Like just got divorce and she was the one that left him and last night a kind of made out with him. I just talked to him and everything seemed fine. I do think that this is a very slipper road I'm walk on. What should I do? I can't help that I like him. Believe me I have tried really hard to stop.
2007-09-09 14:47:58 · 16 answers · asked by lex83201 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just take your time, there is no reason why you have to rush things.
Keep your eyes open and enjoy his company, maybe you have a good thing going. But just in case, watch what you are doing so you do not get caught up in his rebound.
2007-09-09 14:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a tough question. I just got divorced and can tell ya that I am in no emotional state to have a relationship with a woman. My ex left me I felt destroyed lost and at first was looking for any one to make me feel better about me. The loss of that bond that i had with my wife left me feeling empty. And I would have used anyone to fill that. I did finally realize that it wouldn't be fair to the other person or myself. You can stop how you feel but know that this will probably not last. And in the end he will hurt you and you will be left feeling used. Good luck.
2007-09-09 22:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by fire509 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would do very well to step back and take this very, very slow. Someone fresh through divorce is not a good risk for romantic relationship, especially if there are kids involved.
He has been through a good bit of turbulence and things may not have settled out enough to be able to count on a permanent relationship. There is a high potential for people to be hurt. Good luck in your decision.
2007-09-09 22:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by ozzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be the first girl to date this guy. You'll be the rebound girlfriend, and it won't last. So what if you like him? Do you have to date every guy you like? That makes as much sense as marrying every guy you date. Run, don't walk away from him. He needs time to heal from his divorce. Divorce is a tragedy, and the grieving process can take a long time. You're just going to end up hurt if you try to date him.
2007-09-09 21:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try harder to stop. He is not ready for a relationship with another woman. If he has a relationship with you, you will be consider the rebound chick and we all know about the rebound chick. His wife left him, that is a lot for a man to deal with. His ego is bruised. Most men usually run through a lot of women to make themselves feel good, but they will not feel better until they get their wife/girl back.
2007-09-09 21:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you that dumb or desparate? You cant find any one else, anyone....
YOu havent tried hard enough, dont you love yourself to move past this guy. Just so you know when his ex wife wants casual sex he will go but you will never know and the likely chance you will catch some disease is high. If you knew anything about divorces and when his ex wife finds out about you believe she will want to make her mark. So goodluck to you b/c you have nothing but a world of crap coming your way.
2007-09-09 21:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't help it if you like him.... but the first one one meets out of a marriage is called " the bridge"... so that is what you will be. Now you gotta decide if you wish to waste your time... and, it is as well "the rebound...." Are you ready for a relationship? Because this one isn't, or if this one thinks that he is, he's seriously, but honestly mistaken...
And this ain't nuttin' you don't already know, I'm sure.
2007-09-09 21:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long were they married? Do they have kids? Are they on speaking terms? It's slippery- what if she decides she wants him back- do you think he would go back? People need a long break just from dating relationships. Marriage is so much more serious. I think people need to wait about a year before they consider getting into another relationship after marriage.
2007-09-09 21:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by RSJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he ask you to marry him or something?
Just take things slow. There's no harm in dating someone who is recently divorced. Just don't jump into a marriage or anything with him yet.
2007-09-09 21:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be his friend, but be careful about being his lover. Like theone said, he's on the rebound. Also, she left him for a reason and the reason he tells you may not be the truth.
2007-09-09 21:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋