Hi everybody,
I am 22 years old. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I thought, he is my true love and the one for me---I was wrong. In the past couple years, I have been hanging on to the relationship because I was blind and foolish. I am now embarrassed :)
I know you guys have much more experiences than I do. It would be very kind of you if you want to share them with me. I want to learn from you guys.
Thank you so much for your kindness. God Bless you :)
2007-09-09 04:56:55 · 21 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm glad you made this decision. after reading your questions regarding it, it really seemed the best thing for you to do and i encourage you to begin rebuilding a wonderful future for yourself.
don't be embarassed, learn from it, you have come out of it a stronger, wiser and more experienced person. That's how we grow.
spend some time to be single now, do some nice things for yourself, do some things that you could not have done when you were not single, and although it hurts now, a new beginning is a very very exciting time. I wish you a wonderful happy future, and in time, a wonderful man who is right for you.
2007-09-09 05:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up. I believe there is someone for everybody out there. Do not use sex as a way to get guys. It will only make you feel guilty. I did that and am not proud of myself now. I would go to school and get a career first (not what I did). Establish yourself so you do not have to work at grocery store like me. Have an education to fall back on. If you have doubts about a guy they are probably right. Follow your intuition. I was in love at 19 (I thought), got pregnant, then lost the baby. Where was the baby's father? Gone! I was all alone the whole pregnancy. I have many regrets about not going to college. This is your life. Get an education. Good luck!
2007-09-09 05:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 29 and I've been married for 2 years. But 7 years ago I dated a guy for almost 2 years that I also almost married. I was 22 and he was 29 at the time. He fell in love with me right away and I struggled to feel the same about him. When he begged me to let him propose, I got excited about the prospect of marriage - I had just turned 24 by then and it was a good time. But then I started thinking and I realized he still wasn't what I truly wanted...so I broke up with him. It was a difficult time for both of us but he just wanted me to be happy, even if it wasn't with him.
Less then a year later, I met a great guy who asked me to go ring shopping with him a month after we started dating. We both just knew it was right and 3 months after that he proposed. I was 25 and he was 32 at the time. We've now been married 2 years and together for over 4, and it's exactly what I hoped it would be.
As for my ex boyfriend, he has found happiness too and got married last November - ironically, to a girl who has the name as me!
So it will work out, you'll find the right person - just think of it as you're now one step closer.
2007-09-09 05:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have a story to share, just a bit of wisdom. Don't look at the four years as a waste of time. You really need to appreciate it for what it was, a learning experience. You now know better what you really want out of a relationship. You also know better the signs to look for that it's not what you want. Don't be embarrassed for hanging onto things. Be proud for letting it go when you did! Who wants to keep hanging on for years? You are very young. You will hopefully have many relationships before you find one that really lifts you up as a person. You change so much in your twenties. This should be a time for you to not only explore yourself, your interests, passions but also to explore relationships to find out what's really important to you. Knowing yourself is the key. Know how you feel on every topic under the sun. Know how to be independent. Know how you feel when you're happy. Knowing yourself well is the first step to recognizing the right man for you. He will know himself as well and together you will build a life that you both love and enjoy. Good luck :)
2007-09-09 05:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love makes people blind. I dont think you should be embarrassed, but I do believe you are feeling a bit insecure. Like he was the only one you could get. I dont exactly know what you are wanting to know, so I cant give you answers. I can tell ya to lift yourself off the ground and get back out there and have some fun! Dont rush into anything fast! No guy wants to be the "rebound boyfriend". You are only 22, your time with marriage and family life will come in time.
2007-09-09 05:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by troublesomesix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged when I was 19 to a soldier who was posted to Germany a few months after we met. Whaddya know? He returned from the posting in Germany 2 years later and dumped me! I was a glorified pen pal, guaranteed to write to him. I felt like a complete fool and that my world had come to an end! (Dramatic but I was young!)
Then at 24 I met and moved in with a guy 8 years older than me. He started doing drugs and I was the punchbag.
Thing is now I'm 33 and I'm married to the best guy. As each relationship ends, you learn something new that makes the next one special until you finally find the right partner for you. I wouldn't change my past coz it made me into the person that my husband loves.
2007-09-09 05:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by raceylaidee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasted 12 years of my life, engaged at 15 married at 20 child at 21 and Divorced at 30. I gave the best years of my life to a complete and utter loser. When I got rid of him it was the best thing I have ever done. I have now been very happily Divorced 20 years travelled alot had good jobs. I now have a nice home and everything I need. There is a big world out there. If I had my time over I would have lots of children because I love children and Animals I do not need any man to go with it because I am very self sufficient. If I feel like a man I go to Sainsburys watch all the men and women arguing. Then I go home and thank god I am single.
2007-09-09 07:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hay Girl this happens to about ever one. Don't feel bad. At lease you where not married.Fist wife thought she loved me deeply. LOL LOL I was young and dumb. She got pregnant. Thought that we would live happily ever after Boy I was wrong! Second Was not to much n love but though we were both adults and things would work out. Boy was I wrong. Try and learn from your mistakes. Your still young.It gets a lot worst when you get older. Next time watch for the sines, Study his family before you do to much. KEEP YOUR LEGS CROSS. Sex mess ever thing up. I know quite well about that.
2007-09-09 05:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm 24 almost 25 fell in love had a child at 17 married the man fell out of love am still going through a divorce ( after he abused me every which way) and am now in the best relationship I have ever been in. My son LOVES his S-DAD ( step dad but also SUPER DAD) have never been happier and plan to be in this relationship until the end ( but have hesitaions on being remarried again ) too much paper work and legal stuff to got through
2007-09-09 05:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok .... I'm old and have the mileage to prove it ....so let me put it this way.
There are times in life you can not see the forest for all the trees,
There are times absence makes the heart fonder,
There are times absence can open your eyes .....
The trick is to figure out what you want in a relationship, know how you wish to be treated. Find a friend who travels the same path ... seek solace and company .. let the relationship grow .....when you both have learned each other and where your going ... you have found it !
Life is a buffet .. try alittle of this and alittle of that ... you may be surprised what or who is out there.
Good Luck ... Be safe !
2007-09-09 05:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by John 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋