2007-09-09 13:17:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am 12, and My mom was visiting me cuz I was living in the USA. My dad lives in Japan.
2007-09-09 13:27:13 · update #1
And I havem't talked to m dad but i e-mail him. But I am really sad. Do you think i should be mad at my mom?
2007-09-11 13:26:00 · update #2
It's approaching thirteen years since my mother died in a car accident. In my case, I was devastated. I spent the next six years or so in varying levels of depression. I finally sought counseling. With help from the therapist and medication that I took temporarily (meds are no longer necessary), I was able to pull out of it.
Don't hesitate to seek professional help. Talking with friends is great, and you should try to surround yourself with loved ones. But I think that a qualified professional may be able to probe issues that wouldn't occur to your friends.
Best of luck in dealing with your loss.
Edit: When I responded, I didn't know your age (I was 20 when my mom died). You've been handed a raw deal at such a young age. I hope that you don't allow it to be an excuse to not be happy or to make mistakes. At the same time, it really does just take time to put things into perspective. Don't be hard on yourself. Your life has certainly changed, but I know in my case that happiness has come. Give yourself time to settle into your feelings.
And talk to someone about how you feel.
2007-09-09 13:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you could do is talk about it to a family member and just remember all the good times. It helps but no matter how long it's been since your mom's death it will hurt.
Btw when people tell you that they are sorry about your mom just say thank you. that's one thing I've had a problem with since my mom passed away.
2007-09-09 20:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Glory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can feel however you want! This is a hard time! You can go to a shrink open up to a friend or just be alone! No one can tell you how to feel right now! In about three months you can START to slowly get over it, but only taking the smallest of small baby steps!
2007-09-09 20:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by singergirl13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off I'm so sorry, my friends mom died just last year in October. anyway you don't have to feel any specific way. my friend didn't even act sad at all really, but it wasn't because she didn't like her mom or something it was because she knew her mom wouldn't want her to be sad she wanted ER to live a normal life and not let the fact that she wasn't physically with her anymore to interfere with her life and she understood that and you could completely feel so depressed or you could feel the opposite. just always be happy and again I'm sorry.
2007-09-09 20:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by xxblondebabixx=]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died 2.5 years ago. Seriously it still hurts but you have to think about the good times. She might not be here in person but she is still where it counts in your memories and your heart.
There isn't anything you can do but when the feelings sink in accept it and cry if you need to, or talk to someone you know.
Confused is normal and sometimes the feelings take awhile to sink in and sort out.
2007-09-09 20:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by wise old sage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can go on continue living your life. Its okay to mourn, but its also okay to move on. Your mother would want you to live your life, and be happy. Your not doing disrespecting her by laughing, and being w/ your friends and family and having a good time.
If your still mourning, then continue to mourn. There's no limit on how long you should mourn, and there's no timeline on when you should start to feel better. You'll come to grips with it, and you live, and be happy. if you wnat to be around family and friends cuz it'll make you feel good, then do that.
2007-09-09 20:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by cherryblossoms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no feeling that you "should" feel. You just go with what you do feel. Emotions don't always come when you think they should....trust me, I know. You can feel fine, then a year down the road it hits you , then you do the grief, rage thing. Everyone's different. You should talk to a friend or family member who you trust about it.
2007-09-09 20:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by cyndi a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different ways people handle grief. I think being confused is a normal feeling. Was it a sudden death? Have you given yourself permission to feel whatever you feel you need to heal? You can join a grief support group, you can talk to your family or a friend you trust. I just want you to know you are normal and any feelings you have are acceptable.
2007-09-09 20:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think about the nice times with her. If you have spiritual beliefs, talking to your pastor may bring some comfort. Try to do well in life, so that your Mom would have been pleased at how you turned out.
2007-09-09 20:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by buttfor2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to talk to someone. You don't know how you feel, your Mother has died. She is like you best friend, your ace in the hole. She is your everything isn't she? Wasn't she?
Get some help. Have a good night.
2007-09-09 20:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋