How do you move on when you want your marriage to work and you called off.?

Question

i wanted my marriage to work, but the wife counldnt decide what she wanted went to councelling and he was confused by her. i know there is plenty of fish out there but after this i think all women are the same. how can you date again and find happiness.

Answer 1

You don't until you get your attitude about women right.

Answer 2

Life is about taking chances. If your not willing to chance a new relationship. Then you'll be settling to remain alone. You think all women are the same because one hurt you. Well when we get hurt we tend to think all men are the same. If you are going to look at meeting new women with that attitude. All your going to find are disappointments. The women you'll meet will also have a past. One can not bring the problems one had with others, into a new relationship. It will not work. Because your just looking for the bad. And that will not let you see the good. If you don't feel like dating then your not ready. Give yourself time to put into perspective what went wrong with your wife. People tend to put all the blame on the other one. It takes 2 and if things didn't go well I doubt it was all her fault.

Answer 3

For starters, take time to yourself. Not all women are confused and undecided. When you are ready to start looking again, I strongly suggest to start with friendships with women first. Get to know a few before getting into the dating arena.

If you have been reading some of the questions on this forum, then you will have seen many of the problems that come with jumping in before you are ready. Getting seriously involved with someone before you decide if that person has what you want in a partner is probably the highest source of problems on here. (next to thinking you can change another person).

Don't put all women into the same category as your wife. Some may actually be worse!

Answer 4

There is never any easy way to do it, but basically if you don't you are going to be miserable, and make someone else miserable too. Maybe just tell him you are not ready to settle down (you look quite young to be contemplating a life of drudgery!) and that you respect him and care for him very much, but it just isn't what you want, and in the long run it will save you both a lot of heartache. Hope it works out ok. Probably not the best idea to get involved with someone unless there is a genuine attraction, even if you are in a bad place. It just smacks of using someone, which is never nice, as one day you could be on the receiving end.

Answer 5

If you think all women are the same then you will never find happiness.
Yea women can be a pain in the a$$, some are drama queens, some are spenders, liar's, ho's, confusing, ect..
the point is no 2 women are the same just like men.
To find happiness again if you treat your woman like she is #1 then in return she does the same thing to you she will put you on the pedestal. I don't mean just why you are dating either.
What most women want is someone that makes them feel like they are loved, men want the same thing just in a different way.

Answer 6

I know you can't help but feel disappointed, alone, and probably a little angry at this point. That's all natural, I think. Don't worry that you're a little bitter. Get through this time. Maybe go to some counseling. Spend some time with friends. Don't force trying to establish another relationship with a woman. It'll happen when you meet the right person, and after you've healed a bit. It seems to happen when you are least looking for it.

Answer 7

Right now all you would do on a date is look for confirmation that all women are alike. Spare some woman the problems you would bring into a relationship and when you can see women as individuals again that's when you are ready for another relationship.
The work on this problem has to come from your end.
Possibly short term therapy might help, but my experience has been that men rarely do this next logical step.

Answer 8

All women are as about the same as all men are the same. There is no- they are all the same- its nonsense. Find out what you want and how you feel about her and the relationship- start there because you sound confused in your question. After you know that you can figure out what to do and whether moving on is the best idea or not.

Answer 9

all women are not alike just as all men aren't. u were with the wrong one, u can find happiness again but u got to get over the past first. when u want someone and love them it is hard to admit that theres no hope in it, your first step is to face reality of what your marriage is, not how u wanted it to be. just give it time it will all work out, sure your going to miss someone u loved, but life does go on no matter what.

Answer 10

All women are not the same. Date for a long, long time. When you first meet someone you are meeting their Representative. It takes quite a while for the real person to show them selves.

Happiness is a choice not a gift from others.

Treat others like you want to be treated. Be kind, giving, tolerant, patient, understanding, have unconditional love, be selfless, caring, quick to forgive and slow to anger.

Love is a choice.

Answer 11

The right time will come when you'll find her again.Happiness is not finding another relationship. Start with yourself... discover things about yourself.Go out, meet new friends but just take easy don't jump into a relationship just to get over with your past. That would be unfair to other party and specially to you.Goodluck!!!!