Do you think in this day and age it's possible for two people to be exclusively devoted to each other? In this age of short attention spans, sexually saturated media, and wider acceptance of infidelity, do you think people should even try to be in a monogamous relationship, or are we setting ourselves up for disaster?
2007-09-09 10:53:21 · 17 answers · asked by heckyeah81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many people do stay monogamous, at least for each marriage. Many people practice 'serial monogamy' where every 10 years or so they divorce and marry someone else and stay monogamous to them until the lust wears-off and they get divorced again.
A small percentage stay married for life.
Some practice consensual non-monogamy like swingers or those in polyamorous relationships or open marriages. They may stay married and emotionally faithful to one person their whole life but can lust and have sex with others, or in the case of polyamory they may fall in love with to people at the same time with the knowledge and permission of their primary partner.
The trouble comes when one person feels that their way is the only way and starts to judge others because they live their life differently. The fact is that no one way is right for everyone, and what works for one couple won't work for another.
It's the differences in people that make the world go around. :-)
2007-09-10 06:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. U should marry when ready though. Make that committment that when ur married, u'll resist temptation. IT might be hard, but if u love each other, that should be enough. It should be enough to make it work. IT might be better if u don't bring the baggage of infidelity or sexual relationships into a marriage though. I only say this because when dating, it's just so easy to break up, and u do everything with the person. So it might be tempting to do the same in marriage. IT really depends on ur value system, and if uve really learned from all ur experiences.
2007-09-09 11:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people like you are helping the cause for abandoning monogamy. All you have to do it make being faithful a priority and there is no problem. You tell yourself that infitelity isn't even an option. I refuse to look at images and media that present the sexual images and when I can't avoid it trust me i am not impressed by it. Bring your children up in an atmosphere where those images are not allowed and teach boys that women are treasured and teach women to be treasurable and we won't have this problem.
2007-09-09 11:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by poof10958 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. If 2 people are in love, trust and respect each other, they can stay together. In a relationship, one must not always put themselves 1st, but care about and for their partner. In a way, it's the way a parent continues to love and care for a young child even when they are tired, or ill, or annoyed. The child's well being comes before the adult's needs. Without the adult's continued and constant care, a baby would perish. For an adult couple, without continued and constant love, and respect and the willingness to often put another's needs before your own, that relationship could perish. It's the selflessness of a loving relationship that keeps hundreds of thousands of people married for a lifetime. THEY ARE THE COUPLES THAT NO ONE HEARS ABOUT, BUT WE DO EXIST!!!!
2007-09-09 11:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by westville sal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entirely possible and it happens all the time. I think the problem is that people who don't really want to be monogamous try to be because they feel pressure from society and family. If you don't want to be monogamous, there's no reason you should force yourself to be. That's where people end up in trouble.
2007-09-09 10:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its very possible! I've been with hubby for 18 yrs.! Just gotta turn off the crap that says otherwise. How smart is it to follow the crowd if they're headed off a cliff?
2007-09-09 11:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totaly get what your saying but i have to hold on to hope that a meaningfull trustworthy relationship is out there that there is that one person out there just for me and that when we find one another well be all we need and not ever stray! To answer your question though yeah i think its possible i think its hard to come by but i believe if its realy love then yeah you can be commited to one person alone and them to you
2007-09-09 11:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to butt in here yet i might ought to decline, monogamy is over rated, you get on your 40s and recognize that existence has exceeded you thru while you have been busy being dedicated and its too rattling late (usually no longer consistently) to do something approximately it.
2016-10-19 23:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you CAN.
Only the 2 of you can make it HAPPEN.
Just REMEMBER, marriage is a 24/7/365 job, the hardest job you will ever do in your life.
Are you both ready.........???
2007-09-09 11:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible; at least for the 50% of us who understand the concept....
2007-09-09 10:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋