Okay, me and my fiance have been together for almost 5 years. During part of that time, it was a long distance relationship. During that time, he asked other girls out on dates. They declined, but had they said yes, they would have gone out. I was under the assumption that we were exclusive, I never said otherwise, and I called him my b/f and we told each other we were in love with the other. He says he didn't consider us being exclusive at that time. But he never told me that! I'm upset that he doesn't see anything wrong with that. He says now that we're engaged to be married, marriage is sacred to him and he would never attempt to be with anyone else. But I told him, what if later down the road he decides not to be exclusive anymore? Am I right or wrong to be upset? also, others have told me that he went out on a date with someone else after I moved here and the long distance part was over. I disregarded it b/c he said he never did anything after I moved here, but now i'm not so sure
2007-09-09 14:36:11 · 3 answers · asked by BlackDahlia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
uhhh, that is definitely cheating in my eyes... yikes....... i would reconsider your future with him just because of his own "view" of that event...it could be dangerous to your future so just be careful.... you have 100% right to be upset and mad, i would be too.
2007-09-09 15:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by luvluv_86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider it cheating, but I guess that's just me. However, I would hold off on the marriage plans for a while. You need to be sure of his feelings for you and you need to get yourself to a place where you can, or cannot, trust him for sure. You can't go into a marriage wondering. That's not good for anyone. You really need to find out all the answers to your questions, and at that point, if you are still wondering then you know that you can't go any further. After 5 yrs. do the words, "We're exclusive" really have to be spoken? That was uncalled for on his part. I'm not so sure his heart is in it, hun.
Please be cautious!
Good Luck!
2007-09-09 14:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to be upset. He explained the way he felt then and the way he feels now.
2007-09-09 14:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋