the past 4 years of my life i have made mistakes,and i got really depressed,and i just want to forget and move on,but i want to leave all my friends behind and never speak to them again,and i dont want to be reminded of my past,and i want to forget about everyone and move far away,and leave it all behind,i have made mistakes and have learned from them,and i want to start over...i just wish it would all go away..is there a way to turn back time???
also how can i move on and not want my ex boyfriend??
is there a way to forget the bad and keep the good??
i want to make new friends and start over,and tips on how to get over my past before i start over???and how do i forget these people??????????help me please!!!!!!
2007-09-09 11:51:21 · 5 answers · asked by ☆Stephanie Nicole☆ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds like you've had it rough. You should do exactly what you said you wanted. Move to a new area or state and start fresh. Find a job or go to school and youll make new friends! Just dont dwell on the past and focus on now so you can make the right choices to get where you want to be in life. Youll need a clear mind to move on. Remeber your mistakes so you dont make them again but try not to do it to the extent where you make yourself depressed. I recently jumped up and moved away from where i was because i was messing up and unhappy. Now that im in a new state, i dont have time to think about what was because i was forced to find a new job and learn a new area. Since then ive made new friends and started living life like i wanted to.
2007-09-09 12:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to turn back time, and thinking of the painful past is only going to make it worse. Instead of wasting time wishing that you didn't do this and should've done that, just start fresh from where you're at now and go on from there. You can't forget, because in one point or another, those memories are going to come back, everyone makes mistakes, it's important that you learn from them, but when you do learn from them, take that knowledge and move on. If it helps, maybe you should try moving somewhere else away from your past. Make new friends, do something you love doing, volunteer, etc. to get the past out of your head.
2007-09-09 19:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by justkeepswimming 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear Stephanie let me star by saying welcome to life. You learn from your mistakes, is not possible to turn back on time and fix whatever is that is bothering you now. What's possible is to start over again. Every day is a new opportunity to do things right. We all make mistakes but is more difficult to recognize it and to try to move on. Sense you already has done this, you could say you half way done. Don't be so hard on your self. First thing you have to do now is forgive your self and understand that you're human. You choose who's your friend from now on. The past is gone, tomorrow the sun will shine and so will you. God bless you dear.
2007-09-09 19:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Calypsso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we need to actually block certain memories from our minds to move on--I know that I did after a bad, seven-year marriage some years ago.
There are books in the library regarding topics such as how to survive the loss of a love (which could apply to a friend, lover, relative--or anyone (or incident) you are trying to forget about).
Not knowing your age, it's impossible to suggest moving to another city/town, etc. However, you could join clubs or take classes in which you have true interest--where you may meet people who share your interests.
I'm really glad that you have learned from your mistakes--that's the first step. Now, moving on to greener pastures...you need to make a decision to give up the old, and start a life make-over. Good luck with that--it can be done--I've done it :)
2007-09-09 19:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is in acceptance that you may able to forgive whatever happened in your past. learning to accept things that we cannot change and look forward for a brighter tomorrow. easier said than done but you can do it. it takes a lot of willpower to change our life for the better. the struggle will be hard but always remember that there's a light at the end of the tunnel. people make mistakes and the best thing is learning from it. start the "change" within yourself and accept people of who they are and what they are as you accept yourself of who you are and your limitations. good luck!
2007-09-09 19:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋