how can i go about doing that with out telling my parents and without them knowing right off? my parents are going through a divorce or they just split up today and i want to talk to a shrink or somebody about it can you please help me?
2007-09-09 08:56:43 · 21 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what this is like as a child and then doing it to my kids as an adult. I know it sucked for me both times. I did get through it and there is a way to be happy. I know it doesn't seem that way right now, but there is a way.
I would talk to you counsellor at school. They are usually very smart and have very good advise. They will make sure you are taken care of. If that does not work. Make an appointment with your principal or Vice Principal and let them know what you have tried. They will make it right. The most important thing to know is that this is not your fault and that there is a way through this.
2007-09-09 09:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by byroneann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who is paying for it. If your parents are, then they will need to know you are going.
Insurance will often cover some or all of this but, again, your parents will have to know.
The "shrink" will not tell your parents what you talk about.
Sounds like your parents should do some talking too. Going and talking to someone can help them and you understand and accept what is happening. I hated the idea of going. What could someone say that would help? It was one of the best things I did.
2007-09-09 09:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by ralph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firefly is correct about the payments. I too am very sorry to hear you're going through this. No one should have to.
School counselor 1st, Church Pastor 2nd, Prof. Family Counselor 3rd, and you could call one of the groups for teens such as Ala teen and simply ask them. I'm pretty sure they'd be happy to advise you in which direction to go. And, even if that kind of behavior does play a part in your dilemma, they'll be able to help you there as well. Don't hesitate, God bless and good luck. You're in my prayers. Hope they get things worked out.
2007-09-09 09:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by bpgagirl22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's probably not what you want to hear... (and i really wish that i could give you a secret map to the world's best psychatrist who also happens to be free, but i cant)... but you need to talk to your parents about seeing one.
explain to them that you do love them and you value their advice and their opinions, but until you learn how to handle this you really need a professional. i mean after all... a shrink IS a doctor!
If your parents won't help you find someone to talk to, then try the school counselor. While most of them don't have a Ph.D. in Psych, they are trained in how to cousel you through this.
Also, priests or pastors are good to talk to even if you're not religious. I went to one that i didn't even know for couseling!!! I just drove up to the church, hopped out of my car, and asked him if he had time to talk for a bit.
If none of the above options suit you, then you could always fake a stomach ache, go to a medical doctor, and he could refer you to someone that you could see and possibly make an appointment for you.
When my marriage failed I went to talk to a priest and my regular doctor and they were loads of help.
My heart goes out to you =( if you cant find anyone else to talk to, a friend, priest, doc, etc, you can talk to me. although i am quite chatty, i'm still a good listener ;) lol
2007-09-09 09:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really need a shrink, but you need a counselor.
Ask your school counselor or your church pastor, if you have one, to help you find a counselor to talk to without your parents knowing.
But, you know, your parents might be perfectly ok with it and would want to help you find one. They know this is going to be a hard time for you.
Best of wishes - you are going to be ok.
2007-09-09 09:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call social services and tell them your parents are going through a divorce and you need to speak with a counselor..
2007-09-09 12:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that you want to go somewhere where they won't be held financially responsible. That way they won't find out. I know your not pregnant but call your local Crisis Pregnancy Center and they will start you in the right direction. I am sorry this happened, just remember this too shall pass.
2007-09-09 09:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by snowyniner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take tablets. That will positioned you in an excellent worse role than the only you are in now. Yes, speak to a psychiatrist earlier than it will get any worse. It feels like you can be agony from moderate melancholy. Take care of it now.
2016-09-05 08:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your parents. They need to know how hard this is for you. They can get you the help you need. They might be so wrapped up in the separation that they aren't aware of how much you're hurting. You could also go to talk to your school counselor. They will be able to talk to your parents for you.
2007-09-09 09:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It will be tricky because most people have to have permission to "treat" a minor. Could you tell your parents, I think they'd understand. Seriously, as a mom, I'd want my children to speak to someone if they thought it would help.
2007-09-09 09:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋