My boyfriend is every women dream. He is very smart (going to law school), tall (6'2''), sporty (college football player), good looking, etc. ...
Well, he has his problems. He does not like to show his feelings (to me), very egocentric, very stubborn, very short temper, and act baby sometimes, etc.
In the past 3 years, we don't get along very well. We almost break up two times. The only thing that keep us going is we have a very strong physical connection (lust&love)
I am tired of all the dramas and want to leave him. To be honest, I am hanging on because I afriad I could not find any better guys.
I know, I am stupid.
What do you think? Thank you so much for your help.
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Sorry for the spellings and grammar ---English is my second language.
2007-09-09 09:35:57 · 5 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I must say, I completely understand why this is a difficult decision to make.
First let me start by saying, you MUST value yourself enough to know that you want to be in a healthy and happy relationship. You know this because you are willing to give your time and care to a man.
So, if you are with a man who does not make you happy, then you must move on.
Happiness in a relationship=Your relationship has made you feel good about yourself and it enforces the things you require of your mate and you can also give to your mate in the same sense.
If you think that this man has an ego, he is not a good choice-egos have no place in a relationship.
If you see that this man has a short temper-RUN!!!!!! If a man cannot control his temper-he will need to get help for that-and that man doesn't need to be in a relationship until his temper is controlled (by therapy/counseling).
If this man is inmature-He cannot handle being in a relationship. A relationship is a VERY adult matter and must be taken seriously.
If all you have left is a physical connection, then you are giving the most sacred (precious) part of yourself away to someone who will never be able to appreciate you as a person or his girlfriend-much less his companion. I think you should take a step back and ask yourself "What do I REALLY want?" If looks and status of man are more important than any other qualities that you look for in a man, then you should not be suprised by the outcome of what this man has shown you. In other words, if your standards are low, then you find and receive the product of this. If you know that you want to be treated well, and you want to be happy-then you must RAISE your standards and require more from a man.
You are not being unreasonable by wanting to be happy in a relationship!
I know, I know, physical attraction-especially if the man is good-looking can be a sure weakness...........but think about it-the minute that man treats you bad, and your feelings are hurt and you shed tears, and pain over him-those looks don't mean SH!T!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bottom line, you know what you need to do, the question is: "Do you value yourself enough to take a stand and demand more in order for you to be happy?" There are PLENTY of men that are willing to treat you wonderfully, drama-free. The first step to having a man like this is knowing that you are worthy of having happiness in a relationship.
Good Luck! Oh yeah........Please dump your loser boyfriend ASAP!
2007-09-09 11:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by cejea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a two way street. He may look like a dream from the outside, but you know the truth. Follow your instincts - they never fail you. You are living your life in FEAR of not finding someone better than a egocentric, short tempered, stubborn baby? I wouldn't call you stupid, but I would say you are making a stupid choice.
I would lay money that when this clown graduates law school he will dump you. He is using you for sex, but I he has I'm sure he has already decided you are not right for him to marry.
Ditch the guy.
2007-09-09 10:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by xxxxxxxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not stupid at all. You sense something wrong with this guy and your instinct is telling you to leave him. You just arent sure why you feel this way and thats why youre on here. There is no way of telling you why but more important is to trust your feelings and let "Mr Perfect" be someone elses problem now. He may seem as the best there is but without complete trust within yourself, this relationship would never workout so the time has come for you to move on and find someone else that you feel better about and there will be someone else someday when youre ready. Good luck
2007-09-09 09:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't confuse Love with Lust. These are two different things when you Love it is (or should be) unconditional, Lust is just a sexual urge. If you are not happy get out of the relationship. Believe me there are allot of guys who will willingly satisfy your lust. If that is what you want, or you can find (or wait until he finds you) a guy that will love and lust after you too. Without making you feel bad and he won't hesitate to show his feelings for you. The choice is yours. Good Luck & Aloha
2007-09-09 10:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by meg o hawaii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy walk away... if you are supposed to be together then fate will find a way to let you know!
Hope it all works out for you!
2007-09-09 09:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by pixiegurl2k2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋