Men Are getting screwed in divorce settlements, Why should they marry in these times ?
2007-09-09 03:04:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ronnel-- no one can make that decision for you. All they can do is relay the misery that they experienced because they were too immature to be married....
The hunt--- strip joints and bars have a lot of pretty girls.. Is this the girl you want to introduce to Mom.??? The divorced girl with 2 kids-- do you want a ready made family and raise some one else kids??? The college girl that drinks till she pukes and has $70,000 in student loans and really bad credit??? There are a lot of girls who are single-- never married-- that are looking for the man that will enrich your life and hers...A lot of couples meet on the job place of employment... I'm 60 and been divorced twice and if I could get married again --- I would... ....
2007-09-09 03:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Gerald 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are some people out there who are waiting for the right person. Sure everyone says that, but then most people have the attitude that if something doesn't work then they can just get divorced. By boyfriend and I want to get married and we've seriously talked about this. When we have troubles, we talk and we work through them together. Most people these days don't understand the concept of working in a relationship. Fairy tales aren't reality though. Unfortunately, in the end, a lot of people get hurt because they didn't have a solid relationship from the start. Some women believe that marriage will help change or "fix" their boyfriend. That is a sad truth. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married because we believe that you wait for marriage to have kiss, have sex, be intimate. Most people have thrown away that idea and while that's their decision, they end up very hurt. Not saying other people don't get hurt in relationships, but from seeing my friends relationships end, sex changes the relationship no matter what you say and they end up more hurt because they were closer to that person than if they had held off. Another thing is that some people live together before marriage. Then when they get married the only difference is some paperwork and a ring. No wonder people break off marriages just like dating relationships. Other people have different opinions on this, but these were mine.
2007-09-09 04:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to tell you.. case by case basis. Not all men get screwed over in a divorce. It goes to according who contributed more financially. In my divorce it was me so I had to pay!
I can't say that I have turned against marriage, but I can say, with my track record, I don't think I will be doing it again anytime soon.
The problems come with not changing along with your and your partners new expectations. When the marriage ends the property and finances are split. There is such a thing as a pre-nup. I hear it is all the rage these days!
With a pre-nup, it is almost already settled who gets what in the divorce.. It mostly covers what you came in with remains yours when you get out. As for anything else, house, cars, pensions, you can both go to a lawyer at any time and get a post-nup. That way when the divorce comes, it is already decided who owns what.
Is marriage worth it? Can't tell you. I haven't met the kind of man yet that won't screw me over in a divorce!
2007-09-09 03:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are advantages, if guys get married for the RIGHT reasons, like they love the woman they marry, and they want to make that commitment of love and trust.
And don't get married thinking, what will I get out of this marriage. If you put yourself before your spouse your marriage won't last. If you go into the marriage and keep your focus on putting your spouse and their feelings and needs before your own, your going to have alot happier and successful marriage. Also, don't expect your spouse to do all the housework, guys, your wife shouldn't be expected to do all the cooking, and cleaning. Help her.
Dude, btw, money isn't everything. If you get married for all the right reasons, and you and your spouse work at making your marriage stronger, then you shouldn't have to worry about divorce.
That's the problem today, people get divorced over stupid reasons. And it 's making marriage a joke. Marriage is a sacred istituion created by God. And people are making a joke of it by giving up so easy when tough times happen in a marrige.
2007-09-09 03:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry somebody unless you are sure they are who you want to spend the rest of your life with. You shouldn't ever have to think about divorce or divorce settlements. If you marry someone you love and have a happy marriage everything will be fine.
There are various reason to marry but then again marriage isn't for every single living person. If you love somebody and feel like you want to take it to that step, that is reason enough.
2007-09-09 03:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan Marcel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a man and therefore you are too much in heat to know better. We are going to be sweet and lie to you to get what we want. However, if the time comes that we are not happy, we are going to dump you and take the children and your money. After all, why should we put up with a husband when we get the children, the house, and half his take home pay in child support.
You only purpose it to protect and provide for us and our children. In effect men are our slaves and that is the way it should be. But don't worry; we will leave you enough to live on so you can keep making child support payments.
2007-09-09 05:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
financial downfall? What do you consider a downfall? having to pay child support?
Men are not getting screwed. In fact studies show most divorce will send the women and children into poverty.
2007-09-09 03:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Unless your going to have children, there's no reason for a man to get married!!!!!!!
Early years many could not have sex before marriage, and that was the one of the primary reasons for Marriage. Marriage was the reason to have sex. Today as we know , one can have sex before marriage and lots of it.
Our Divorce laws were originated/ designed so States would not burdened with Fatherless kids , and States paying the bills. The Father gets the bill !!!!!!!!
So to answer your question: Having children would be the ONLY reason to Marry.
2007-09-09 04:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nana Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh sure...go ahead and accuse ALL women of screwing their exes in court. That is bullcrap! I know for sure that I didn't screw my husband when we got divorced. I am the one that got less....but that didn't matter to me. I still love and respect my husband.....I wouldn't want to see him give up the house, 1/2 his pension, and all his other assets......why? Because we share 3 teenagers that live with him...and I care enough about them ....if I were to take my ex husband to the cleaners...what would that say about me? Besides they would have felt the repercussions as well.
2007-09-09 03:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
People get married for the same reasons they always have. Very few people get married contemplating divorce. Well, not nice people, anyway.
2007-09-09 03:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋