i'm so lost. for so long. i don't know where i belong. i feel completely lost sometimes.
i do have a bf of 6 years. he is adorable. a wonderful person, charming, interesting, a womanizer, good looking plus he loves me a lot. negative side is, i don't feel attracted to him! i love him, i get jealous, i adore his ways but just as much i sometime feel rejected by things. he said once, that he rather feels like a woman. don't judge too fast :)) he acts like a true man, everything, but just says he feels more than some other guys. he is very sensitive (is that the word in english?) he does not feel "like" a woman, but is sensitive like a woman. he likes to talk. to be adored. he gets adored a lot by girls. they feel "understood". they love him. he knows how to treat girls.
i just feel like not being with a real man sometimes. but love him. and don't want to hurt him. and don't want to destroy my relationship too! i feel like i can't rely on him sometimes. i feel like the man in the..
2007-09-09 12:56:06 · 23 answers · asked by india18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
relationship?? i don't want to be. i feel like wasting my chances sometimes. we make almost no love now. we never did much! maybe this is not unusual for americans (?) but i was quite confused about my bf when we had no sex in the very first year of relationship. no, it was not religion. it was not principles he followed. he just could not have ... with me. i felt like something is wrong and now i know it will never be much different. he is rather like the girl in the relationship. i even cheated on him. and was never happier for some time.. yes i know.. that is really bad.. but i'm a girl. i need a man by my side.. i feel bad now. i lost my heart for another man. but quit this guy. i think i should come clear abt my relationship first and then find a man to love. but.. problem is i still love my boyfriend so much. plus we just moved in together. i'd love to find out if things work better now - but i started getting sad and daydreaming about living with a new man. i want to try hard
2007-09-09 12:56:40 · update #1
but my heart is giving me a hard try. should i try some more time. and talk to my bf about this? that i miss the sparks and attraction (i know this is normal, but THIS is not normal) i just don't know what to believe, what to feel, what way to follow.. i feel lost.. do i accept this love just the way it is (miss so much, but still get that much love) or not-?
thank you :(
2007-09-09 12:57:37 · update #2
***** you gots huge problems for f*cking sitting here on the PC and typing up that big@$$ thesis on yo dumb@$$ life.
If that nyugga gots a nine-incher pippy, then youse keeps him.
Cuz' the way it sounds, he ain't hittin' that right, or he must be a dumb nyuuga with a lil 1incher.
Just keep it rollin' gurl, better nyuggas out there.
Word.
Peace out.
2007-09-09 13:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by altair_the_flyer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not sure what you mean by "womanizer"...where I come from that is NOT a good thing. Obviously you have feelings for this guy, but, are you sure it is love? It could be just a deep caring relationship, maybe you love him like a friend or brother. If you are not feeling happy being with him then maybe (as hard as it is) it is time to move on. Six years is a long time with no commitment. Maybe you two should talk about your relationship. It might be easier if you can part friends...I know it will be tough to do. Ask yourself this........Can I go on like this for another year or two...Is this what I really want for the rest of my life. Good luck to you girlie and I am sorry for the emotional ride that you are on and are about to take.
2007-09-09 13:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do love this man in some kind of caring way, but you're not in love with him. This relationship is unhealthy for you because you will never feel truly satisfied. You obviously need a strong man at your side who you can respect, and look up to. The one you are with sounds too over-emotional to be the type of man you can respect, and this is where your relationship is seriously lacking. Also, I suspect he could possibly be a closet gay since he doesn't seem overly interested in sex, and he flirts with all the girls but never thinks about being unfaithful. You need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if this guy can truly keep you happy for the rest of your life. If not, then it is better to end it sooner, so that you can both find partners who can truly make you happy.
2007-09-09 13:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are this "messed up" and if you are asking the questions and your mind is thinking what you are thinking then yes, you should let this lovely man be free.
People will find the most suitable person for themselves by the process of elimination.
Eliminate what doesn't fit, that is the human way.
From reading what you say about this man, he is lovely, you are lovely, all people are lovely.
You will find people all through your life that will come and go, stay a while, stay longer, it all doesn't really matter.
It is just what happens.
Do not concern yourself with this.
All people are equal in the eyes of God, and people just move into and out of each others lives for enrichment.
Allow this to happen, and your life will be richer for it.
Obsess about this one, or that one, and your life not be richer for the experiences.
It really is your choice.
Let everybody, including yourself be who they are.
There is no blueprint, saying men must be this, woman must be this.
Embrace all people, all similarities equally with all differences.
Blessings to you.
2007-09-09 13:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some deeper issues. Are you sure you love him or just the idea of having a man in your life? If he is not satisfying you, in every sense of the word, then you should consider leaving him and finding a man that will treat you the way you want to be treated. You say he is a womanizer, are you sure he isn't getting the loving someplace else?
2007-09-09 13:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. im going through the same thing but its only 3 1/2 years not 6. i mean really the only best way to do things is to talk it out with guy. love is a strong feeling you shouldnt leave him over it. think about it do you think your going to regert it ? will you miss him ? will you want him back when u let go ? will you have a break down when you see him with anther girlfriend ? do you want to go through this without him. or have him love flaws and all about someone. do you want to be with him forever have a family,. u can only ask yourself anf tell yourself.
2007-09-09 13:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy after all this time, and you know it probably won't be better, I think you are wasting your life. You can love someone, but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice yourself for that person. You need to tell this to him so he knows how you feel, and if he can make changes.
2007-09-09 13:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love him but hes not giving you your needs and satisfying them he might be more than just understanding women ok I know no matter who you are with and who makes you happy when you are together but you will still love him and thats ok because he understands women period and that is soo good to have but alot of times you want more and you knw what --he proly does too talk to him tell him what you want be honest and open and maybe he will open up to you too good luck
2007-09-09 13:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by miimmii_llynnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly how you feel and see if you can come up with a solution to your problems if you really love him you should give it your all before breaking up with him!!!!!!!!!!!!
after you give it your best shot then if nothing works for you just try to let him down gently and move on with someone else!
but if he cheats on you (you said he was a womanizer) than dump his butt like a hot potato!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-09 13:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥musiclover♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy, it would be unfair to stay in the relationship
because ultimately you will make him unhappy.
I think maybe you should just be very good friends, and love
other people.
2007-09-09 13:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by wise old sage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋