A friend and I drank last night. Toward the end he said I had to take 2 more shots. I told him I would if he kissed me. He kissed his hand and then put his hand on my lips. I told him no, kiss me on the lips. He did it. I was a small quick peck non-romantic but still a kiss. When I told him I'm gay, he just said "**** you" but didn't react physically. So, I just told him I was kidding. What do ya think?
2007-09-09 05:21:05 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I asked him if he wanted a back rub and he said yes. I tried but I was too drunk to give him one....
2007-09-09 05:21:55 · update #1
Yes, I am really gay...
2007-09-09 05:26:19 · update #2
While sober, I have giving him a back rub...
2007-09-09 05:28:35 · update #3
givin*....
2007-09-09 05:29:10 · update #4
You want to know "What do ya think?" I would need to know What do ya want?
Do you just want a quickie? A steady bed partner? A friend that accepts you?
Hard to answer when I dont really know what you are asking for.
Then there is his side. Was he fighting to keep control while wanting to whip your pants off and devour you? Was he being nonphysical because you have so many years history as friend and he didnt want to knock all your teeth out while he was drunk?
I dont know him or what he wanted either.
I do know some have a hard time admitting to themselves what they want to do and for many reasons. I also know there are guys that will 'allow' a friend to tell them what to do yet not even be really into sex at all. ....and then some people are not even that deep individually and just can be easily led.
It can be really really hard with just a paragraph to know an entire situation.
BUT
I would suggest if this is a case where you think you have reason to persue that you do things differently
You verbalized that you were gay, and now lets presume he was also but didnt believe you ?
You put him on a spot where you could have said "just kidding" and demoralized him if he did something he wasnt ready to.
I think it would have been much better if you said "I will take the two more shots if I can kiss you." Then your committing yourself instead of asking from him. You could have given him a light kiss of a couple seconds and just hovered in his face looking into his eyes. If he kissed you too then you would know one thing, if he withdrew and made fun of it you would know the other (perhaps) but you wouldnt have put him on the hot seat.
Are we going to be getting more questions in this? Is it going to be a continuing saga?
It's like reading a Book that you dont have the option of not putting it down, I have to wait for the next chapters ... grin
Enjoy!
2007-09-09 06:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by genntri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You took the opportunity of your inebriated state to "come out" to your friend which probably lessened the fear of telling him. On the same token, you were testing the waters to see if possibly he is gay and/or interested in some sort of relationship with you.
The true test of your friendship will be when you see each other again totally sober. If he remembers the evening, he may ask you about being gay. What will you tell him? Will you hide behind the drunken escapade to keep his friendship or will you be honest and open with yourself - and him - and confirm your homosexuality? You must make the decision as to whether you want to risk losing his friendship or being true to yourself.
Bit of advice: if he cannot accept you for who you are then he wasn't much of a friend to begin with.
2007-09-09 05:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well to the above posts. You can't make someone gay. And to the question it really does depend upon how drunk he was, I don't know any straight guys who will willing kiss another guy or even accept a back rub.
2007-09-09 05:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really tell from this. Being drunk can help people speak their minds and show what is really going on in their head (to an extent), but it can also make us do things we normally wouldn't ever do. If this happens when, say, you both aren't drunk, then we may have something to go on....
2007-09-09 06:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound gay if you ask me... Was just really drunk maybe. Kind of sounds like he didn't want to kiss you to be honest. If he did, do you really think it'd just be a peck.
2007-09-09 05:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
jus face him, maybe have lunch with him? try and discuss it in a calm enviroment and be straight forward. im sure he wants to talk about it too. and dont let this ruin ur friendship, if its a strong one im sure u guys will pull through, and most likely it was the drinks. jus remember at least every guy has a gay experience in his lifetime. so dont sweat it. address the problem, resolve it and move on. good luck :]
2016-05-20 05:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you tried to take advantage of him when he had been drinking.
If i were your friend and you tried that with me that would be the end of the friendship. How could he trust you anymore after that. Don't be surprised if you've lost his friendship.
Just be thankful he didn't hit you instead under the circumstances he would have been justified.
2007-09-09 05:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nathan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some friend u are...playing around with ur gayness!
It's not cool to tease him like that...if ur gonna be gay be proud of it, don't use ur drink for back up...u shouldn't play like that and then stand back to see if u get ur head busted open by ur best homeboy.
Further more it sounds like u want to sleep with ur friend...lust junkie and attention seeker....seems to be ur main attraction right now. get a hobbie dude.
Two men doing the body rub thingy...is um...very gay. Man up and ask him...stop playing the role of princess already...geesh...u men- I tell ya are all the same, no matter the size ten slippers.
2007-09-09 05:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he's gay. Unless he said "f*ck you" in a flirty way. But I bet he was just drunk. You need to find another love interest, because he's strait.
2007-09-09 05:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by wot 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are gay...don't try to turn your friend gay too!!!!!
Why would you tell him to kiss you if you thought he was straight?
I can respect anyone that is gay, but you should keep your gay acts to other gay people!
2007-09-13 04:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋