So me and my girlfriend have been together for about 4 months.. I live about 40 minutes away from her, about to get a job in the same town as her and everything. It's not long distance, easily driveable.. she works nights, I work days. I see her on weekends, and as much as possible.
Well tonight I asked her to dinner.. and she said "I don't know... no more until you are moving down here.." and I go, "what does that mean?" And she says.. "Oh, Nothing." So I press the issue and she goes, "I just want you to move down here faster.. did it work?" The job starts in a month or two.. nothing else I can do really.. and I really like this girl A LOT.. what do I do now??
She said, "I know we can work it out.. I just want you here, now & forever with me.."
2007-09-09 14:17:11 · 8 answers · asked by aa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I commute an hour to work and an hour back every day. My job is exactly 38 miles from my house. If you are ready to take the plunge and you are changing jobs anyway, why not move now and travel back and forth to your job for a couple of months until you change jobs? It may cost a little in gas but you might find out you DON'T want to move after all.
2007-09-09 14:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am missing something. What do you mean: nothing else I can do? You are getting a job in one or two months in the same city as this girl. Why not move there now, so she'll be happy. If it's 40 minutes away, it's also 40 minutes the other way if you have to go back at some time. Is it that you do not want to move at all?
Is she going to continue working nights forever?
Does she want you to move in with her? That is another question. Don't, if there's any way to avoid that. Statistics show that those relationships have a much poorer chance of surviving. It may seem odd, but think this way: all the time you are shacking up, there is no commitment and you can pick up your stereo or whatever any time and move out.
2007-09-09 21:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she was just trying to let you know that she wants you to move down there. Assure her that you are moving down there and after that you'll be together forever like she wants. She should understand that you can't just move two months early and not have a job - but remind her of that. Hopefully the two months will go by quick and then it will be great. Until then, try to do little things for her... or start talking about when you'll be there like plans and where you'll live...
2007-09-09 21:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can wait. What is 2 months versus 2 years or 20?
It's a blink of the eye. If she can't wait for you two months, then perhaps she wasn't meant to. If she leave you AS you make the move to come down....then she's not worth it. Lewt this be one of those "mini-tests" every relationship has to go through.
2007-09-09 21:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games with you and that is no way to be in a relationship. You have only been together 4 mos. and frankly I'm surprised you're changing jobs for a girl you "really like". I would slow this down now. Otherwise you will find she will always be trying to control you.
2007-09-09 21:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u move now how r u going 2 pay ur bills if she really wants 2 b with u she will wait a couple of months tell her not b petty
2007-09-09 21:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds impatient!! If you're not working now can you move now? If you are working now I guess you have to wait until you are between jobs.
2007-09-09 21:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your a gone She parable has other guys.
2007-09-09 21:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋