She can talk and work at the same time but I can't. Her constant chatter about her work decreases my production. When people come to me about work related stuff, she will butt in and take over the conversation. If anyone disagrees with anything she says, she adamantly states her case as though no one but her could possibly be right. I realize she is insecure and I often ask her not to interfere and to please be quiet so I can focus on my work. I don't know what else to do. Any advise?
2007-09-09 04:16:06 · 12 answers · asked by Braveharht 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My role as a supervisor is limited to monitor her work and train her. I can not hire/fire. Also, my work revolves around the computer so I can not leave our office for privacy with customers.
2007-09-09 05:14:20 · update #1
If she is a good worker and you want to keep her THEN, I would sit her down and have a SERIOUS heart to heart chat with her.
Do not do it in passing, make it an OFFICIAL MEETING. Even put it in writing if you think that will have more impact. (to give to her after the meeting for her to read over when she gets home)
Be FIRM, be HONEST, be POLITE, dont back her into a corner. State from the outset that she MUST sit and hear you about before she offers up her side of the story. You might find that it is a nervous habbit of hers that she is not fully aware of. Tell her you REALLY LIKE HER WORK (if that is TRUE) BUT you just NEED to be clear about YOUR NEEDS and HER PLACE in meeting those needs.
Bullet point the guidlines you wish her to adhere to.
Quiet work environment
Respect other peoples opinions
Use SILENCE more OFTEN
ETC....
Often times people like this are TOTALLY unaware of their habbit and whilst it may hit them pretty hard at first, they may well be ETERALLY grateful to you for being RESPECTFUL and KIND about bringing it to her attention. Done right, it can be of benifit to all.
If she bursts into tears, do not loose your nerve, just continue until you have said what YOU need to SAY. Then give her a chance to respond.
GOOD LUCK
2007-09-09 04:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something to keep in mind because I just went thru a little session of this before I quit my job for being passed for promotionn and left the new honcho w/a guy that could barely speak english and a foreign-type chick w/an attitude who they'd like to think does better work than is actually true (this will hurt them more than it does me). If women are on the quiet side, they tend to not be seen as "aggressive" or "ambitious"... those "noble" male qualities that are uh, so good in business. To avoid this pegging, some people will overcompensate.
2007-09-09 11:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by itsjunglepat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one. if you have the authority to give her a warning; then i feel that's what you should do. based on what you've said, it might be wise to do it in writing. this first notice will not actually be the warning, rather a statement letting her know what your concerns are.
you don't mention the kind of company your work for, or it's size. they may have a protocol for situations like this.
whatever the case,
be professional and diplomatic. perhaps you should talk it over with your superior at work. set up a meeting with human resources and have this person present.
2007-09-09 11:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, write her a kind letter explaining what you wrote here. That way, she can't interrupt you and she's got to read the whole story before... she can give a reply.
If she keeps continuing without paying much attention to your letter, keep an eye on her, see in what way she just "brags" and ask her a question every now and then which she can't answer...
I hope she'll see your point.
2007-09-09 11:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bart D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is late, but not too late to set boundaries. When visitors come to see you, take them away from her area.
As her employer and leader, how did you let this happen? Are you so poorly trained that you need people from Yahoo Answers for advice? Apparently she has no respect for your position in the company. In any case, that is insubordination. Deal with it.
2007-09-09 11:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt there could be an easy, nice way of doing what you need to do. You sound like a nice person but sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do.
You just have to shout her out with just saying her name loudly or have you and the other person talking do that together (organised of course) and hopefully after that she may be more reseptive to, listen love im sorry but I just had to .....
2007-09-09 11:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to let her off your back is by simply ignoring her . dont make eye contact , dont nod or even show the slightest interest in what she is saying . by doing as i told u you r not reinforcing her behavior .repeat this method a couple of times u will see her moving on to annoy someone else .
2007-09-09 11:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do without insulting her or herting her , if you do want to say something , please try not to ruin her , I and alot of people like me , think that talkers are cute and enjoy being in their presence , so try not to say something to change her personality , just bring it to her attention , that it's bothering you but it's not her problem , tell her your sorry your this way but could she help you on this or something ,,
2007-09-09 11:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you , but your services are no longer needed , have a good life! See ya!
2007-09-09 11:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and maintain your conversation as if she weren't there; she'll get the hint.
2007-09-09 11:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by dardekkis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋