My daughter has text me he has been texting another women none stop since they have been there he told her this,she is in another country and upset by it all dont know what to do any suggestions please
2007-09-09 09:47:13 · 19 answers · asked by RAINBOW 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes he is her Dad no I am not bothered she is upset by it and she is texting me ,she is hurt by his lack of thought for her
2007-09-09 10:28:53 · update #1
He is being a jerk, but if she is not in any danger then stay out of it.
She is probably just homesick.
2007-09-09 10:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what your problem is. Is the texting taking time away from your daughter......is your daughter being neglected by her father because he is texting this woman? He is your ex, so he can text who he likes. Is it you who are upset or your daughter? I dont know why anyone would be upset because he is texting a woman. How old is your daughter? Is she old enough to understand what the word ex-husband means? Does she understand that her father will always love her, but he has needs of a personal nature too. Have you prepared her for the possibility that her father may marry again, and most definitely will have girlfriends in his life. Without any more information, Im sorry, but I cant see what the problem is.
2007-09-09 16:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Is this 'ex' the father of your child? I'm hoping so or your playing a very strange and dangerous game here.
If he is then it's a really good thing they are spending this time together, a bonding time.
On the point he is texting someone, that has nothing to do with you because he is your EX, he's not your partner and it's not your business as long as he is looking after your daughter well.
2007-09-09 16:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You as the ex need to stay out of it. It's not your business. Daughter will have to deal with her dad on that one.
First of all, you and dad are divorce, so he WILL have other women. Daughter heeds to understand that. HOWEVER having said that... dad needs to act like a father around his daughter rather than some dorky horny teenage boy. SOMEHOW daughter has to get that across to him. You cannot. Perhaps he has a sister or someone who can talk to him for the two of you? If not, daughter has to find a way to tell him his behavior is upsetting him and she is unhappy. Thjey need to find their way to a new relationship and you cannot be part of it except for co-parenting around the usual kid stuff.
2007-09-09 16:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by teritaur 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your daughter, you will speak to her father, but other then that there is not much you can do, this other woman is obviously a new partner or potential partner, I went on holiday last year and was texting my daughters father, my ex,while we where on holiday, there is no reason he cannot, he is your ex at the end of the day and if you interfere you will look the bad one, all you can do is just mention it to him in passing but don't go mad about it, your daughter needs to tell him she has a problem with it.
2007-09-09 17:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by trouble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably gave her permission to go so now there isnt a whole lot legally you can do. If he took her without permission then you could contact the FBI and get some help as this would have been a Federal crime of parental kidnapping. You may be able to use other means of getting her back but the legal system cant help you here until a crime has been committed. Sorry
2007-09-09 16:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has every right to text other women if he is your ex. Your daughter needs to get used to the fact that there are going to be other women in her dad's life and eventually other men in her mother's life. YOU need to talk to her about that. Her father DOES need to spend more time with her on his visitations though, and that YOU need to discuss with him.
2007-09-09 19:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to explain to your daughter that your ex is entitled to have friends and text them if he so wishes. I am sure that he is spending ample time with his daughter as well. Sounds like she is being rather petulant.
2007-09-09 18:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do. Your ex has the right to communicate with other women. My daughter can't stand even when I talk to my ex wife. She will be ok.
2007-09-09 16:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you child is. If she is under 14, you need to call your ex and tell him that he is entitled to text any woman he wants, but should avoid doing so IN FRONT OF his daughter because it IS UPSETTING HER. If she is over 14, she should tell him herself. IF she wants to come home, she should tell her father she wants to come home.
2007-09-09 16:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is your daughter, if she's old enough she should tell her dad to cut it out. He is on vacation with her and she wants him to stop. If she's younger you can call him and ask him to stop. Tell him you don't care if he has someone new but he should be more considerate of your daughters' feelings.
2007-09-09 16:53:02 · answer #11 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋