My husband will never be happy...We love each other but sometimes his low self esteem really makes me want to leave. He will say or do things that are mean and get in these terrible moods because he hates how his life is outside of marriage...he hates his job and claims he will hate any job that isn't making movies..well he won't goto film school (says its a waste of money) and wont goto college for anything else...has no money to buy a nice camera to start making his own films. He 's not going to go anywhere and he makes it sound like its not his fault...he acts like if someone else is suppose to just GIVE him a great job and lots of money!! Its driving me away and he doesn't understand why. I work the same job as him I can't just get him a hook up or anything even though I wish I could. It all stems from insecurities I know it does...any advice (aside from Just leave him lol)
2007-09-09 10:06:07 · 13 answers · asked by C.C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once he kills himself you will no longer have to worry about it. Start leaving sleeping pills, pints of whiskey and the pistol in plain view. That should help things.
2007-09-09 10:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I would agree with someone else that answered on here. I believe counseling is in need. I think you both should go, if he won't then at least you should go to marriage counseling. Not everyone knows this, but they do allow just one person in the marriage to go. It teaches you great communication skills. I would try to talk to your husband and try to let him know your feelings, let him know you want counseling and that you think that if he doesn't, it could possibly lead to the end of your marriage eventually, even though you love him deeply. You probably aren't a saint and probably won't be able to put up with this forever. You are human and no one can put that against you.
2007-09-09 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by mystry72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose its foremost to appear at what retailer the receipt is from as good as what used to be bought. It would provide you clues as as to whether he used to be skipping paintings to do whatever he shouldnt were doing. If its whatever ordinary, like groceries, might be the time used to be fallacious. Try and suppose again to while he bought the object at the receipt. Perhaps its from a give retailer and he needed to prefer whatever up for his workplace? If that doesnt aid, I could name, or pass to the shop, and ask the cashiers if the time is often correct and that i could enquire approximately the object that used to be bought at the receipt. Once once more, if its whatever minute, I wouldnt fear approximately. But most likely if its whatever that he shouldnt were purchasing then you definitely must absolutely carry it up.
2016-09-05 08:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very immature and not ready to behave as an adult. He's not going to change. So it is up to you to decide what you want from your marriage and your life.
If he won't go to counselling to straighten himself out and learn how to grow up and it will take a looooong bit of it to get him into any kind of shape... then you either live as is. or make your own changes. Only you can decide this.
2007-09-09 10:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its obvious that he needs to grow up and realize that complaining isnt going to get him anywhere. life doesn't stop to get his life in order. i would be very stern and you might need to be mean and tell him to grow up and quit complaining cause your about to go stay with a friends cause you cant handle how he is acting. tell him if he wants that job he NEEDS to work for it. its not going to be forever that he will be in school. everyone needs to pay money to make money. my brother is in the filming business also and he always tells us about what he does and ect. life isn't easy. tell him to quit complaining or work at fast food cause you dont need a college degree there..anyways i hope i helped Little. good luck.
2007-09-09 10:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are going to change your husband. He has to want to change and it looks like he wants to put the responsibility on others for what is happening in his life. You get a life, even if it isn't leaving him. Either he gets the idea or he doesn't. Eventually you will be more specific on what you want to do.
2007-09-09 10:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to cheat on him, then he will see what a miserable sob he has been. Then he might stop thinking of himself all the time. He sounds extremely selfish and you should get with someone who makes you laugh and wants the same things you do.
2007-09-09 10:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as if he must get counseling,depression of something of that sort,and if he refuses that! Then you need to get on with your life!! Don't stay in a relationship like that!! I did for 10 years, I shouldn't stayed more 30 days!!
2007-09-09 10:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to grow up and take some responsibility for his life. He likes to feel sorry for himself. It's easier than making things happen. Don't feel bad for him. The next time he complains, tell him to get another job or shut up but stop your whining already!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-09 10:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im sorry but the best thing is to leave him, i mean ask yourself are YOU happy? how does HE make you feel about yourself because if his loser attitude(sorry) is affecting yours its not worth it, your marriage is just going down hill because he's not trying to help himself/ and you can't make anyone change, maybe you letting go will make him realize all the things he needs to do for himself first.
2007-09-09 10:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋