This has to do with the woman you were with. Did she try to change you? Big changes or small ones?
2007-09-09 03:39:43 · 13 answers · asked by oldsoftee2001 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am female...and i will say..
men wants females to stay the same no matter wat...but they always change..
females want men to change, but they never do...
i think this is quite true....
i lived with a guy before...and i will admit i tried to change him.
and it was in the financial security sense /stay home with me more sense (like living together we don't see enuff of each other)/cleanliness
yea....depends on the female...BUT i swear there is not a woman alive who won't try to make a change (even a tiny one) to a guy once they live together...
2007-09-09 03:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wahine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can clearly see that I am not a guy, but I can tell you this much is for sure. In most all cases both women and men try to change the other in some way or the other, sometimes it is a big change and sometimes it is a little change. The reason for this (in my case) was he was so close to being what I wanted him to be, so I thought.
Also in most relationships people do change some things on their own when they met the person of there "dreams". Being in a relationship does change your life to some degree, that is unless you want to keep your happy go lucky life style. Now if that be the case you might not stay with that person for long.
2007-09-09 03:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my wife, there were a bit of both.
She did try to change me big and small but it was ALWAYS for the better. She didn't come into the relationship saying "I am going to change and shape him to exactly how I want him to be". Some changes were subtle and some were just outright "you need to change this now"
Also you can't go into a relationship thinking you are going to stay the exact same. Some changes are required, especially for a serious relationship or marriage. You have to be willing to work on the relationship which will require change from both parties, not just male or female.
Now, I'm not saying every change she wants needs to happen but don't be to prideful to express more feelings if that is a change she wants to see in you. (Women need that to have a good relationship)
2007-09-09 03:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan Marcel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I'm married to one : ) and still want to answer, I don't get why women want to change their significant other AFTER they get married. I mean, WTF, you fell in love with them for the way that they are, why would you want to change them? I've been with my husband for 8 1/2 years but have only been married since 8-25-07 and I don't have any intentions on trying to change him cuz I love him just the way that he is and we know everything about eachother and we like it that way. Hope this gives you some insight from a womans point of view, although I'm a little different than most woman when it comes to my opinion LOL have a great day!! : )
2007-09-09 03:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy...but I can answer for my husband...yes there is something that I am trying to change about him...and I have been very successful thus far. I have changed his views on money. Before we met...he was spending money on things that he shouldn't have..because he really didn't have the money....he got himself into some financial difficulties. I have helped him to see that you should only buy what you can afford....and if you don't have the money...it can wait. He now realizes that the bills come first! He has come a long way...I am responsible for the finances in our family....but I keep him informed about where the money is going.....so yes...I have changed his thinking in regards to money.....is that such a bad thing??
2007-09-09 03:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She tried to change me big time! And....... as it was, I needed changing. It destroyed our marriage but, it was a positive and necessary awakening. I of course fought with all my might to hold on to my immaturity and believe me it left me kicking and screaming all the way. After I grew up to fit into that mold she had in store for me, she then set off to start phase two of my morphology. That led me to believe that she didn't like me or any other guy, she liked change. Chaos ruled her world. After the divorce and the surprise that I got custody of the kids she decided that maybe I was O.K. the way I was and tried to make amends. Too late! I married someone that didn't change me but instead helped me grow! There's a difference!
2007-09-09 03:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for almost 30 years now with 2 adult daughters and 1 grandson and not so much did she try tochange me as I changed for her to please the woman I love. I know she also changed her life to please me so its more natural for people to make big and little changes for the one you love. I might add that these changes never hurt me one bit and probably were for the best
2007-09-09 03:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women have this very bad habit of trying to change their man into someone that they think they should be. What they don't understand is it never works!
Be who you are, and if she has a different idea of who you should be, then move on.
Someone will love you for exactly who you are.
2007-09-09 03:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by conim2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the women always try to change their men.
Big and small changes are always on their agenda
2007-09-09 05:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Steve B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'ved beed married 2x (divorced 1x). My new wife now change me a lot. I'm happier that before!
2007-09-09 03:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋