Ok i've known i was gay since i was really young. I never thought anything of it - accepted it as it was and had no problems but recently, every time i think about it - every thing inside me is screaming "unnatural" and i don't know what to do - i think the fact that i can't have children like straight guys bugs me - i mean i dont want kids - but its the principle! I really dont know wat to do - i thought i was comfortable and now my body is screwing with me. What should i do? Being gay suddenly feels unnatural - i mean how can it be natural when gays aren't able to screw a woman and obtain a baby the "natural" way? Sorry i don't mean to offend anyone - but i truly am asking for help - im really desperate. What do you think is going on with me? I just hope its not my biggest fear! (turning straight!)
2007-09-09 06:27:05 · 12 answers · asked by Me Y 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds to me like you just want a child - which is natural - and can't see your way to ever having your own unless you become 'straight'. This, of course, would be grossly unfair on any female who you decided would make a good mother - and on the child who would, inevitably, be torn between you both. I would seriously recommend counselling here my friend because you need to sort your feelings out before you do something rash. Good luck to you - and I mean this.
2007-09-09 06:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by alex s 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if you actually are 16, you are amazing! It takes a lot of chutzpa to stand up, in high school no less, as a straight person for gay rights. Outstanding! Secondly, not a damn thing is wrong with your beliefs. You obviously believe in the Constitution and the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. As far as the social suicide goes, all I can say is wait for the others to catch up to you in vision and maturity. High school students are not known for wanting to stand out or rock the boat in anyway. Typically speaking, teenagers feel conformity is best, because then you're never singled out. Give 'em time. College and the real world will fix most of them.
2016-05-20 05:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible you are no longer as gay as you were? Most people's sexuality changes over their life, perhaps you are in fact now attracted to women, and that's why it feels unnatural. You need to have a good look inside yourself. Also it may be that you feel uncomfortable around really camp men, some men do. You could try meeting some gay men who are a lot straiter, who perhaps sometimes feel the way you do?
2007-09-09 07:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by matthewmooregirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about it. You can't??? Then I think you might be depressed the way your mind keeps going round and round. You seem to have grabbed onto one aspect of being gay and fixated on it. You're blowing this up out of all proportion. That's a symptom. You were OK before for years and now, suddenly, you're not. That shouts depression at me. Think back. Something probably triggered it off. Are you under stress at work or are there problems in the family that weren't there before? Go and see your doctor about it.
2007-09-09 06:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do, people can't change their sexuality. Look at Larry Craig, would you really want that to happen to you when you're old and married?
If you're in an area very unaccepting of gays that is making you have these feelings, and believe me I can relate when I was in Wisconsin for college until last year. I'd recommend moving to a gay-friendly place.
2007-09-09 06:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by Marco R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date a woman and see how you feel.....just because you have considered yourself gay for a long time doesnt mean you can not become straight, or bisexual. Don't panic, it must be worse for men who suddenly realise they are gay after years of being straight, married, etc......experience the "other" side and see how it goes!
2007-09-09 06:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what happened to bring it on, but sudden bouts of insecurity or outright self-loathing aren't that uncommon. It really might be worth it to try and find a good therapist who's used to helping queer people deal with the stigma associated with it.
2007-09-09 08:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being gay is unnatural in the first place read Leviticus
2007-09-12 19:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of straight people who can't have kids. And why does it matter when you don't even want kids?
2007-09-09 12:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by GirlInside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound agitated and confused
Can't you talk this out with someone who might be able to help?
2007-09-11 01:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋