guys - why dont' men like to go to counseling?

Question

they adamently refuse even tho you think it would be beneficial?

Answer 1

Men and women are different. As a rule, women want to talk about their feeling and the status of any relationship. Men do not. We deal with things differently than women.

We see no benefit, even if you do! Why would I want to sit and talk to someone about my life who is (a) not a friend and (b) not going to do a thing but waste my time and money.

I would rather have a root canal without Novocaine than sit and "share my feelings"

Answer 2

Men are extremely prideful. That is a huge problem in society today. Most men think "I'm not going to some counselor who is going to tell me i need to change or am doing wrong". Men don't like to hear that they are wrong and most don't like to change their ways. They like feeling in control of everything, and it's hard to be in control when some counselor is telling you what to do. Since counseling is typically in order for issues, most men are unwilling because they don't want to change or give up what they are doing wrong.

They also don't like expressing feelings or emotions, so going to someone in which you must do that to get help, is an extreme turn off. If your husband or boyfriend loves you and/or wants to make a change about something or get help from counseling, he will do it.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Men may not want to go to counseling for similar reasons to why they don't visit the doctor. Men may not want to go to discuss some issues that they feel there's not much to be done about it.

I have met some counsellors that i found effective. They suggest solutions or try to resolve issues whereas some counsellors purely embrace the 'listening' approach.

If i come there and just talk then when i leave the room, the problems remain unfixed. I found myself prompting the counsellor as opposed to the other way around. They just listened and that's it. Of course, counsellors are not allowed to give personal advice but just listening does not really solve the problem as the client may have said those things to themselves already. They say that a psychologist is a person who you speak to after you speak to yourself.

At my counselling clinic, the waiting time is one to two weeks and if you miss one appointment, you have to wait for the another one to two weeks.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Because it shows a sign of failure, a sign of weakness which God forbid any man would show. It hurts his male macho pride/ego. He might have to open up to a stranger (counselor) and that just isnt as easy as it sounds to a man. Men dont seem to willing to express their feelings in public too well. As a part time marriage/relationship counselor I find it is really hard for men to admit to being part of the cause of any marital problems and majority hate to discuss their lifes in general

Answer 8

Because private issues are no one else's business. The therapeutic value of counseling is just venting. Most women are emotionally retarded any ways, so what's the point.

Answer 9

As a man I have gone to counceling, and it has been very beneficial for my wife and I, we went to counceling with pastor from our church who is a licenced councelor for marrige counceling, and it really helped us both in our personal lives and in our marriage.

The reason that alot of men refuse to go is pride. They have this attitude that there's nothing wrong with me and there's nothing to fix. And because of their pride they refuse to see or admit that it could help.

And it's honestly not all just men.

I have a sister in law, her brother was killed a few years ago, and she refuses to go to grief counceling, because she says that there's nothing wrong. And she's being stubborn and pig headed.

Answer 10

Because it's an incredible waste of a GUYS money only to prolong the inevitable. That's not very beneficial now, is it?