I have spoke to him he is being completley unreasonable about his partener being around our son when she has no intrest in even wanting to get on with me she wont stop bad mouthing me our son seen them having sex the x husband says its lies who am i suppose to believe i text her and ask her out for coffee she makes big deal out of it and then it causes another argument with my x and me.... i am trying to think of my sons future for eg. i would love be able sit down with this girl and my x husband and have conversation about what our son done with them at the weekend an vice versa the two of them are thinking of now nopt my sons future according to her the legal seperation means i my x husband and i have one less tie??? I do not want my son near her of course our son can see his dad but there must be a way of not having to spend father and son time with his girlfriend he gets see our son on his days off and she has same days off my son does not get his fathers full attention.
2007-09-09 05:28:51 · 11 answers · asked by sparks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try some punctuation...
By the way, you are clearly jealous of the fact your ex has a new partner. Shame on you for using your son to try and put a wedge between them.
2007-09-09 08:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy. Some boundaries would help here too, for everyone. Do not text, call, IM, email, or otherwise speak to this girlfriend. You have no relationship with her, nothing to do with her, and nothing to say to her except to be civil when you have to be. This is all between you and the ex husband. If you're concerned about how his relationship with your son is going, then talk to him about that. If the girlfriend is bad mouthing you, oh well. As long as you are acting like a mature, dignified human being, your son will figure out the truth there. Don't join in on the bad-mouthing, either.
Talk with your son, talk with your ex husband, and take the high road rather than falling into some Jerry Springer scenario.
2007-09-09 09:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you must realize your son doesn't get your full attention all the time either. You can't stop your X's girlfriend from being around your son, unfortunately she is part of his life now. It is not required for her to have a relationship with you. You really have to let go of what happens when he is with his dad, because you can't control it. As long as he is not in danger, you should stay out of their visits as much as possible. Your son will be able to make up his own mind about his relationship with his dad and all you can do is your best when you have your son. So find something else to do while he is with his dad. Go out and do something fun.
I would believe your son, when he says he sees something at dad's house.
2007-09-09 05:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the girlfriend is being inappropriate toward your son file a child protection order against this woman! You have every right to be concerned about your child and what he is exposed to! I would do everything I legally could when it comes to the well being of my son so talk with social services. The father is a loser if he cannot sit down with you and communicate appropriately about his own child and I will not mention the girlfriend because she has no right to intervene in any way because she is nothing!!! This is between you and your husband and it sounds like the girlfriend has some severe issues of jealousy and control here in which she has no right to any. Do what you can to put her in her place and do not tollerate any attitude from either one of them.
2007-09-09 05:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have already decided the marriage is over, you have already set a date to move out, so there is really nothing to say. Dont give him the satisfaction of upsetting you, because that is exactly what he wants, as long as he can still get a reaction out of you he still has a part of you. The best revenge is to move on and be happy, dont give him the time of day. Dont go threatening him about coming home at a certain time and it be your home, one its his home 2 and you cant make him leave because he cheated, and 2 again thats what he wants a reaction from you.
2016-05-20 05:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by erminia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres what I told my ex,"You need to understand that our son IS going to see me move on with my life." I can see your still upset from the split...thats ok...just dont freak out whenever he has his g/f over at the same time.
Remember thats your sons dad, hes not going to do anything 'obscene' in front of his son. At one time you respected him...where did you lose that respect ?
2007-09-09 05:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son shouldnt be around them when they are preforming sex together with each other because it isnt right at all sparks where you located at and she must be very inconsiderated what happens while being aroound your son which haint any good either she dont show any respect at all in that case
2007-09-09 05:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by harold gardner1946 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is there a question here?
If you are still married, talk to your lawyer. If he is abusing your son by exposing him to sexual activity, you may be able to get full custody. If he is living with his girlfriend, you may be able to prove adultery.
In either case, acquaint yourself with pucntuation marks.
2007-09-09 05:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Steve B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be grateful hes just having sex and not doing drugs.
could well be your son rebelling, give him time and life will sort it self out
2007-09-09 05:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant stop him from having a life, unless she is abusing your child. if she really is badmouthing you, talk to an attorney. you will need proof but you can get court order to stop that and if she doesnt that will affect the visitation
2007-09-09 05:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋