So I'm turning 14 this month and I'm a Freshman in High School. A lot of people in my grade are going out but I'm not sure Im ready fot that. I mean it's not that my body is immature or anything (I started puberty at like 11) but I don't think I'm ready. What do 14 year olds usually go/do on dates? I know a lot of girls like me, but I feel kinda weird having all these different girls like me, but not going out with any of them. I don't know what to do...I just wanna know what people my age do on dates and where they go, etc. It's really annoying feeling this way and it gets me thinking constantly about this, even in class so I start day dreaming. I was thinking of waiting until i have a care, but i don't know... Is it a turn off to girls if you go out with one and they ask you how many gf's had you had and the guy says "you're my first" or I've had 1 before, etc?
2007-09-09 03:39:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
There is no set age to start dating. You show more maturity by waiting until you really want to take a girl out than to ask one out just to do what everyone else is doing.
Wait until you "have a care". If you do end up down the road asking a girl you like out and she asks about other girlfriends imagine how flattering it would be to hear you say you'd never liked another girl enough to ask one out. If I was 14, 15, 16 that would make my day.
Take your time, enjoy your friendships and just enjoy your friends company.
2007-09-09 03:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested in dating, there's no hurry. Basically, a date is a way to get another person better. That's all. And yeah, if you feel like you want to kiss or whatever, that's good, but it's not necessary. On a first date it's generally good to go somewhere you can talk, like dinner or something, as opposed to a movie where you're sitting in silence in the dark and not getting to know the other person better. And you know, guys talk about getting into girls' pants on dates, but it really isn't something you'll need to worry about until you get dating under your belt.
I don't think I've ever had anyone ask how many girlfriends I've had, so I'm not sure how I would have gone on to answer that. I've found that women don't want to talk about other women when they're out on a date. It can be charming to smile and shrug and change the subject back to them.
Good luck whenever you decide to take the plunge!
2007-09-09 03:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not ready for dating then that is ok
14 year olds around here hang out in groups at their homes, Starbucks, the park, school activities, church youth group activities, the movies, pizza places or fast food places, "band practice" is hot right now
and when someone asks you how many gf you have had...you don't have to answer except to ask kindly "why do you want to know?"
as a girl, I never asked that question because the answer really was not important or any of my business
if I liked someone it was for what was happening at that point in life
lots of teens are afraid to voice the stand that they are not ready for dating and get into uncomfortable situations...you are mature to know you are not ready and to speak your mind
there are plenty of awkward situations in teen years and it is not necessary to get into some that can be avoided by being careful and honest.
2007-09-09 03:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't feel your ready then don't do it till your ready. Have the comfort come to you and then you will feel more comfortable. Styles and dating also vary between school to school and where you live because at mine school dating is somewhat popular. But your not the only one because I myself had only one love affair when I was in 8th grade and now I am in 11th grade and through my high school career so far. I haven't asked one girl out yet. I wouldn't bother with asking someone out. I just go with the flow and have the love just come to me. When dating try to be yourself and don't be someone who your not.
I asked the same question to my Mom over and over. When you go on a date it only means your interested in their personality. It doesn't mean your girlfriend or boyfriend or your in love with them. All it says is that your interested not that you love them. So when you go on a date it doesn't have anything to do with love. People go out on dates to try to find love and to see if the other person will work out in a relationship or not work out. It's like your taking a food sample.
2007-09-09 04:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Successor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what 14 year olds do on dates, but you shouldn't feel forced to start dating because all your friends are doing it. I'm not saying you should ignore those girls that are interested in you, but dating is a better experience when you actually want to do it.
2007-09-09 03:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by dantrc724 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush it!!! if you aren't interested in going out on dates or in any specific girls then just don't date! there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are ready for it. one of the guys i dated in high school hadn't had any girlfriends that i am aware of before me and he was a senior when we dated briefly. he was just a fun funny guy and great to hang out with. nobody thought he was weird or odd, he was actually quite popular and voted wittiest in the senior class.
you'll know when it's the right time for you so don't feel pressured. there is always going out in groups which i always thought was more fun anyway.
good luck!
2007-09-09 03:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always appreciate the truth no matter what it is. i don't recommend asking her how many bf's she's had. i wouldn't find that very secure or attractive. you shouldn't care. if you're not ready to date, don't. at that age i went on a lot of group dates, usually to the movies or the mall, ice skating, laser tag, ball games... anything fun and cheap. if you're trying to get to know someone, movies don't give you much of a chance to hang out and talk.
2007-09-09 03:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm.... my sister is 14 and a freshman, and I know evrything about her love life :), so I think I can help.
She normally goes on dates to the movies, or school football games (I live in Texas, its a big deal here). Nothing too big or fancy like resteraunts. Petty much her and her boyfriend hang out at school though.
hope that helped!
2007-09-09 03:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel ready dont get involved just be yourself and thats it .You dont have to date anybody if you dont want to.Places to go are the Movies,Meet at stores,Go to each others houses,Go swimming,Go to parties together any where really.And no its not a turn off in fact it can be kind of cute.Also we dont want a man whos been around either.
PS its okay to turn a girl down just say youre not ready for one right now.
2007-09-09 03:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by meri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you explain that you were never ready for dating before, then it wouldn't be a big deal if you said you've never had a girlfriend before.
as for dates, people in my grade go to places like the movies, ice skating, and sometimes just over each other's houses. it really depends on where you live.
if you're not ready for a relationship, don't have one.
it's as simple as that.
2007-09-09 03:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by Arienette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋