K well I might help for you guys to know I am 17 and that I've had these wierd feelings for three years.
2007-09-09 16:16:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry guys I am a 17 year old girl should have said lesbian instead of gay. Does it make a differance?
2007-09-09 20:21:16 · update #1
Just accept it and move on. So what if you are gay? Does that make you a bad person? NO. There's nothing wrong with being gay.
And by the way, I had a similar problem, but once I accepted the fact that I'm gay, I became MUCH less confused and MUCH more happy.
Good luck!
EDIT:
And don't listen to victor down there. You can be a child of God and be gay. I know I am. I love God tremendously and I pray constantly. God has accepted me into his Kingdom because I feel him in my soul every day. So don't think that just because you are gay means that you're doomed to hell. God is our Savior. He is there for those whom he has chosen to become saved.
2007-09-09 16:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by GOTHIC TARA J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like for three years you pretty much have owned the situation. Now you have feelings for people of the same gender and do not really find the opposite gender attractive. Can you remember the first time you became attracted to a person of the same gender. Was it from a look, a touch, hug even. Something effected you to become attracted to the same gender. You did not just wake up and find yourself attracted to the same gender. It helps if you can remember the first time and what effected you to become attracted. Once you own that you can decide if you choose to continue to be attracted to the same gender. It may take a while to reverse the decision you have made, and it may even make you feel bisexual for a while after finding an interest in guys, or allowing yourself to become attracted to guys as well. It is about choices. No feeling can be that over whelming . You may feel all alone and not know how to approach another women, but if you are lucky enough to live in a larger city they often have groups for teenage kids with homosexual feelings. If you live in a small town, well you may carry these feeling a long while until you are able to introduce yourself to actual intimacy with another of the same gender. But it is a choice, and you can continue to build upon your feelings you have already formed or make changes while you are still in the beginning stages. You can email me any time, good luck.
2007-09-10 00:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not gay but i would say that if these feelings continue try actually dating a guy or three and if its no good kick the feelings to the curb i guess and if it works out and you're attracted to women still then i guess you can be a bi. Try talking to someone that this has happend to.
Good Luck!!
- Angelina- Anastasia
2007-09-09 16:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by ~ Michelle luvs Mindfreak!!~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings aren't weird. They are honest and good. Confusing? maybe. Startling? Maybe...
I recommend that you find a GBLT center in your area. In many big cities, they have a place especially for teenagers. (For example, In Seattle there is a great place called Lambert House)
There you will find other teens trying to figure out their identities in a safe and nurturing environment. Often, there are on-site counselors to help out with any deep questions and concerns. And the best part is being able to mingle with kids your own age going through the same challenges.
Good luck, friend!
2007-09-09 16:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
against popular thought, you are not born gay- it is a choice that you make. God designed man for woman and vice-verse. This may be hard because you have had all of these consuming thoughts and feelings that probably have been really hard to deal with. Fears of what people would think if they knew and fears about your future. The truth is that in today's culture- people being exposed to so much at such young ages- every boy questions his sexuality at one time in his life- as do most girls. Your response to this questioning is what opens or closes the door to such feelings and thoughts.
Your answer lies with the one who created you. He has been setting people free from homosexual thoughts and lifestyles for years and years and he will do it for you if you ask him. Not that it will be easy, or immediate, but He can set you free.
Check it out:
http://home.messiah.edu/~chase/h/testimon/jeffjohn.htm
http://www.leaderu.com/stonewall/pages/chuck_m.html
http://www.newhope123.org/
http://www.godswork.org/testimony95.htm
So don't read them all if you don't want to- I know links are sometimes annoying. But seriously- this is a really huge thing and God can help you find the right track to go on for your life. God loves you and wants to help. Feel free to email me if you have questions or think I am nuts.
2007-09-09 18:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ledreru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*Blink* "Lost?" What do you mean?
You would know better than anyone on a Yahoo forum where your attractions lay.
If you realize you're gay, it complicates things for you, I'll say that. But keep breathing and take things one at a time. What specifically are you concerned with right now? Who to tell? How to find someone? Long-term plans?
2007-09-09 16:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian, I guess the first thing I need to know is do you go to church. If not find one with alot of young people your age and celebrate life, serve Jesus Christ, he is the one who died on a cross for you, gave his life for you, if you accept him as your personal saviour he will be with you and give you the strength to make the right decisions about all the questions and concerns you have going on in your life, Jesus loves you and me, he died for our sins, don't let him die in vain for you, being gay is a terrible sin against God, think about it, the bible called them sodomites, thats not very flattering is it, it was a sin going against Gods creation, don't head down a path like that, find a church, talk to a pastor, don't be afraid to talk to someone, if you believe in Jesus I can help you get started afresh and new right now, all sins washed away by the blood of Jesus on the cross, just say this simple prayer, Dear Jesus, I just ask you right now to come into my heart and save me. I believe you are the son of God and that you came to earth to die on a cross as a perfect sacrifice for my sins, I believe you rose from the grave the third day to wash away my sins, I confess and admit right now that I am a sinner in need of a Saviour, I Pray this believing in myJesus'name,Amen. If you said this Prayer with a sincere heart believing you now have been born again into the Kingdom of God. Praise the Lord, now get a Bible and start reading, find a Church and start praising God with other believers. If you have any ?? just send me an email. Its a great day in the Lord, Amen, I look forward to hearing of your transformation, at 17 I was having a blast, enjoying life and being a Christian, don't let people tell you Christians are boring or they don't have any fun, I hear that alot, they just have not experienced the transforming power of the Holy Spirit that comes to live inside you when you get saved, its so hard to put into words, I will let you try, good luck again and may God richly Bless YOU!!!
2007-09-09 16:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you always been solely romantically and sexually attracted to other guys? If so, then you're gay. If you're attracted that way to both guys and girls, then you're bi.
What do you do? Find someone that makes you happy, be it a guy or girl, and just follow your heart.
2007-09-09 16:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by goldenrose82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know. If you like women too, then you could be bi, or just bicurious.
2007-09-09 16:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go find a girl.
2007-09-09 16:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 8⤋