no gay clothes or hair, not too obsessive about hygiene, talks like a normal guy, no sign of being gay at all. do a lot of guys go through this?
2007-09-09 13:32:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Here's what you do. Tell yourself "He's 19 and gay. Wow. Okay, now I should focus on my own life. Moving on!"
Just because he doesn't "act" or "look" gay doesn't mean he isn't. He's 19 and watching gay porn. I don't think it's a phase at this point. He knows what he wants.
2007-09-09 13:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
put the porn back where ya found it, let him talk to you when HE is comfortable about the topic
Usually by 19yo, a person has a pretty good idea if they are gay now a days. The only real choice involved is whether they feel they can be honest about it.
Hehheee and not all gay men are 'obsessed' with hygiene---unfortunately. There are gay guys in pretty much every profession and walk of life.
2007-09-09 20:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lion Jester 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, everything you mentioned (except the gay porn) are nothing but stereotypes.
If you found gay porn on his computer though, then he could be gay or bisexual.
Just ask him and be supportive of him no matter what he says.
Edit: In response to some other comments, most people have definitely gone through puberty by 19 and know who they are sexually attracted to.
2007-09-09 20:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Marco R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am a 19 yr old dude and I have gay porn in my room. I keep it for my friend, another 19 year old male who is gay. However, he does not "act" gay either. He act just like me, except he likes guys and I like girls. He is not ready to come out to his family because they are not accepting people, so I stash his stuff for him. I have even let him borrow some of my girlie mags to cover. Do you think his sister sneaks into his room, finds the strait porn and says"OMG, my brother has strait porn, what if he is strait, what do I do?" Accept your brother, reguardless, and respect his privacy by not going through his stuff. And relax! At 14, you have enough other issues going on in life, this shouldn't be one of them.
2007-09-10 00:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by whatdafuk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, LOTS of guys go through this at his age. It's just a time in life where you're trying to figure stuff out, to make sure you know who you are, etc. Leave him alone. He may totally get through this as just a curiosity thing, or he may discover down the road that he is gay or bisexual. Either way, he's your brother, the WORST thing you can do is make him upset, embarrassed, or feel bad about it. Just let it go. If HE wants to talk about it, be cool with it. He's your brother, love him and support him no matter what.
2007-09-09 20:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
lots of ppl r like this dont act look or dress gay but r
dont do anything just ask him if hes gay and u should still accept him and not judge him
and dont tell anyone till u think hes ready to come out
2007-09-09 20:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by McLovin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you found gay porn? so what. were you like going through his stuff, or what? he is the same guy he was before you found the porn. he is still your brother. just proceed as usual.
sorry, but i think you should mind your own business.
2007-09-09 20:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by waterlin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? Nothing, why does it matter? Act like you don't know, if he's ready to tell you something, he will. If not, he may not be gay at all, just experimenting or exploring other things. Whatever you do, don't judge him for something you found, that you weren't even supposed to see.
2007-09-09 20:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the way he acts doesn't have any bearing on his sexuality. However i would ask you that if he decides to come out to you be nothing but supportive. Until he decides to do that don't mention it, let him do it on his own time. Chances are this isn't a phase that's going to just go away.
2007-09-09 20:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SUPRISE! You can't always tell... However gay porn alone doesn't mean that he's gay for sure. If you've gotta know, maybe talk to him privately in a very open-minded manner and see what he says.
2007-09-09 20:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋