My wife doesnt like to have sex with me we have been have been married for a year what can be the problem????

Answer 1

Ask her the reason. One reason I can think of is that she might have pain when you have sex, if that is the case see a doctor to see what the problem could be. There is also the option of counseling.

Another issue why women (with morals) don't like having sex with their husbands is because they look at porn. Porn makes women feel objectified, angry, dirty, and depressed. If I felt like that, I wouldn't want to have sex with my partner. Most men don't like to hear it but porn is wrong and is a problem. If you try to tell me that you both watch it to get turned on, I would suggest counseling for that.

Answer 2

What changed after the marriage?
How is your intimacy level outside the bedroom? Are you two still acting like best friends or did you turn into your parents? Other issues in the marriage such as financial stress, disagreements, or issues you haven't found a mutual solution for?
Are there kids? Is she working? Is there reason for her to be resentful?

Or is it a physical issue? Are her needs being met in bed?
Are yours?

Are you two able to be open and honest?

I guess I would need more information to really give you anything good here, but in general when women pull out in the bedroom, resentment and stress/fatigue is the culprit. It is often a symptom that you need to sit down and re-clarify who does what and how and agree on rules of engagement. If there is fighting out of the bedroom, it will carry over to coolness under the sheets.

You will be able to work this out, but let me tell you it is probably not about sex: that is the symptom of a bigger problem.

Answer 3

This is serious. First of all, it doesn't take role playing, gadgets and other stuff to have good sex. You just have to have passion between the two of you. You have to actually like each other. Both of you have to be attentive both in bed and out of bed. Sometimes mad, passionate love comes even after an argument but all those other things have to be in place.

A frank, open discussion is needed.

Of course there are other things that could be the cause just as a lot of other people here have suggested. But we can't answer that question because she is the only one who knows how she feels and why she feels that way. Ask her and don't be a wimp about it either.

Answer 4

Do you have children or is she on any medication that affects sex drive? Both of these things can seriously change your sex drive. If there are no obvious reasons like this then I would try talking to her. Don't accuse or try to make her feel guilty about it but just ask her if something is bothering her. There are ways to fix this, you just need to find out from her what the problem is.

Answer 5

First off, ask her why she doesn't like it? She could have a medical problem where it causes her pain. Love is not sex but I feel it is an important part of a relationship. Did you have sex before marriage? Do you have kids? In order to answer this question, You may want to elaborate with more details. You can always seek counseling. Maybe she does not like your approach to it.

Answer 6

Speaking as a woman you might not be doing a good job of pleasing her and she might have given up on it all together or she is distracted by something else ( another person, Stress, depression) communicate wiht her on these things. Find out what your woman likes in the bedroom might be you have just never cared to find out and Next time make a day when you just do whatever to please her make it all about her pamper her, buy roses, give her a nice bath the whole nine yards women just love to feel sexy and appreciated try that for a change.If that don't work see a sex therapist. cheers

Answer 7

Are kids an issue? Did she like having sex with you before marriage?,was this an issue in the beginning of your marriage? Sex is an issue you should discuss with your spouse before you are married. Maybe you can go together with her to see a sex therapist an get this issue resolved. Sex isn't everything!P.S. maybe ask for a ******** instead. LoL

Answer 8

Have you tried asking her? Sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her about your worries. Ask her if there is something going on that you don't know about. Ask her if she is feeling well. She may be sick. Ask her if her feelings for you have changed. Ask her if she is unhappy with your sex life. And if so what can you do on your part to try and improve it. I don't like having sex with my husband. But it's not because I dislike sex. It's because he doesn't turn me on and I think him a lousy lover. Rather than be disappointed I rather not do it at all. There must be a reason just ask her.

Answer 9

well, some women are very embarrassed to talk about issues regarding sex because they don't want to hurt the man's feelings. so, you need to man up and decide to be ok with it if she criticizes your love-making skills. the only way you'll get past this is if you sit her down and reassure her you CAN take criticism in that area and that you truly want to learn how to better please her. if she feels secure enough, she might let you know why she hasn't been interested in sex lately. sometimes, if the guy is really big, it can be painful and you need to switch up positions so she's comfortable. women don't want to say that because they're worried about hurting the guy's feelings.

Answer 10

Any one of a hundred things. This isn't a matter for a public poll, it must be taken to a marriage counselor. If she won't go, go alone. You will each need to have SOME private sessions with the counselor in order to express yourselves freely. I hope this hasn't been going on for too long, and I won't speculate on the reason for it. To paraphrase Hamlet, "Get thee to a counselry!"