how can i do something with my life?

Question

hi, lately i've been looking inside myself and it has occured to me that my quality of life is really low. i don't take care of myself, physically or mentally. i'm 15 and in high school so you could imagine that this sort of thing is normal. the thing is, i don't feel like living this droll anymore. usually i come home from school after moseying through the day half-awake, barely passing my classes, and start playing halo 2. my parents always ask if i have homework and even if i do i say no and do it way later or not at all. the only time i leave my room is to eat dinner or use the restroom. after that i go to bed at 11 pm, and sneak on to the computer and surf till god knows when, even on school nights. right now i am doing so. my life basically consists of eating junk food, sleeping 5 hours a night, and playing halo 2. im not a "geek/nerd" by any means which is most likely why i have a problem with this lifestyle. someone help to steer me in the right direction.

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this has been something of a cycle in my life. for about....3 weeks heh i wasn't like this. then i got an xbox 360. don't get me wrong i love it....i just don't know how to do any thing in moderation. i have no drive which is really the biggest problem. i know what i must do, i just need the kick to do it.

Answer 1

you are very aware of what you have to do in your life to make it better. You have to put forth the effort to make positive changes. You can do It! Plan the work, Work the plan!

Answer 2

You want to make the change so now you have to find a plan. Make some goals, write down at such and such a time you will do this or you will do that . Even give yourself a certain time you can be on the computer and use a timer . When the bell rings, you are off and do other things. It's all about scheduling. Even a brisk walk and good eating habits are essential to your well being. It may also be the reason you are feeling lousy. Fresh air and sunshine are all important for growth too. Look to finding some afterschool activities or a part time job. Do you have a friend that could help you with your check list? If not, have your parents help. You have already made the first step in making a diagnosis and know that you want to change.

Answer 3

It's great that you are realizing you need to do something because there is so much more out there than Halo 2. In fact if you are really serious about changing your behavior, get rid of the temptation. Sell your game and maybe even your system. That may be a little on the extreme side for you though but it sure would help. The best way to start out would probably be to join some group at school. This would give you a reason to stay away from the computer. Also you could try picking up a hobby (Mine is building electric trains). The hardest part is going to be taking that first step. Do it man! We are all cheering for you! Good Luck.

Answer 4

Buddhism (Zen) can help you find moderation. I have some of the same characteristics & I've beaten smoking & last year I quit drinking after 6-8 years abuse.

At 15yo, many/most of your problems will go away in time.

BTW - when I was 22yo, I was playing Elite 18 hours per day http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elite_%28computer_game%29

Unfortunately, all that annoying advice/nagging from your parents is pretty good idea - get your homework done first, then go out & do stuff outside with friends, etc.

Right now I have Quake 4 & Final Fantasy 11 on Xbox 360. But I don't play more than 1 hour per day. Oh - and I've been on a diet for the last 20 years, thanks to junk food.

I'm 44yo & single - don't be ME !

Answer 5

So why do you think you feel the way you do? Video games can suck the life out of your life, I know. However, if there were no video games, would you feel any different? As lame as it sounds, you might consider getting out and getting some excercise. Or work out. That will help energize you a bit, though you'll be tired at first. I'm a bit of a recluse myself, I'm not entirely fed up with life, I just like chillin. Then I'll get tired of it and change gears and get out more. If you have a couple of tight friends, going out is a great option. I used to go to shows a lot when I was younger to check out local bands and I also played in bands so that got me out and about all the time.

The junk food part, can be hard to stop, so I'd suggest cutting back at first. Again, I can be the same way. Just today I told myself that I need to drink WATER instead of soda more often. I'd guess you don't have a car yet. I know at 15 I was in pretty good shape cus if I wanted to go anywhere I had to skate or ride my bike. Or walk. At 15 you can eat a lot of crud and still get away with it most of the time, but if you aren't active at all, that kinda goes out the window.

Sounds like you just need some motivation. And that isn't always easy to get or have. Girls were one of my main sources of motivation at your age, heh. Hang in there, though. Fifteen can be a blast if you take advantage of the freedom you have. Things get complicated after HS for most of us. Man, I sound old now, ha. Anyway, try to take advantage of the situation, man cus its not going to last forever! There, that's some motivation. :)

Answer 6

At least you know you need to make improvements, and thats a good start. Maybe you could lend that game to a friend for a few days so you can concentrate on homework and see how it works out. It sounds like you are stuck in a rut and you just need a little push to get going. Remove the things that are distracting you from school and family, and try being totally different just for a week. Think of it as a project. At the end of the week I'm sure you will feel much more satisfied and have the motivation to keep going.

Answer 7

Not taking care of yourself, as well as not getting enough sleep are 2 signs of depression, however, your self awareness is remarkable for your age. Knowing what is holding you back is the foundation to pushing forward. Excessive video game play, as well as time on the internet, will usually lead to antisocial behavior, as well as low self image and the feeling of isolation.

As someone stated, get out and ride a bike, play some football, or even pick up a small part time job. Keep yourself occupied with activities that include others, even if the people surrounding you aren't "friends". It'll help build the social qualities that you'll need as an adult, and it'll expose you to other developmental experiences that you'll need.

The key is to start small. Think of your problem as a mountain, then break the mountain into individual boulders. Each boulder should be a small goal, such as reducing Halo time, then limiting internet time, then working out, or hanging with friends, doing homework, ect. Little by little, work your way out of it, as it'll be easier to rationalize and will develop your self dicipline.

Hang in there. You seem like a bright kid, and I'm sure you'll be up to speed living the enjoyable life you deserve.

Answer 8

Well, at least you know that there IS a problem! It sounds to me like you already know what to do. Get off this computer right now, go to bed, wake up in the morning and go to school and start interfacing with real people (who only exist only in a very virtual form on halo2)--do this and start taking better care of yourself and your priorities and you'll find an actual feeling of control and accomplishment--you might actually learn a thing or two during all that time that you normally just waste at school.

As for the right "kick"--that'll come later--when you wind up repeating your present grade.

Answer 9

I understand where your coming from. My suggestion to you would be to find some type of after school activity. volunteer work would be nice, by helping others you will feel better about yourself, your parents will be proud of you, and you will gain more energy.

You can start by contacting your local city hall and see if there is any volunteer work available. I think you will find it to be very rewarding, and looks great on a college application. Also try to cut down on the junk food all that sugar is not good for your health or your mind...Best Wishes!

Answer 10

first thing you need to know is that the good thing's of life never ever will fly into your lap. it take's alot of effort to write in journal honestly make a game plan of the thing's you sincerely want to change and to make a list of the thing's that u want to accomplish.
when you do that you have to make the effort to take step's to these goal's. it's not just you or teen's it's not just adult's who have to do this it's everybody.
you have to look at your self which you have now begun to do which is an awesome step in the right direction, people who look at them selfves and who can admit there's a problem and are willing to take step's to change is someone who think's they are worth the while.
but this is what you need to do. this advice above.

so yes right down a schedule for your everyday thing's like sleep. and keep a journal on line or off so, that you can have a hard copy of your progress. it help's to know where your going with the goal's mapped out instead of having them all jumbled up in your


seeing the step's that you have accomplish even day to day will help your self esteem. getting a bit of esteem will help give you motivation to continue on.

good luck

Answer 11

Right now get out a piece of paper and write down everything you want to change for the better in your life.

Write a sheadule for tommorow stick to it. Sorry Im short on time so I'll have to leave this answer short.