I enjoy watching my husband having sex with other women. I allow him to do so and he can only do it when I'm there. He tells me that he loves and cares about me and we have a very secure and trusting marriage. For some reason it turns me on to watch him with another woman. Am I crazy to be this way or this normal? I'm not sure what it is, but it really turns me on.
2007-09-09 13:44:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah....I would never in a MILLION years want to watch my husband railing some other chic. I don't even like him talkin to other women!! LOL
Does that make you weird? Not necessarily. Some people are into voyeurism and are just really turned on by it. Similar to how people get turned on by watching porn, you just enjoy it live....and with your husband involved, lol.
If you are okay with this, and he is okay with it, and whatever women you are having his sleep with are okay with it, then I guess don't bother changing it.
I can't say that I think it is morally right, but it's not ME involved in any of this.
Just be careful who you choose.....never know where other people have been...
2007-09-09 14:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are far from the only one in this position and I feel there is nothing wrong with it. Many women find it very arousing seeing how their man has sex with another woman. Gives them an idea of how it looks when he does it with her. It may be a case of voyeurism on your part and/or exhibitionism on his.
Usually in these cases, the couple will have sensational sex together after the other woman has left. Sensational because he will assure her, while he is giving it to her, how much he loves her and how much she means to him, while you can reassure him that you love him and want to watch him being happy by having sex with another woman. You see that it's important that his sex with another woman does not replace what he has with you.
Do you stay dressed (do they?) and maybe participate a little, or do you just watch?
What would happen if you turned the tables and had sex with another guy in front of your man? Would he go for that? Would you?
As long as you are both on the same page, and do not have any feelings of jealousy, insecurity, etc., it seems to be perfectly ok.
You must bear in mind that there will probably come a time where this loses its attraction for either one of you and you should do well to dicuss now what you two would want to do then.
The possibility exists also that he, or you, will want to take this farther, maybe by involving more people at one time. You should think about that now, before it has become real.
I wish you luck and lots of enjoyment.
2007-09-09 14:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Wynn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I consider this normal, yes. I enjoy the same thing. We are a bit voyeuristic it seems. Every one has a fetish (or fetishes). You two love each other, you trust each other, as long as all parties are happy and consenting adults there is nothing wrong with it at all.
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Edit:
After reading some peoples responses... I would like to state that sex, and love are different things. Very different things. You can have sex with out ever feeling any emotions for the other person. And you can be in love with out ever wanting sex. You do NOT need one to have the other. Both together is wonderful, but not a necessity.
2007-09-09 15:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ayana 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You may very well accept it as normal, but there are two things that you should ask yourself: A) How would your husband feel about you boning another man, and B) What are you going to do when your husband falls for another woman that you have been ok with him sleeping with? Believe me, it's eventually going to happen and then you won't have anyone to blame except yourself.
2007-09-09 14:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
"Normal" is a relative term - what's normal to you may not be normal to someone else and vice verse. That said ...
Sweetie if it works for you and your marriage, more power to you both!
I know people who are in "open" or swinging relationships and absolutely love it, and they've been together for years.
While that's not for me, it's also not for me (Or anyone else for that matter) to judge. So blessings to you both!
Best Wishes
2007-09-09 13:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't say its well received morally, but as long as you two have a good solid relationship and can withstand any "feelings" that might get between you, as a result of this, it should be acceptable.
Enjoy. Wish my relationship was that open
2007-09-09 14:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I absolutely LOVE it too, it is so sexy and so liberating to release jealousy and to be sexually free. Been married for 20 yrs, deeply in love with each other, and I do all the arranging!
2016-09-07 17:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by tjkmp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal. Why would it turn you on to watch your spouse with another. I suppose if you are both content with this arrangement then who am I to say anything.
2007-09-09 13:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i agree I enjoy watching my hubby with other women. We have a loving and secure marriage, and have worked it out between the two of us.We have rules as to what we can do and not do.
2007-09-09 13:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't call it NORMAL that's for sure!!! I can handle watching mine masturbate but if I had to actually watch him have sex with another woman I would have to cut his ---- off! and as it is now he recently cheated on me and he's lucky he still has one and she's lucky she ain't dead!!!
2007-09-09 13:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋