If so, have you ever regretted coming out? Have any of your relationships suffered? Was it a big shock to people, or did they claim that they already knew?
2007-09-09 04:49:59 · 16 answers · asked by Sabrina 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes.
I've been out all my life. The only time I regretted it slightly was recently, when I had to work with a real bible-thumper in an office of about 9.
It drove her crazy that she was the only person who had a problem with the out gay guy in the office. She did everything she could to make my life miserable at work and to get my office mates to turn against me: so much for a fundamentalist's Christian love, huh?
I was lucky that my boss knew what she was like, so most of her tricks to make me look bad backfired and just ended up making HER look bad, but eventually it got so annoying that I quit and went to work elsewhere.
I didn't really regret being out during all that stuff, but I did wonder for the first time in a long time what it would be like if I were still in the closet.
Luckily, now I have a job that pays better, is vastly more interesting and varied, and all my co-workers know I'm gay and they have the radical idea that my sex life is actually none of their business!
2007-09-09 04:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Acorn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am partly out in my real life. my family does not know and i moved across country to be with my girlfriend. but out where i live now, i don't hide it to people i meet.
i have not regretted coming out. it has made my relationship a whole lot stronger since i have; and we are gettting stronger everyday.
my relationship has suffered a bit once i came out. because it was a big thing for me to do, even though i was revealing my true self. it's not accepted where i had lived, so i didn't really know that it was going to be ok. but we're good now =)
it was a huge shock to my friends who knew me. and to people i meet where i am now, it's still a shock and they say they would have never of guessed. my friends back home think it's a stage and ask if i'm still gay...haha they are funny.
2007-09-09 05:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by viva las vegas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am completely out in my real life. I just started a new job and of course have to ease into that, but to everyone else, including family, yes. No my relationships have never suffered because of my being out because I dont date women who are not out. No it was not a big shock to anyone they all said to me that it was about time. And No , NEVER, have I regreted coming out, since I came out in 97, my life has gotten nothing but better and being honest feels right.
2007-09-09 04:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm out in my real life, I was closetted for the 24 years I served in the Army. I'm not exactly a flamer but I have a rainbow sticker on my car, right next to my "Bush Cheney in 04" sticker.
My marriage suffered and ended but that isn't necessarily a bad thing. It was a huge shock to my family. I think they are beginning to get used to the idea.
2007-09-09 11:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am out to everyone who knows me.
I have never regretted coming out in the sense that I wish I hadn't.
I lost a few very close friends, but I don't care.
Many people were shocked, I do not fit the stereotype at all, however people close to me knew.
2007-09-09 04:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am out everywhere, to everyone. I have been since I was outed at 15. Being outed wasn't a good experience, I would have preferred to make my own decision, but what's done is done.
I don't ever, for even a second, regret being totally out. It makes my life so much better not to have to lie about anything.
2007-09-09 04:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by FTW 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am not out. Don't know if I will ever come out. I don't do relationships very well so what is the point of going through all of the hassle and probably loss of friendships for nothing?
2007-09-09 07:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been way out for many years....not a single regret, pure relief to be able to live my life the way it was meant to be.
No one was shocked.....most said they suspected.
I believe they were somewhat relieved with my honesty. No one had to tip-toe around the issue anymore.
Life is good!
2007-09-09 05:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm out and I never regretted it. They say they already knew.
2007-09-09 05:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm out to some friends. I knew they wouldn't reject me for being gay... because I met them at a gay club. I'm not out to any of my straight friends. I was drinking last night and I told my friend I was drinking with that I'm gay. All he said was "**** you" but didn't react physically badly. He was pretty drunk but so was I, so I don't know what would have happened. I told him that I was kidding, but it will still put the thought in his head. I'm not out to my family and I don't plan on ever being openingly gay at work. I don't want my sexuality to affect my work life or exeriance work place discrimination.
2007-09-09 05:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by N♂t - ♂ut - Yet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋