ok..long story short i work in a small office and recently got caught up in some gossip. I usually try to stray away from joining in but i did and ended up hurting a co-workers feelings. I admitted to what i did and apologized to her face. THe whole thing got spread around and my boss got involved. I sent an e-mail friday apologizing to my boss and she will get it tomorrow. I am about to have an anxiety attack about the whole things and am so nervous about going to work tomorrow. any advice on how to calm down or make things right. i have already apologized, what else can i do? i admitted my part in the situation..am i over thinking this?
2007-09-09 15:28:09 · 8 answers · asked by countrygirl28 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Next time I'd try to deny everything. It sounds like tomorrow you're going to be at the center of a feeding frenzy. If you act like you don't care it probably won't be as bad. Better to just chalk this one up to experience. Next time don't send any emails, especially on Friday. You're just setting yourself up to sweat and besides, the less tangible that you maintain this type of thing the better. Now put on your best game face for tomorrow and don't let these jerks get to you. You'll do okay.
2007-09-09 19:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Brain-wave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. What's the worse that can happen? You certainly are not going to get fired over that, especially if it hasn't been an issue before, but if you are afraid you are going to get admonished, then be prepared. If this comes up again, say something like,
"I know what I did was wrong, I have learned a valuable lesson. You can be assured that I will not be involved in any future issues that may affect the work habits of myself or my fellow co-workers."
Do not get defensive or try to explain away your actions. Just accept it, be honest, and don't get caught up in the office drama again.
Good luck!!!
2007-09-09 15:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Zandia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is take a bath and while you are in there you need to think about the whole situation. Why are you so worried about it? You said you are sorry and that is all that matters. There is nothing else you can do. Calm down and just think about how you are gonna handle it tomorrow. Grow comfortable with the situation. Hope I could help.
2007-09-09 16:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't.
You have learned that there are consequences with this action. You had a negative affect on someone's life. Until you understand your motivation for doing this, you will likely do it again.
While you experience regret after the fact, at the time, you didn't see anything wrong with your actions. It may be a costly lesson if you are disciplined.
You have now affected your credibility and the trust that others will have. For what? A social conversation with someone else about a coworker.
Your future may be affected. You may not be trusted and any promotions may be closed to you. Your actions may even be seen to constitute bullying and harrassment and may even be grounds for a lawsuit against you or your employer. Although you didn't mention the nature of the gossip.
2007-09-09 15:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by guru 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did what needed to be done.. and did it the right way.. I would not fret over it .. we all make mistakes and just you writing this shows you truly are sorry... Go to work and talk to your boss, I am sure it will be ok.. and it will all pass soon..
As long as the person is ok with your apology.. you should have no worries.. and I am sure they appreciated it.. Get a good nights sleep and Monday will be just fine.. Good Luck
2007-09-09 15:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rebel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are over thinking !!!
as some people already said
you know you did something bad
you apologized
and you did you are doing what you think its the best !!
so don't worry !!
everything will be fine !!
I can tell you are a good person !!
and that is the most important !!!
and after all you did
people will realize you are !!!
so !!
don't worry !!
things go good for good people !!
2007-09-09 16:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some might think you foolish, I think its the right thing to do. And remember to stare everyone in the face and tell them that you've sworn off gossipping forever. And mean it.
2007-09-09 16:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax,, Don't worry about a thing , just leave it in Gods hands he can fix anything ,, all you got to do is just relax , and give it to god ,, the hard part is the relaxing part , but thats the important part , give it to God and then go visit him in your dreams , he'll tell you all about it ,, you probably won't remember it but you'll see him , he'll fix it ,,, Relax
2007-09-09 15:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋