Any Data on Large Age Difference Marriages?

Question

Does anyone have any data or first-hand information about the success or failure of marriages where there is a 30-year age difference between the couple? Specifically, the guy is in his mid-50's and the woman is in her mid-20's.

Answer 1

I dont know any exact numbers concerning your question but have dealt with alot of divorces and counseling for relationships involving big age differences. Most were fine at the beginning but as the elder got into senior ages,the younger felt more of a parental-child relationship. Some of the problems were generation society gaps especially around friends at parties, including different views on subjects. I have been able to save many but none with the age gap you mentioned especially when the guy hit his 60s, but have heard of a few that have worked

Answer 2

Anything is possible, but it's just another thing that is a possible stumbling block, that requires even MORE of a commitment on the people. Usually, this is going to be the younger woman, because generally the older guy is more likely to want to keep her. He has more to gain, I guess is the way most people look at it. Here are some problems that can (and usually do) happen: I married a younger woman at 45 (she was 14 years younger). She left me to be with younger guys. Although the situation is infinitely more complex than that, that's the general gist. (Yes, I treated her well, and she never claimed I didn't). Most women marry much older men for financial reasons, whether they admit it or not, and the fact is, if the guy has financial problems down the line, she starts looking elsewhere. It's not ALWAYS the case, but it's common.

Answer 3

my first husband was 20 years older-it was ok for thefirst 10 years or so but after that i began to become unhappy and didn't know why.after 15 years,i decided that i couldn't deal with the age diff anymore and i out grew him-didn't need a father type anymore as he tended to limit what i could do and not do.we couldn't have kids and that didn't help matters any and he wouldn't adopt.so consequently,there was nothing left to stay for on my part.he didn't realize that i felt this way until i knew for sure that it wasn't working for me and counciling was being done.he also had a penchant for making fun of my weight even though he was big himself so i didn't feel good about myself either.to make a boring, long story short,we have been divorced for almost 10 years and both are remarried to ppl our own ages.

Answer 4

You know what your eyes and heart tell you. To date someone much older than you will be ludicrous.
You can't help who you fall in love with but you can help who you marry and have children by.
Your first stage of courting is the enchantment stage. After that wears off reality has a way of creeping in. You will like to hang out and party, he will be more reserve to be at home where there is not a lot of busyness. If you have children together, most likely he will not be able to participate in all of their developing stages because time and age brings about a change in your disposition. You don't have stamina for that any more. God said that children are given to a young man to enjoy.
These old bodies of ours get sick and worn out. There is no way of getting around that. That's just the way it is. We can fool ourselves but time tell all things.

Answer 5

Never works out. The guy starts falling asleep on the couch with his mouth open while the mid 20's gal wants to go out and party. His hair starts falling out, he gets false teeth and denture breath. He can't hang for long in bed and she can go all night. He gets gray hair and wrinkles she gets whistles everytime she walks down the street. Everyone thinks she is his granddaughter. He dies and leaves her alone in her mid 30's.

Answer 6

Sexual problems may arise and the man of 50 might not satisfy the woman or girl of 20.

Answer 7

Hey, I knw a couple where the man is 25 and 40 at the time they got married.

and in my country, theres this guy at his 40s and married a grandmother at her 80s.

There's still hope dude.

Age dont matter.

Answer 8

My 2nd wife was 17 years younger than me!!! I was 36,she 18, WOW sure looked good together!!&she was OK as wife stuff goes, but hadn't really lived yet!! So we went different ways, she's on #7 hubby now!!! Hows that for stats!!