I frequent my favorite Italian restaurant about twice a week and I've gotten to know the waitstaff pretty well. I always ask for one waitress in particular because she is a far better server than any of the others. The problem is that I know they're required to share tips, and it doesn't seem fair that she should have to share MY tips with the others. If I personally hand her a tip would she have to share it with the others? I can't ask her directly because I know she would get in trouble. Any thoughts?
2007-09-09 03:54:03 · 15 answers · asked by bit_slicer 2 in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ Other - US Dining Out
I agree with discretely handing her the real tip she deserves, and then leaving a little extra on the table. She can pocket your tip, and put the table tip into the pool at the end of the night.
Personally, I don't believe in servers having to split tips. I used to have to tip the busboy who made more than I did. The bartender made more than I did and got his own tips at the bar. I had to tip out the head waitress even though she didn't do anything for me! However, if someone did really help me out during a rush and save my butt, then I'd tip them out. But normally, I think I earned those tips by working my butt off, so I'd pocket the money you gave me and only report just the table tip at the end of the night.
Also, by leaving a tip on the table, it can be grabbed by other customers, busboys, other servers, and they'll claim "Oh you must have been a horrible server tonight!" Yes, stealing tips happens. That's why the bulk of your tip should go discretely for her to pocket.
2007-09-09 07:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way I feel about tipping. I don't tip waitstaff that gives me cruddy service or is rude/unattentive. I do tip very generously those who give me great service. It's a sliding scale and I don't use anyones "tip guide" or standard percentage. I've been known to leave as little as a penny and as much as 100% of the bill.
If I were in the situation that you describe, and I have been, I would give the tip directly to the waiter/waitress and tell them specifically that this is for them and no one else. Heck, it's my money and I will say on whom it is spent. But that's just my take.
Tipping is not manditory. It's earned only by good service. If a person gives me bad service then I don't want them to have that money. (I've gone as far as telling the manager that I didn't leave a tip for my good waitress because I know that the tip will be shared with one that I despise. The next time I went back to that resturant, the bad one was gone.)
2007-09-09 04:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by TheGunGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person whom eats out frequently and a waitress, if the place she works at is a place where the tips are pooled between the workers, its every-ones obligation to share them, even if your the best server there and the rest slack, its what you signed on to do when you were hired. I have worked at a donut shop where tips were pooled and been tipped 100 from someone during the holidays and had to share it. The only time we could keep the tips ourselves is if it was in a card or enclosed with our names on it. It is all up to the policy that they follow in the restaurant, I could never work at a place like that waitresses work harder because they work for tips, when its pooled people slack off.
2007-09-09 13:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel more comfortable giving it directly to her, then that is what you should do. If it is her company's policy to require the tip share, then she will have to make that call.
The tip share is for the other employees that do not necessarily serve the customer. The door hostess, bartender, etc. do not wait on you, per say, but they do perform a function for you other than serving you. They just aren't the people one thinks about when considering the tip usually.
Also, the tip share contribution is nominal - it varies, but it is usually 5 - 6%.
2007-09-09 04:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 06:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tips are considered income , and are taxable, reefer madnes...anyway, give it to her, if you please. she knows her co-workers. If they are a good team, and she is fair, she will share, and they all win. If they are unfair, she can decide to keep the tips for herself . I had a restaurant in San Juan for 15 years, and tips were shared, and overall there were no problems. I had a couple of tip thiefs, and they didn't last long, and one girl didn't like to share her tips. Three bad people in 15 years, that shows most waitstaff is fair and will be good teamplayers!
2007-09-09 13:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by qk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure they share tips then your only option is to seal a tip for her inside a envelope with her name on it with a note inside of special thanks and give it to the hostess to give to her later but you still need to leave a regular tip on the table for her to share. If you think big tips are a way to get a date with your favorite cute waitress you are wrong she' s flirting with you for a bigger tip that is part of the job not a come on to you
2007-09-09 04:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by msmoobaby1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a server, and I have to say that the "sharing" isn't all that. Like another responder, I have to share tips with people who make more money than me. So my answer would be to give it to her by hand, discreetly, and then let it be her decision if she will share or not. that way, her karma stays cool, and so does yours.
2007-09-09 11:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by tinkershelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can`t bust their system.
If they pool tips that`s their way of recognizing the roles staff, other than waiters play in providing customer service.
Personally, I think all tipping should be banned andthat restaurant staff should provide a good service as a matter of course, much as they are expected in other industries.
2007-09-09 05:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why you could not slip it into her hand at the end of your meal. That way she doesn't have to share it.
2007-09-09 05:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋