nice girl, but that you're not ready for as much commitment as she seems to be after, you wanted something more casual.
That is the nicest possible way that you can say this (which, from what I can tell you really want to say 'can't we just have sex sometimes?') She will prolly still get upset and dump you, but at least you won't have to worry about it anymore.
If you did respect her, you wouldn't have used her for sex, which is what 'i justed want to bang her, now how can i get rid of her' means.
You really really are a bit of a meanie.
2007-09-10 03:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by A derka der 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Advice grow up! She seems like the has a low self esteem, she probably slept with you because she wanted you to like her, and though it would bring you closer. You are going to hurt her but if you really don't want to hurt her then do what will hurt her less in the long run. Do Not use her a booty call and cut it off now. She will feel like crap and used, but it is better now then when she has been used for a long time and has no self esteem left.
2007-09-09 19:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by keko8338 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you as a father of a 17 year old girl. You are the reason why men load their rifles up when their daughters go out. Cause there are young "men" like you that want to get what you want, and then put the girls to the side. If you didn't want to actually get involved with her in the first place then you shouldn't have "scored" with her.
IF YOU RESPECTED HER - YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BANGED HER.... You need to grow up and face reality.
What if you got her pregnant? What if you gave her a disease?
2007-09-17 15:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by palerider_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you respect her,you are full of ****.You don't respect her if you are just using her.You are a pathetic excuse for a man.And you say that you don't want to hurt her feelings,well that's exactly what is going to happen when she finds out.It's men like you that make women hesitant on getting in relationships,because a majority of you guys are after one thing and one thing only.You need to get your priorities straight and treat women with respect.What makes you think that she want's to have sex with you again anyway,you probably got a goober the size of a pea.And you never know maybe she had sex with you just on the rebound.You'd be better off dating men,you jerk ***.
2007-09-10 01:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋