2007-09-09 06:13:00 · 12 answers · asked by Merle A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it's bad manners to want to attend the funeral of someone whom you were once in love with enough that you married him. Now is really the time to set aside differences, and mourn the loss of someone who was significant. If there are children involved, young or otherwise, then certainly you want to be there for them as a parent. If he is remarried and you and the new don't get along, go to the viewing, and sign the book and call it a day.
2007-09-09 13:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on the circumstances, if you parted on good terms then no I don't think that it's bad manners, you spent some of your life with him and at one point you did love him, otherwise he wouldn't have been your EX-husband so naturally you would want to be there and mourn him. However on the other hand if the two of you parted on bad terms that it would probably be best if you didn't go and consider his family and the feelings that they might have towards you, your presence there may upset his family more than they already are. Although if you don't care what they think and still want to go, that's your choice. Either way good luck and I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
2007-09-09 13:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be, not in my case. My husband forced me into a divorce and we were married 29 years and have 6 children together. He remarried his affair 3 weeks after he divorced me. If he would die now, I would absolutely be there and if for no other reason than to be with my children. The littlest ones are only 10 and 12. I also would expect for his new wife to step back and let my children do the funeral arrangements for their Dad. I think , that is very important for them to get closure.
2007-09-09 17:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three of my father's ex wives (my older brother's mother, my mother and the last one) were at his funeral. It's especially not in bad taste if you had kids with the person as they will need your support. Even if you weren't friendly toward the end they were important in your life at one time and it would make sense to want to honor their memory. As long as you can be an adult and won't do anything weird there, then it's fine to attend and pay your respect.
2007-09-09 13:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Were you guys friendly in the end? I would think that makes a differance. How long were you married? Do you have children? If so, do your children need you there for support? Look into your heart and find the reason you would want to go. If you really wish to pay your respects for the right reasons, then I would say Go. If not, then obviously stay home.
2007-09-09 13:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by tammie h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. When my mother died, I talked to the funeral home about having a private showing with my father. And that is what we did. It wasn't that he couldn't come to the regular showing or the service, he didn't want to. And if you have children together, then you are there to support them.
2007-09-09 13:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not...bad to go to your x husband funeral serv.
2007-09-09 13:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie29 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had children together, and they do not object. I personal would not go to my ex's funeral UNLESS my children ask me too, cause his new wife is so jealous of me. I barely made it through my daughters wedding.
2007-09-09 13:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by dapperdudet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really depends on how the marriage ended, and if he remarried. but he was part of your life and it would be fine to pay your last respects to someone u once loved, unless it would make someone else very uncomfortable in doing so.
2007-09-09 13:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really but a matter of courtesy as you did have a history with him and out of respect. He cant do any more damage to you but shows your a responsible adult who can things behind her
2007-09-09 13:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋