My best friend (who is a female, i am male). We used to do everything together. And spend everyday together, just hanging out or having fun. She suddenly started seeing this guy and she stopped spending time with me, I was devastated and we fell out for ages and ages. Then we talked about it and decided to be friends again - we saw each other a lot more and they were both more accomodating towards me. I have recently had a text from another friend telling me that the boyfriend has ended it and she is v.upset. I have met her and helped her and kept her company, but don't know what else to do. Sometimes I feel like I am being used, because she did not want to know me when she was with her bf and now she has no-one she just wants the company. What do I do and also how do I deal with the whole situation. Any advice
2007-09-09 06:08:43 · 5 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She has now gone home to her parents house for a long time. I don't know when I will next see her. I really miss her and don't know when I will see her again, because I think she has moved out completley of her flat. I used to really like her more than a friend and don't know whether I still do. I need some advice. Can you help?
2007-09-09 06:09:27 · update #1
Make the trip and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't respond you can move on. If you don't you'll just be miserable.
2007-09-09 06:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has just broken up with her love. Give her time to lick her wounds. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs you but I wouldn't mention your possible love for her. She may feel pressured and withdraw or she may try to build a relationship with you on the rebound. Wait until she seems to have recovered from the breakup which will also give you time to decide if you really do love her romantically. When she has recovered and seems stable and you decide that you are in love with her then let her know. You must realize that you will be taking a chance. If she does not have the same feelings your relationship may become awkward or disappear. For now just be a friend.
2007-09-09 13:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by houghchrst@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. It is EXTREMELY hard for a woman to maintain male friends, especially attractive ones, when she is in a relationship. The man she is with might be jealous, or she might feel uncomfortable around you, if she had some feeelings for you too. Now that she is single again, she doesn't have to worry of jealousy, or hiding her feelings. Be there for her if you love her!
2007-09-09 13:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by vega_five 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are much too involved. Step back from the situation. Friends don't expect that much from other friends. You are crowding her and she probably doesn't like it. Find some other friends instead of concentrating so much on this one.
Are you sure you aren't interested in her romantically?
2007-09-09 13:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when she was with the other guy she did'nt want him thinking you 2 were more than friends...or..maybe he was jelous..and that is why she kept away.
You should ask her what happened.
2007-09-09 13:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋