okay im 13 and i keep thinking about having sex. i know its hormones but i feel like i really want to have sex. I know your supposed to wait til your married but idk if i can wait that long. it also seems like everyone at my school is doing it but not me help!!!
And you know what makes things so bad...whenever i do something like kiss a guy [not randomly] or flirt with someone my friends look at me and talk about me. its like no matter what i do im labeled like a slut. but when they do stuff its okay.
2007-09-09 07:22:44 · 37 answers · asked by browneyesz93 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
EXCUSE ME TO WHOEVER THINKS IM IGNORANT. I WASNT DOiNG IT TO BE POPULAR..I JUST FEEL LIKE I WANT IT MORE AND MORE EACH DAY. YOUR IGNORANT FOR CALLING ME IGNORANT. BECAUSE IM A VERY MATURE 13 YEAR OLD AND I DONT APPRIECIATE BEING CALLED STUPID OR IGNORANT FOR ASKING A QUESTION
2007-09-09 07:45:50 · update #1
wait until you are at least 18!
2007-09-09 07:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by FutureDoctor 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are feelings are the awakening of your hormones. What you need to practice is self control. Your purity is a very precious thing that you can never get back. Do you want to give pieces of your body, soul and spirit away to differnt boys? That's what happens when you have sex. What will be left for your husband? Your first kiss? Your virginity?
I suggest getting, "Passion and Purity" by Elizabeth Elliott. You are not a dog in heat. You have the ability to decide and make good choices. If you don't you will end up being a "very mature 13 y/o" w/ a bad reputation, STD's or a baby. I suggest not putting yourself in situations where you are likely to make bad choices. Becareful whom you choose to spend your time with.
2007-09-09 07:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by ElioraImmanuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold in there, your right its hormones, they won't be like that forever.
Take it from me sex isn't worth loosing your reputation, everyone acts like a big thing and you have to do it, but really unless you have feeling for the guy and are completly comfortable him, its just not good.
Plus the first few times are really awkward, its not romantic and perfect, your not going to know what your doing, and it will be uncomfortable.
I waited till I was 16, and was very much in love I'm 17 1/2 now and still with the same boyfriend. And our first time wasn't the smoothest sailing thing, we laugh about it now, but it was good because we loved and cared for each other, and there was no expections. So wait for the right guy.
2007-09-09 07:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chey_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only give away your virginity once! You are very young and if you had sex now, it would just be to do what the other kids your age are doing.
You could also contract an STD. Std's are painful, embarrassing and some never go away. That could me that when you are 20 , 30, 40 you'd have to live with this disease and chances are, the boy that you have sex with will be long gone out of your life. Along with sex, comes a lot of other responsibilies like having a yearly pap smear ( which are very uncomfortabl), the risk of pregnancy, and as I said before, STDs ( some STD's are fatal, like HIV and some forms of Hepatitis)
Can you talk to your mom about this?
If not, please find an adult that you feel comfortable talking to about this BEFORE you do it !
Missy
2007-09-09 07:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pedsgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should wait until your in a loving, mature, stable relationship, and i think 13 is way to young for that. Don't do something because everyone else is...you'll regret it later. At least you realize that it's your hormones right now. Seriously, wait a while. It might not be until you're married, that's a different type of choice, but at least wait until the right person comes along.
2007-09-09 07:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by dani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm 14, and i felt the same way, but ummm honey.. your 13.. like you just turned into a teenager. if you wanna be like all those other sluts at your school, be my guest, but you wont be so happy if you end up pregnant and then the father doesnt wanna have anything to do with you. Trust me and take my advice, my best friend thought it would be cool to experiment with a guy, they used a condom and the pill, and she ended up pregnant. Dont risk it. She had to drop out of school and her boyfriend still goes to school, and by the way, he has nothing to do with her or his new son. So you better think twice about sex, cause you are wayyy to young. And you sat you hate being labeled as a slut.. hah just wait until you do have sex .. then you'll really be called some nasty names in the book. be smart.
2007-09-09 07:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of it's only hormones!!!! Please don't do anything that you might regret later. Sex is something that is supposed to be special. Not just a hobby or something to do because you're bored!! Think about the outcome if you were to have sex and ask yourself these questions!! Am I ready to have a baby? Am I ready to deal with HIV/AIDS for the rest of my life? There is also alot of other things and STD's that you can possibly end up with. So I say don't do it. Find other things to do to occupy your time and honestly of your still as HORNY as you think you are learn how to masturbate it besides abstinence is the SAFEST way to go!!! Hope I helped you out little sister!!!!
2007-09-09 09:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Risk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you.
You should wait, wait, wait, wait.
Everything has it's consequences. Be warned about that.
Go play a sport or find some kind of positive recreation for yourself. So you wont think about it so much.
And just randomly kissing guys is uuuuuh not really a good idea, doing things like that would make people label you as a $#@%.
So If you're not a $#@% then don't do $#@%ty things.
2007-09-09 07:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥SLIM♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone!! i feel the same way. everytime i feel liike that i say, "think about it. you can have sex and have that need satisfied. AN if you do that you will also end up with a beatuiful baby you cant take care of!!!!! or even better an std!!"
i really do that and i can sort out what is good and bad.
now as for your friends, next time they make that face ask them why or say, "at least i can keep all my clothes on". those are my only ideas right now. if i think of another i will edit this answer. or if it is resolved, i will post a comment.
2007-09-09 08:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Catholic 14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think 13 years old is way too young. I would suggest you wait. Here's why: Although you may be mentually mature, your body is not even finished growing to it's full potiental. You can hurt your body if you start sex too soon. It will be painful, because sex does hurt when you are smaller down there and most guys are "bigger." And most guys are rough. So the wonderful sex scenes you see on TV won't be so wonderful if it hurts. Tear or scar yourself down there and sex will always hurt. Wait until your body has a chance to grow. When you are physically ready, do protect yourself.
2007-09-09 07:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by nbt95337 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your friends are liars or stupid, DO NOT BE PART OF THE CROWD.
Secondly, there is not such thing as casual teen sex. You'll be labeled for it and it won't go away. The guy will tell you he won't tell, but then the main reason he wants to, is so that he can brag about it.
Most young people can only see the reward side and not the consequence side, which is usually far greater.
Think Smart--Act Smart--Be Smart
2007-09-09 07:39:03 · answer #11 · answered by old hippie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋