My boyfriend has been wearing the same clothes since 8th grade, literally, and I want him to throw out the tattered stuff already. I love him and all but I think it would be refreshing and a confidence booster for him if he started dressing like an adult now.
So how do I convince him without hurting his feelings?
2007-09-09 07:58:26 · 5 answers · asked by Sambal Oelek 7 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
You should tell him honestly about how you feel about what he's wearing. Make sure you tell him that you still love him no matter what, but you just want him to look better.
My ex boyfriend used to wear really ugly clothes, but I told him how I felt and he was alright with it. We went shopping together looking for clothes that look good. Now everytime I see him with his nice clothes and stuff, I think "Thank goodness he went out with me. I made him look good."
2007-09-09 12:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
He may not be dressing differently for more than one reason. I am not sure about you and his money situation, maybe he wants to dress better but cannot afford to. But assuming money is not a problem and he is just choosing to continue dressing the way he does and you want that to change, I would say just be unfront with him and honestly tell him how you feel. There is nothing more insulting than someone trying to change you by masking the truth in the process. If you were overweight and he wanted you to lose the extra weight but he didn't want to tell you upfront in order to spare your feelings, so instead he takes you to eat at Subway all the time and instead of going to see a movie he asks you to go to the gym to workout with him, how would that make you feel? I would say if you want him to change and start dressing differently you need to be honest about the whole thing and tell him, and if you can't do that then you should leave the whole subject alone.
2007-09-09 15:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey - is he related to my husband? I started dating him in college and he was wearing clothes from 9th grade... And the only colors he liked were navy blue, grey and black. ONLY. What I did was make sure to comment when I liked what he was wearing. When we were watching a movie or out shopping, I would point out outfits to him that I thought he would look good in. At first he thought I was crazy, but slowly over time he became more open to the idea. Over a period of 3-4 years, he went from wearing flannel/button up shirts in 3 colors, to wearing light colors such as blue, green, orange, even lavender (manly lavender :)) along with some greys and blacks.
Hopefully your boyfriend is open to your opinion when it comes to fashion and style. It takes time, and little steps. For example, I encouraged adding in green and light blue into his colors first, then went after "bright" colors that scared him.
I think the key is to talk to him that you'd like to see him in some new clothes and the style you think would be great - but let him explore it and see what he likes. Don't push certain looks, fabrics, or colors that he is not ready for. Explain to him why its important to dress like an adult.
2007-09-09 15:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Aslade Averyn 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could just start by buying him nice clothes for presents and gradually work up.
2007-09-09 15:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
how old is he...... in grade 9?
just kidding
umm take him to the mall and tell him that hes going to get some new clothes wether he likes it or not.
2007-09-09 15:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋