I'm not a loud outgoing person or anything like that if that's what it sounds like. i'm sort of shy. anyhow, i'm really pretty, i've been told that tons of times (especially since i've lost weight) "gorgeous" "beautiful" etc....all of those compliments have gone to my head and now i'm always thinking about how pretty i am. i know, i know! i cant help it, though, that's my problem. i dont want to be like this even though no one know i am. i just dont want it to go so far as to me saying it outloud, you know? can someone help me?
2007-09-09 14:02:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Remember beauty is only skin deep! It is what is on the inside that really counts. How is your relationship with God?
There is nothing wrong with being pretty or even recognizing you are pretty, but there is a problem when we dwell on the physical world.
We are to be "IN the world not OF the world." When people get hung up on looks it is very sad when something happens to the beauty as the time passes and all their life is tied up in how they look. Being vain is a hard way to go.
Try to realized that everyone is beautiful in God's eyes and it is only by God's grace that you look good now. Suppose you gained weigh again ....how would you feel? Life should not be based on how we look.
Looks are nothing if you aren't right with God. Everything in this world will pass away including your looks. Think about it!!!
2007-09-09 14:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by ruthie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like the hopla of modern society has gotten t o you head. A few things are confusing me though, how can you be outgoing and loud, but shy? thats an oxymoron. And as for other people calling you hot and gorgeous thats is societies views of people that are overly idealistic and conceited. A persons beauty is not measured by their body but by their ability to think. If you want to be less society brainwashed just take some time to realize yourself and your own wonders, and stop caring about what society wants your wonders to be.
2007-09-09 21:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by neohnecrosis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compliments can be addictive, especially if they started (or increased significantly) since you lost weight. The problem, as you seem to understand, is that you can start believing them too much and putting too much stock in them for your self-worth. Just think about this: would you and others still think of you as worthwhile if you suddenly lost your good looks? Try investing time in making yourself a better person. That means thinking of others first. Achieve that, and your vanity will magically disappear.
2007-09-09 21:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want to stop reading here, this may be upsetting.
Surround yourself with ugly people. Anyone as pretty or prettier is going to have you feeling very bad.
Pray that you find a cure to aging. Your body will sag. Line will form. Even accidents happen that could leave you hideous. If you are nothing more than your prettiness you will suffer.
Others don't care about you. They flatter you for what they want and what they can get. Likely sex is part of the equation. As soon as you look tired or old, someone else can easily replace you. I hope your tolerance for rejection and abandonment is solid.
Frankly, I feel a degree of pity for you. Your life will become worse over time. As aging progressing you will no longer be gorgeous or beautiful. You will begin to envy those who are and more so than you.
If you don't learn to overcome this you are head for great suffering.
2007-09-09 22:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by guru 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Let me tell you a secret. Most guys think that even the most beautiful woman contains half a kilo of ordure inside her. How's that for starters when you give yourself airs and graces?
2007-09-09 23:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Emory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time volunteering.
See people whose concerns have NOTHING to do with beauty, but more or less about their health, or where their next meal will come from.
You'll forget about your outward beauty and come to a fast conclusion that beauty fades, and true beauty comes from human struggle and triumph.
2007-09-09 21:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sumie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit thinking about yourself and start thinking about others.
go get a volunteer job and or help other people then you
will be even more pretty because you won't be conceited and
be sweet to your parents and siblings and everyone..
2007-09-09 21:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your focus off yourself and onto others. Help others improve their image. You will feel good and so will they without being vain.
2007-09-09 21:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Are the haters that hard on you? If so just keep it to yourself more and they will leave you alone.
2007-09-09 21:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by international_bicycle_thief 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember that looks do not last forever--but friendships can...if we don't act as though we are better than others. :)
2007-09-09 21:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋