My husband and I am staying in different places because of our job. This might continue for some time like another 4 months. We recently got married. He told me yesterday that i dont listen what he syas, i dont love him and this that. I got upset and angry, I said i do and why is behaving like this. We had a upsetting talk, as I was hurt by that and I guess he was upset too. Then I had to cool down again and asked why he is doing like this to me, he said he misses me so much that when he go outs he feel bad looking at other couples. I said then he should not come and talk to me like this rather he shd say he missed me. But I am upset the way he behaved or talked. I do love him, but I am not able to handle him when he behaves like this. Plz help if this is normal in marriage. How shd I handle him? Wht shd I do? I cant really leave my job noe he. We both r in very very good job and well settled in our career. What shd I do? Plz help? What shd I tell him? At the end he said he loves me.
2007-09-09 14:50:22 · 9 answers · asked by jenni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sure he loves you alot. He misses you and is having a hard time dealing with the distance he is probably trying to cope with loving someone so much that is so far away. The problem is that love is a very strong emotion I like to call it the gateway emotion because love will open gates to other emotions in a instant. The love he feels for you is running through his head with jealousy of other couples. It is being manifested into an anger that he has towards your situation not you. I think the best thing to do would be that if you all truely love each other you should find any possible way to be closer. Yes this is normal with married couples especially if you are newly weds you want to have the perfect image of marrige and its hard coming to terms with the fact that there is no such thing. People are raised there hole lives picturing how a marrige is supose to be then when it happens and its not how you picture it, it can be very upsetting and guys first recation to alot of things is anger dont hold it against him. Forgive him because he only misses you. I hope I helped and god bless!
2007-09-09 15:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tim H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you experiencing pressure proper now? Have you each taken a excursion that lasted greater than 7 days? Maybe should you difference the atmosphere and secure slightly extra it could support. Also, be mindful that no longer each and every lady reports orgasms. Is your husband lengthy at the foreplay previous to intercourse. Are you a visible, verbal, or contact sexual character? You must begin performing some critical self exam of the feasible reason. Did you continuously "no longer believe well" whilst you're making love along with your husband.. which means from the commencing of your marriage in combination.. how used to be your sexual revel in? if no? Then Why? if sure, then what occasion converted in the course of the path of your marriage? Do you've a healthful view of intercourse inside a wedding? Are there any occasions that can be inflicting you strain.. (loved ones chores, youngsters, monetary, unresolved beyond problems, occupational/paintings comparable, unfullfilled demands, and so on.)? How ancient are? Are you going by way of any harmonal alterations? Could you be handling a few wellness problems? Do you believe worn out and is your brain wandering whilst your making love? Do you've a issues focusing your concentration? These are one of the crucial questions you must discover. Start there.. and you can also uncover it handy to search counseling. Always pleased to support any one who is desirous about preserving their marriage healthful, robust and intact. Marriage is a Blessing!
2016-09-05 08:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by edge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole reason for your anxiety and despair is your jobs. Until you two are together again forever, try to be more understanding of each other and don't lash out. Talk every day at least once a day and talk about the future together. Start making plans for the future. Four months is not that long, really. You 2 can do this. See each other every other weekend. If your jobs are worth keeping you apart, you should be able to afford a plane ticket twice a month.
2007-09-09 14:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a light at the end of the tunnel in that you'll be home in 4 months.
I was in the same situation that you are in, working 3 hours away and living apart during the work week. From my experience, you need to get into counseling now. Do not wait until things get worse. I waited too long, and it has destroyed our marriage. I hope you can learn from my own experience, and do what I wished I could have done. We got to counseling too late, and the marriage is not salvageable.
2007-09-09 14:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like frustration on both sides, being separated from eachother for long periods of time. I agree with you that instead of being angry and having bad things to say is not a good way to start off a marriage. I would say that there is some insercurity in your relationship at this early time and you both need to stay cool and calm and reasure eachother of your love for one another. By the way your question reads it seems your husband is the more insecure one, so you'll have to be the cool headed one and say alot of sweet things to him when you do speak over long distances and how you two will be when you see eachother. I'm sure it will put him at ease. Men are like boys and need to be nutured sometimes. See if that helps to ease him.
2007-09-09 15:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by benzeir1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage is in trouble, and it isn't going to last long unless you two put your marriage ahead of your careers and start building a life together. When he says he's looking at other couples, I think he's really saying he's tempted to go out with other women. If you want to stay married, you have to live like married people.
2007-09-09 14:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an immature child. Make sure when you finally move back together you have a high chair and crib ready for him.
He sounds very needy and high maintenance. I predict you will be burned out by him within 3 years.
2007-09-09 15:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its just because you guys are separated he wants you to be with his wife ! go to him girl ! you might end up losing him in the end love cant wait too important even for a job -sorry but good luck !
2007-09-09 15:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by miimmii_llynnn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's HORNY. And it's interfering with his brain. He's acting like an idiot, but we guys act like that when we get horny.
You really need to find some time to be together, and everything will be OK.
He LOVES you, he just misses you!
Now go take care of business. ;-)
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2007-09-09 15:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋