Question regarding Suicide?

Question

I got a call about a half hour ago regarding a cousin who committed suicide yesterday.

What causes them to get that lonely? Or drives them to do such a thing when they know they have options? Suicide hot-lines, checking themselves into a mental health facility, calling family members or friends. This is the third time, that I know of that a relative has done such a thing. All cousins. I mean this was a cousin who was to attend a family reunion this week, with hundreds of other family members. A reunion of which I could not attend, and my presence had no significance. So what is it about this that I can't grasp or fail to understand? Cause right now, I feel numb over the whole thing, and trying to understand.

Would like to know your thoughts, or ideas.

Thank you in advance for your thoughts, kind words, and prayers.

And for those of you who are thinking of doing this yourselves... just please call and get help.

Depression may have been a factor in her decision to kill herself. But so was the fact that she had a controlling parnter. NO ONE should control a parnter as he has done, and many others do. Especially if you tell them you love them, but never trust them. Abuse in any way, shape or form is unacceptable. And it is also another topic for dicussion.

I still think myself, that she should have left him, and not worried about what he was going to do without her, and went home closer to family where she wanted to be. Situation and issue resolved for everyone concerned.

This way, she has left all of them wondering, and especially her family. Because they were the last people she talked to the day of, and the hours of her doing this.

Answer 1

I had a close friend that committed suicide six days ago. I try for 1,000,000 times to understand or just touch the psychology of that person; I had the chance to be with him 2 hours before his jump the roof of a 12 floor building. He was completely happy and didn’t show anything disturbing the time I was with him after the police repots and had a talk with people that saw him last it come up that this suicide form, is planed maybe days or more they have the ability to hide it. every time that I think about it, I get the conclusion that a normal person will never do such thing only a mentally unstable one can go throe this and hide emotions and god know what.
A friendly advice do not think or try to understand "why?" "How?" I have now depression and got known’s when I will start to feel right again. Only sure thing is that life continues and we need to move on.
Or you can just ignore me I was asking a Question an hour ago and look at me now I’m giving answer's.

Answer 2

Inkster7 said it exactly how it is.

I have bipolar disorder, a very severe mood disorder. I have attempted suicide many times, and been close to attempting it many more times. The agony of such a depression is unspeakable, the level of having everyone in your family die horribly and it is somehow all your fault - it's that intense of an emotional pain. And it goes ON AND ON AND ON and crying doesn't help. You never get numb to the pain. You think no one understands. It is too hard to get help, and you're sure it won't work anyway. You don't even realize it is depression, you think you are sad like that because your neighbor was mean to you, or your cat died, or you couldn't get your essay done on time so you flunked a class. But that isn't the reason - it is the depression.

Your cousin died from depression. If there is that much suicide in your family, be aware that depression & bipolar disorder are genetic, and keep an eye on yourself and other relatives.

All the best to you. I hope some of the answers people have given are helpful. I get ticked off when people say how suicide is selfish, they have no idea how painful that depression can be and how hopeless the situation seems to the depressed individual. A few people suicide to take revenge on others, but I dont' think that is very common.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. I have had the experience also of losing someone to suicide at age 16. I remember my mom saying "why would someone with such a wonderful smile, do such a tragic thing". I myself felt very suicidal twice in the past and both times I was suffering from a severe clinical depression. Anyone who commits suicide in my opinion is suffering from mental illness. I say this because when the depression lifts I look back and think how could I even have thought such a thing, but your thoughts get very distorted. some people when they've made up their minds to die have a sense of relief, and it's hard for others to comprehend. If you can look at your cousin having a serious illness and died because of that. Suicide is the result of a fatal thought pattern, just as much as cancer is the results of bad cells multiplying. The only other insight I can give is when a person is in that mind frame, no solution is there. Hot lines, etc. a person feels, "ah but that won't work for me". You and all who have experienced the suicide of a loved one, are in my prayers. Let's all reach out even with a smile to a stranger, it may save a life. God bless you.

Answer 4

The truly tragic thing is that in many cases suicidal people can be helped medically. Often a brain chemical imbalance causes enough mental instability to lead to suicide, and such imbalances can often be treated very successfully with drugs. Such a chemical cause and solution seems very likely in cases where suicide seems to run in the family.

The only other thing that I would add is, if something is so bad that it leads you to contemplate suicide, then surely even the next-worse case scenario cannot be as bad as killing your self. For example if you are contemplating suicide because you have a gambling addiction, maybe fessing up your problem, going bankrupt, ending your marriage or whatever else it takes to deal with the problem is not as bad as killing yourself. In a few years time, you will be past all this and very glad that you didn't do something stupid.

Answer 5

Because they try to explain their problems to people but they don't feel that they understand how much it is hurting them. That is what causes them to feel so lonely. They feel like they are going through it all alone. It hurts a lot. I have experienced it many times. But I feel that suicide is selfish to those who love you. Absolutely nothing against your family members or anything I'm sure they felt they had no other way to go. I understand completely and I pray that it doesn't happen again. I know that it is really hard to deal with suicide in a family. You start to think that it's your fault because you weren't there to help them. If it gets bad enough, no one can help them...I hope your family isn't taking it too bad. Hope I could help. May God be with you...

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear that. What a tragedy.
Believe it or not, some people commit suicide to punish family members. Scientific studies show that suicidal people is trying to make others feel guilty for their suicide.
Suicide once crossed my mind and I thought that by me being dead my mother would be hurt because she would miss all the hard work she used to force me to do. However, I never attempted anything because I know deep down that is not an option. My hope and faith in God helped me through that phase.
My prayers are with you and family members of the deceased.

Answer 7

People who are really going to do it don't reach out for any kind of help. They know that they are going to do it. Seeking out help is the same as saying that they are just pondering the idea and want to be talked out of it. Most of the time a suicide is a total surprise because the person has not given any clue that they were thinking of it. Unfortunately it is just an aspect of life and it happens to some people. My father was one and nobody ever knew what he was thinking but could look back and see that his previous months' actions were leading up to it.

Answer 8

There is lots of suicide in my family. My Grandma explained it to me like this when I was very young. Suicide is simply that the person no longer wants to live. You may be able to stop them once or even twice.....but if they are determined you won't be able to always be there. And sometime they will succeed. I am sorry about your cousin. However, you need to understand that he or she did not want to continue living. And we must respect that decision. Take some time tonight to remember fun memories you shared. My prayers are with you tonight.

Answer 9

properly, first, the folk who jumped from 80 flooring up certainly weren't choosing to die; dying improve into at that factor a digital inevitability, and coming near. they only chosen between one dying and yet another one. leaping improve into not greater suicide than gazing for the flames. And in a state of terror, all reason improve into in all danger suspended; in step with danger they theory there improve into some danger they had make it. (remember the thoughts of people clutching their purses or briefcases on the way down? i do no longer think that improve into fairly theory out.) purely God knows somebody's coronary heart, and that i does no longer presume to tell somebody that their relative who's committed suicide is now burning in hell-- this could be somewhat presumptuous. i've got faith suicide is a sin, and that the properly worth of a man or woman's life is purely prevalent to God. no longer even the guy who's bothered by end-point maximum cancers extremely knows what the following day brings. to decrease short their life upfront is to assume that they understand greater powerful than God. Who knows no count if the full purpose of their life comes right down to a minimum of one pivotal 2d, one that they could pass over in the event that they killed themselves?

Answer 10

Sometimes, no one can help. We need to accept that people have the right to live their lives and choose death when they believe it is the right choice for them.

Our feelings are ours to deal with whenever we encounter something like a suicide. it is selfish to insist that some prolong their suffering so that we don't have to feel unpleasant emotions.

We could blame many factors as contributing or causing suicide, however, those people decided that death was preferable to life.

I am sorry for your feelings of grief and loss. However, this is what they wanted.