I'm married, but I really like the neighbor guy upstairs. We have a little "relationship" going. I've never touched him sexually, never kissed him. We hug each other but that is it. We flirt and talk about things we would LIKE to do but never can do because i'm married. I fantasize about him alot. Is it really technically CHEATiNG to do this? I think of it as just for fun, he knows it is just for fun also. We make each other horny but that is it.
2007-09-09 11:56:10 · 28 answers · asked by ~The*Sexy*Girl*Downstairs~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you act on those feelings it's cheating.
Thinking is not cheating. Flirting is not cheating. Touching his junk in any way is considered cheating.
Does that clear it up for you?
2007-09-09 12:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by BaldTom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a slippery slope that you tread on really....
if you want to justify it with being technical about it.. then no it's not cheating...
but do you really think of it as a little fun? or do you believe that had you met at different time or place, then getting each other horny wouldn't be all you were doing???
Only you can decide whats what in your marriage - good luck with it all, the husband and the man upstairs...
2007-09-09 19:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to a degree it is cheating, and you will be bound to take it to the next level. It's just a matter of time. Secondly, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? I'm sure your husband comes into contact with beautiful women. What if he fantasized, about them? Because what you are actually stating is that your HUSBAND isn't ENOUGH. So, what if you weren't enough for him? So, he fantasizes to spice it up because he has to come home to....you. How would that make you feel, to know that he thought that way of you? So, my advice to you..is to stop being selfish! And think of your husband, you know that guy..you took vows with! And if you can't then you don't deserve him and you should just spare him the pain, you are bound to cause. Because what happens in secrecy has a way of coming out into the light.
2007-09-09 19:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by rayne81 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its not full on emotional or physical cheating. But there is enough potential here for things to end up going to physical very quickly. I mean you are already touching each other even if it is a platonic way. It will soon or later result in you physically getting it on for sure. I think you had best cut this kind of behavior out if you wish to have a marriage much longer.
2007-09-09 19:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating isn't a physical thing
after all you give your heart wholly to your husband and to no other . that is monogamy .
If your husband was sneaking off next door for a few embraces with a hotty how would you feel .
If you think its not cheating tell your husband and see what he thinks after all I think his opinion on this matters a lot more than mine .
I don't think you will tell him about it because you no that its not just fun its a little bit of sexual pleasure derived from ANOTHER PARTNER>
2007-09-09 19:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well Cheating..NO BUT wrong YES..how would you feel if your husband was thinking about another woman in that way..
BUT.....................................................
You behavior is normal no matter what people here say. It has happened to each one of them here even if they pretend to be saints. We do have times when we all fantasize about some one else other then our spouses. It can be dangerous if you do not have control.
You just remember that you keep it all in your mind and DO NOT cross that line. The best way is to STOP entertaining the guy in person.
GOOD LUCK...You are perfectly acting normal right now and it has happened to all of us here...
2007-09-09 19:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy in your marriage then leave and go flirt with anyone you like, i guarantee if your husband was doing this with the girl upstairs i bet you would see it as cheating big time... the only one who should be making you horny is your husband....
2007-09-09 19:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's cheating. You don't have to cheat physically but your flirt is beyond a flirt when your discussing and fantasizing about this other guy. Why don't you flirt with your husband? Make your husband horny!!
2007-09-09 19:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
would you think it was cheating if your husband was doing the same thing huging a women and flirting talking about what they would do to each other.?? yes its cheating and it will lead up to the having sex soon. let it go now. or pay later and be back asking what you can do when getting divorced..
2007-09-09 19:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
anything u do behind your husbands back is cheating, this is the way affairs begin, doing things just for fun but eventually it ends up destroying others so grow up if u don't want to be married get a divorce if u intend on staying married stop this and distance yourself from this man.
2007-09-09 19:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋