proper online activities
2007-09-09 04:54:03 · 11 answers · asked by joey m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not read my wife's e mails (with the exception of the stuff she forwards to me) and she has no access to my e mail accounts. It is not about keeping secrets, it is about trust. We have no reason to check up on each other!
We have separate interests and do not have to spend every single minute together! We allow each other the freedom to have friends, and to do what we enjoy. Trust is the issue. If you feel the need to see everything in your partners life, what are you trying to find?
2007-09-09 08:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about keeping secrets; But if something is not addressed to you then you should not be the one to read it.
Now, in a healthy and loving relationship, people trust each other and if you want to read something sent to your hubby surely you can just lean over while he's reading it or ask him who he's receiving e-mails from, and I don't imagine he'd have any problems letting look at the messages.
The fact is, when something is sent to you and your hubby or significant other is reading it before you, it's a bit annoying to say the least.
If you have to explain yourself or justify yourself every single time then, that can be very annoying indeed.
However, if you are feeling jealous or insecure about who might be emailing your man tell him and see if he allows you to have a look at those messages without attempting to hide them!
Did he give you any reasons to make you feel this way?
I'd suggest that when he sits at the computer, to just drag a chair and sit next to him and say that you are curious about who is emailing him. But I wouldn't say that in a threatening way, more as you know, fun or taking an interest and you'll see.
Good luck.
2007-09-09 05:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never keep secrets. They always come out later. And you avoid all that drama, when you are open about everything with your spouse.
As far as reading emails, if you/they trust each other then what is the point. Unless it is to look for something you believe may be there. And when doing it behind their back, and they find out. It is telling the other person that they are not trusted.
2007-09-09 05:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think, yes, it is ok for spouse to read the emails. But what I'm wondering is why? Why would he/she want to read them? Bored or untrusting? I dont agree w/ major or hurtful secrets but everyone has some. What emails are secret and why? A surprise or an affair?
2007-09-09 05:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by chaa107 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IIt all depends on each individual relationship but if you have nothing to hide then why would you not want them to read your emails. But of course if you have friends or family who email you about personal things that they may not want shared with your spouse then let them know ahead of time that their email may be read by your spouse especially if you share an address.
2007-09-09 05:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everybody has secrets, it depends on exactly what it is. As for reading emails, it sounds like there are some trust issues and the relationship needs to be reevaluated. I couldn't have a mate that checks my emails and spy's...its just crazy & a unhealthy relationship.
2007-09-09 05:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only get emails from my mom, my aunt and one girlfriend. My husband hates the internet and doesn't email anybody. So for us, there are no problems there!!
But in general, your email is your personal, private place - that doesn't give you the option to do naughty things in there, but just be respectful of your spouse.
2007-09-09 05:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secrets are for those who do things that would hurt the other. Secrets are for those who behave in ways that do not bring happiness, intimacy and trust.
Secrets are for those who do not want to be found out.
Honesty, truthfulness, faithfulness and complete openness and transparency are for those who truly love the other, care about the other and have a level of self respect that allows their own behavior and life choices to be worthy of the others trust.
2007-09-09 05:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Steve T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest my husband used to let me read all his emails, no problems, however we got into an argument and he changed his pw. He said it was for my protection..Bunch of crap. Personally, I dont care, I have nothing to hide. There is a certain amount of privacy one is entitled to, but not from your spouse. One should share with their spouse things. What is the point of being married in the first place?
2007-09-09 05:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lovinlife915 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sure. Who cares if your spouse reads your e-mails if you don't have anything to hide in the first place.
2007-09-09 05:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋