my best mate and i, have been doing stuff (ie oral sex, hand jobs, kissing etc). whilst i reckon that im gay, he says hes straight, and just enjoys doing things with me.
Ever since we started, hes been acting so weird around me. not talking to me much, not sitting next to me in lessons that he normally does, ignoring me alot.
and when i try to talk to him about it, he just goes "w/e" and refuses to talk,until i change the subject!
im getting really confused.
what is his problem?
does he feel weird around me?
how do i get him to be normal around me again?
2007-09-09 04:30:10 · 25 answers · asked by Blue Monkey 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Now he's not talking to me at all, and wont even recognize my existance, whilst im still sat here, trying to figure out what the hell ive done wrong.....
2007-09-10 04:42:44 · update #1
You keep acting normal around him and enjoying life.
He is confused by his feelings about you and afraid that others will notice. Don't fall into the trap that girls do and try to talk to him about it (only if he opens the subject should you talk about it). Instead, live, do things, treat him as if nothing is different, keep doing the stuff he likes when you are alone together. Over a few months he will normalize. He probably is straight, and he likes this, and it confuses him. Don't be surprised when he stops doing stuff. Wait patiently if he does, it will start again.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-09-09 04:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is ignoring you then maybe he thinks he made a mistake, and doesn't want to hang out with you so people won't think that he is gay like you!
Obviously he is ashamed of what he did.Maybe he wants to do the manly thing and stay straight now.
If he really is gay then you should let him come to decide that for himself.If I was you, I would not push the issue, and I would leave him alone for a while.
2007-09-16 10:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't done anything wrong. he's just going through a personal crisis as your relationship has taken a turn that he doesn't understand, and the way that he is reacting and trying to deal with it, is shutting you out. of course he feels weird aroudn you, because you represent things that make him feel weird. he won't be normal for a while. give him space to let him sort his head out, then try bringing it up in a couple of weeks.
however brace yourself for a let down. don't get too emotionally involved as he may just be going through the experimental stage, and might decide that all you had was a physical thing, whereas you might want it to be more. good luck xxx
2007-09-15 07:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done nothing wrong.
He is in DENIAL.
He thinks staying away from you will stop all the feelings and actions he has had with you..
He wants to be straight for society dictates that gay or bi is wrong. " BULL"!
He has to deal with this himself...
Do not push it! Someday he will come around.
Just let him know you are there for him if he ever needs you and just go on with your life and let him take it from there.
The more you pursue him will only push him away even more.
2007-09-16 10:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,i'm a gay.my best friend ,he's from holand.i and him have been doing oral sex and we are always care together.whilst i think i'm gay,him too.and just doing things with me.ever since we started ,we always respect each other and that makes me happy.you should to ask your best mate what should you do for him ?why he did that with you.that meaning is oral sex.,something like that if he doesn't agree all you do for him and then you should forget him.maybe he hasn't really love you.
2007-09-16 05:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by canhallezboop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some really great advice from everyone. Well, except one "can't expect Yahoo answers to help". Sheesh.
I concur with the majority James. Sounds like he's confused about his sexuality and is feeling guilt about the extracurricular activity between you.
I wouldn't push the issue. I know you're hurting inside for him to respond, might be he needs a few days to sort things out. He might be as scared as you are, not realizing that perhaps he's developing feelings for you.
Keep us informed here on Yahoo Answers, please.
2007-09-14 17:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Phurface 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not confused, he knows he's either gay or bi, but he is not comfortable being out. He doesn't want anyone to know what he's been doing with you and any sign of a relationship between the two of you is a red flag. He probably likes the sex play, but if you want it to continue, it will have to be covert.
2007-09-16 18:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by david o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, stop worrying, and most off all show him your over it ,I know it`s hard but you`ll thank me in years to come, this guy is a sl-t, ohhh! I `v had him seen his dong now let`s move on to the next thats` the sort of syndrome, even if he was only experimenting you deserve to be discreetly told, and this is the start of his long sad life, jumping in and out of bed, with no real love , it`s clear he is very selfish ,by not responding to your confuseion,and dumping you wants he`s been in your pant`s. wish I was your best mate you deserve better coz you sound very loyal.
2007-09-14 11:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling guilty about the past, and probably isn't actually gay but likes to have fun now and again. give him time it happened to me once, it took 2 years but we see each other again for casual sex a couple ov times a month
2007-09-14 04:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by ikerro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start talking about other things.Some guys like the anonymity of experimental encounters and dont want a "boyfriend" or a "relationship".Maybe he just wants you as a friend and to just remain silent about what you do together.It sounds like you want more.Dont let that ruin your friendship.Hugs!!!
2007-09-16 16:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋