My boss is a spinster. She shows favoritism to my guy colleagues because they like to stay back after work as late as her. The normal working hours is from 9am to 6 pm but she always stay till 9 plus. One of my guy colleague does that almost everyday too. What I can't stand about her is that she always give me things last minute and question me why i didn't liaise with partners early. Then she will show an ugly face. Yucks. Is ignoring her the best way since i can't afford to lose my job.
2007-09-09 17:38:05 · 5 answers · asked by Pakkun 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I totally resent that you're calling your boss a "spinster". Just because she's elected not to get married doesn't mean she deserves such an insult.
Anyway, can you really blame her for favoring your male colleagues? If they are willing to stay over 3 hours after work has ended I think she's quite logical in favoring them...they're showing true dedication...or perhaps they're showing submissiveness...but either way that's great from a boss' view.
As far as her giving you things last minute and asking why you didn't "liaise" (note I'm not really sure what you mean here) with your partners early, that's probably something you need to deal with. But honestly I don't think she sounds like the kind of person you can talk to about this.
So in answer to your question...yes, the best thing to do is ignore her until you can get a better job, then GET OUT.
EDIT:
Spinster is definitely an insult. It has all kinds of negative connotations associated with it.
2007-09-09 17:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by G 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
What i percieve of this question is that it is not realy a woman and gender realtions question but more of a career section question.
The way i see this is that your boss is espousing femenist virtues in the most positive light possible . Your boss is working her @ss off .
Your boss is also rewarding people who stay late . There are guys who wont work over time as well .
I would talk to your boss and be frank about balancing work with other aspects of your life .You dont have to be a slave to your job . Just realize these men may be staying late not becuase there competing with you or even each other as there primary motivation.
I have seen workers who were realy instensly fired up about there jobs and throw themselves into it .
Also working long hours means extra pay . Even without power extra pay is awesome and sometimes necccesary if you have one income.
One thing that you should improve on though is liasioning with your felow workers to the degree you know what projects are in the pipeline . This is hard , very hard i have difficulty with it as well so dont feel bad about it .
Good luck talk to your boss be polite and set forth your expectations of your work hours . Nobody can have it all , but why crave it all ? Do what is right by you , your goals of home , family life and work .
2007-09-10 01:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back when I had to work the corporate he77, I once had this same boss. This was back when I was a single Mom raising 2 kids, one with very serious health concerns, and the other with a developmental disability. I was the employee that always had to take off. I didn't qualify for health coverage for work at the time, nor did I qualify for welfare or medicare. Apparently, 15K a year is plenty to raise a family of 3 on. I had to work my *** off. No college education, nothing, just me. I got to work on time and I left right on time. I had kids to pick up from the after school daycare. I had no support system, no one to help me. Period. I had constant visits to the free clinic which would average a 6 hour wait for substandard medical care.
This boss I had wanted to make it impossible for me. I took that self righteous biotch right through the ringer. Filed an FMLA for both of my kids to allow me time off AS NEEDED to see to the needs of my children. She was shocked when H.R. told her to back OFF. No other bosses EVER had a problem with me or my work ethic. When I was there I got my work done and left. Work was work and home was home. Even with all the time off I got my work done and then some. I was pleasant and couteous and did not bring my problems to work. When I left that company they made 3 offers to keep me.
As a 'boss lady' myself I find I am empathetic as long as my employees are giving 100% @ work. If I need overtime I usually ask the people who regularly ask for it. Contrary to your boss WORK is not my LIFE and I mange to keep balance.
And yes, I believe there can be crabby old bitty bosses out there and I hated them, male or female! I often thought of peeing in their coffee! Mostly, I dealt with them as professionally as possible and kept my ears open for jobs or projects starting in other departments. Know that she will not be in your life forever and for the time being do what is best for YOU.
2007-09-10 01:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by bijou 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If I were your boss -- regardless of marital status -- I couldn't wait for you to quit. You have a lousy attitude. Why don't you just learn to be professional -- evaluate your workload and do the bloody job instead of moaning and complaining and lookijng for reasons not to perform.
2007-09-10 01:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa H 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Spinster is not an insult.. it is a term to explain that a woman has chosen to live alone.. nothing more!
So much for private education...
To answer the question - Buy her a dildo and batteries, and pray she comes in the next day smiling...
2007-09-10 00:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 7⤋