and now he told me that he feels very hurt and that he has trouble talking to me because he feels "weird". He knew that my parents didn't want me going out with him and I just told him that they found out. [Which they did]
When we first started going out a few months ago, every time he saw me he would tell me how much he loved me or how he hates everyone else except me. And when he looked at me, his eyes would look sorta...soft.
I feel really bad that I had to tell me that we couldn't go out anymore. He just sorta blew it off like yea sure whatever you want. I'm fine with that. And I was like well do you still like me? And he was like "well kinda. I just feel like you don't care about me anymore" Then I was like yes I do!
He was still looking at me with soft eyes today. What can I do to help us get over this together?
2007-09-09 11:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell him to consider getting into therapy. Seriously. If he "hates everyone" and you're the only person in his life, then that's not healthy for either of you. Next time, don't hide him. Maybe your parents will warm up to him once they get to know him. They probably see him as dark or angry, and worry he'll be a bad influence. Be his friend, but don't allow him to rely on you too much. Later down the line, perhaps you can invite him, or any guy you're interested in, over to dinner to break the ice.
2007-09-09 11:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Well, what do you mean by together? as a couple? but you aren't allowed by your parents. And believe me, a parents trust is a very difficult thing to earn back. Once you lose trust, it takes a lot of work to get it back.
Honestly, if this boy cared for you he would have empathy for your situation, that you are in trouble with your parents because of the relationship. If he will talk with you, try to honestly tell him that your parents cracked down on you.
If he doesn't sympathies or doesn't understand what happened, then let him go, deal with him on his own and maybe he will want to have a friendship with you after he dealt with things.
2007-09-09 11:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Scilla B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it.
Would you rather lose this boy? Is there any chance of you two having a future together?
Or would you rather lose your family?
From what you say, this boy sounds like bad news, but maybe you could try to talk to your parents calmly and rationally. If they still say no, I recommend you listen to them. Parents only want the best for you, even if it does seem like they're trying to ruin your life.
Good luck!
2007-09-09 11:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by charlotte 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school, I was in love with this guy who I dated for almost 2 years. My mom found out that I was having sex with him and told me to stop seeing him. He was my first everything, so how can you tell me to stop seeing someone who was my first everything. I told my mom sure, but I didn't leave him alone because I really did LOVE him!! I had to choose between keeping my love alive, or missing out on something that was real special. Of course, I chose the first option. The point is, parents only do things to protect us but it is up to you whether you listen or not. My advice: if this guy truly does mean something to you, then go for it. But don't forget your grounds as a lady. If he is worth fighting for, then fight for him. You are the only person who knows who makes you happy!
2007-09-09 11:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by CANDICE 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You guys can go out on the low. Your parents don't have to know that you are still together, but try to keep it a secret. If he agrees with you then I guess you guys will turn out for the best. if that doesn't work then you can try to get him to meet your parents and he could show them that he is a good person and that they shouldn't judge him before getting to actually know him. Then again if that doesn't work then your screwed. =D don't worry Ive been there and my parents still don't know. Don't really think about it too much just go for what your hearts says. I'm sure it will work out for the best. GOOD LUCK!!!...
2007-09-09 12:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by sheyla g 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Explain to him about family priority.
Your family always comes first. In an emergency situation your family is the one to help you.
Then you should also tell him that you need to talk with your parents more in detail and that it is your fault that you have not done so already.
Good Luck. Most important though is that you make him feel comfortable with the situation. Do not betry your parents though ^_^
2007-09-09 11:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlee from the Green Berets 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 19:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hunnni..
I started off being friends with this lad and i didnt even like him... but we gt close and i ended up going out with him and i found out soon after that my parents didnt like him... he wasnt allowed i my house and now hes nt even alowed to call for me.. im nearly 18 and weve nw been together for a year an d ahalf.. we r trying for a baby and were moving in together... so maybe if he really isnt what u need it would be better to try getting over him by urself and i know thats hard. ive done it before.. but u have to do whats in ur heart... im nt telling u to run away or nething... but maybe u might wanna think bout still seeing him without permission for a while to see if ur parents change their minds cuz if u endup staying together for a whille they mght realize how serious u are.. my mum now likes the lad im with.. my dad stil needs convincing... but isnt that the way. lol . gdlucki hunni xxx
2007-09-09 11:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree with "I love Orly Bloom" to be friends. See if he's a good friend and see if your parents will let you hang out with a GROUP of friends together. If he's a good friend and your parents get to see that, maybe you can eventually be bf and gf again one day when you both grow up.
2007-09-09 11:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Precious 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your parents if you guys can continue to be friends. Then just see if he feels comfortable doing stuff together, even if it's just as friends. If you feel he's taking it too seriously, I think the best thing to do is just break it off.
2007-09-09 11:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by FantasyBookworm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋