2007-09-09 04:51:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Their divorce would have ruined my life, if it wasn't for God to help me not do the same in my adult life, and help me cope with the fact of knowing about it later in my adult life. Its sad to know that married couples, with a child or children . .who end up divorcing later in life (does not matter what age), may seem like a good thing to do for the parent's sake, but it is very bad for the child's or children's sake.
When my parents divorced, even though I was 3 yrs old, I sensed something was wrong or bad, but at that time I did not understand what was happening. It made me very unhappy to see them part from each other. I cried, and did not want to leave my mother, who was unable to care for me (she had 6 children, and stayed home . .depending on my father's financial support to take care of us. What I did not know, when I was growing up as a child, when I got adopted out to another family ..was that my mother (who people judged her as mentall ill, when in fact, she wasn't ..but just was really stressed with her situation, and only got angry when my father would get abusive towards us, kids around her. But we, kids were fussing and crying, because we were starving. Anyways, I found out later my mother (whom I do not believe had a mentall illness), was a faithful woman to my father, whereas my father committed adultery on her, behind her back. She was the sweetest person I ever knew . .very kind and caring. She used the money she had (from my father, who only came home 2 days out of the week ..making up excuses that he was working all the time, when in fact he was having an affair with a girlfriend on the side, which whom he had a few children with her . .)
While I was growing up, as an adopted child . .I did not know any of this information, that I am telling you now. It took me years later to find out the truth about my parent's life, from my sisters. I was about 26 yrs old, when I finally understood it all. And, when I heard about my family's sins, I realized that the LORD, Jesus saved me from my the previous family generation of sins. He saved my life, just in time . .because I realized that if I did not know the truth, I would have probably fallen into the same sins or mistakes, that my family did. The LORD, God . .gave me hope, and strength to put a stop to it, starting with me.
You see, sometimes . .when children grow up in broken family situations, such as divorce . .they only know why it happened. Oh, that daddy was unfaithful to mommy, and so this caused problems and they no longer love each other and live their seperate ways. I grew up knowing nothing, and when living my life . .blind by knowing the difference between right and wrong. My adopted parents were not much help in teaching me these things, as I learned later. Its very important that parents teach their children between right and wrong, by helping them understand why it is wrong . . by talking to them and teach them morality such as the LORD's 10 Commandments. I grew up without much guidance, and therefore; occupied my time with all sorts of hobbies, and stuff to keep me busy ..but in reality, I really was not all happy. Something in my life, was missing ..but I did not know what it was. Later, this viod feeling became so intense . .when I started facing living in this world on my own (my adopted parents no longer wanted me to live with them, after I was of age:18 and told me to get my own place). I did not know know what to do, so I asked them for guidance. I did what they told me, and my life became a living hell. My life was not going so well, and everything they suggested to me, was not working out for me (or things that I thought of doing, did not work out so well either). I felt so unhappy, and felt that if I worked all the time, would help relieve this feeling ..but that did not make things any better, but made things worse. When I began to overwork myself with working jobs in this world, I nearly faced death several times. I realized that the way I lived my life, was not working out for me at all . .and seeked to find another way . .God's way.
When I did, God was the only One who was able to help me find true happiness . .by finding that peace my heart longed for. And, He was able to help me understand what happened between my parents, and why. He helped me understand everything, to where He will help me not fall into the same sins that they did . .because its so true ..that history repeats itself. Many times, the sins (mistakes) of parents . . .children tend to carry on those same sins (mistakes), unless you find Someone who can help you put a stop to the vicious cycle.
The world's way of living, that is lived by the ideas or mankind (people), will ruin your life. It almost did did with me, but the LORD, God . thru believing in Jesus Christ, saved me life from death (from this life, and in His . .eternal death), and given me life (and will give me eternal life in His life) . .by choosing to live life His way (doing His will) . .not my own, or my parents or others.
To sum it all up . .my parent's divorce nearly ruined me, and my marriage life. I did fall into the same sin, once (when I did not know this truth that I told you here until after it happened) . .but the LORD saved me just in time, by not having me repeat the same mistake ..thus saving me (my life) and my marriage life. Just like people say . .KNOWLEDGE IS POWER ..is true, but in a difference sense: THE LORD'S WISDOM (KNOWLEDGE) IS POWER.
The LORD, thy God . .thru faith in Jesus Christ will save your life, from your sins (mistakes) and the sins (mistakes) of others ..such as your parent's. (I"see" divorce as a sin, for God's will for marriage, is forever. Divorce goes against God's will for Marriage . .but it makes matters worse of all people involved and can ruin a people's lives.)
If is wasn't for God's help . .the conquences of my parent's divorce, would have ruined my life . to where I would have died early in this life, and be sentenced to eteranal death, as my punishment for all my sins, and my family generation's sins. But by faith in LORD, Jesus . . .He has forgiven me for all my sins, and washed them away . . .giving me a new (pure) life, promising me eternal life with him, after I died in this life . .. by believing in Him, as LORD and my Savior as well as living to do His will.
Angela
2007-09-09 05:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~Angela~ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My parents divorced when i was three, my brother was one. It was pretty bad, until i was 17 i had no contact with my father, not even a picture to see what he looked liked. we were in contact via letters for a year then he stopped writing back, i guess he really didn't want kids.
2007-09-09 05:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by paula t. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it did affect u to some extent. Maybe ur just afraid that any relationship that u take on might end up horribly like ur parents. I also think that when u find the right guy he will help u get through this and it wont be a problem anymore. I hope I helped plz help me with question! =)
2016-03-18 02:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No effect at all. My parents self absorption, lack of intimacy and lack of carring behaviors, Mom's depression and Dad's disinterest all culminating in their divorce when I was 16 had nothing to do with my being unable to trust anyone, my two divorces now (I'm 48) and my choosing apparently women who I end up realizing weren't worthy of trust in the first place. So, how about you?
2007-09-09 04:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Steve T 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
None because I was 2 so I don't remember it but the after effects of not having a father figure in my life was horrible. I always turned to older men for love...you live and you learn, huh?
2007-09-09 05:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relief and pain. My father beat my mother constantly; every day was fighting and brutality. I was happy to see my mom free from this; no child should be subjected to what we had to see every day of our life.
Taught me to be very cautious about selecting a mate and never, ever allow a man to control me.
2007-09-09 05:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nothing other than I didn't get to know my Biological father but am thankful I didn't turns out to be he is a total JERK
2007-09-09 04:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none , i was never close to my father even wen he was around
2007-09-09 04:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by some guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is happy.
2007-09-09 04:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋