this guy i know, who i am friends with seems to be such a BS artist. we had hookedup back when we went to school together and he moved away. i had really liked him then and continued to even though he was gone. (he knew it too, cause his friend said he was talking about how i like him) and the times when he lived here were fine but i didnt think there'd be a relationship due to the fact he was leaving.
we talked a couple times (litterally like twice) before he visited in the fall. to my surprise he came in and laid on my bed immediately. we talked awkwardly for 2 hrs and i finally went to kiss him. with that he rolled on top of me and he undressed me, and just pulled down his pants and stuck it in. i didnt know what to think. aferwards i told him how i felt about this and he said "it was a mistake" and we continued to just talk. we even discussed being friends with benefits. (dont know what i was thinking)
it happened again a few months later....
2007-09-09 02:54:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
after that i had second thoughts and changed my mind on the whole thing. i was unhappy. i didnt like the manner in which he did this, i was the one constantly contacting him. (friends do talk) and i felt stupid for even going along with it.
i told him i liked him (again) and that i couldnt do this since he didnt want a relationship. he told me "don't talk to me so much if you can't handle it" and he insisted "he never meant for it to happen" "didnt know it would happen"...bla bla bla
we didnt speak for a couple months and then we did agan. he came to town and blew me off completely for no reason. he told me he'd try to see me and then afterwards said he was too drunk and that he doesnt even remember if we talked/texted (we did back AND forth saturday)
i later found out he was hanging out with his exgf.
i told him that i just wanted to end it and not be friends.
he said we should be "close aquaintances" and he didnt think he mistreats me. it only APPEARS that way, he says.
WHY?
HELP!!
2007-09-09 02:58:49 · update #1
He's just being a guy who is involved in a friends with benefits relationship. For most people, this doesn't include a very good friendship, just really acquaintances having sex. It seems like you went along with this because you really like him, but are having your emotions played with. However, you can prevent that by ending this all. He just wants to have sex and you're giving it to him and letting yourself get hurt. I don't see any BS on his part so much. Yeah, he's been saying this is a mistake or that was a mistake but really, he told you he just wanted to be friends with benefits and really wants the benefits. You need to just leave him and all this and move on.
2007-09-09 03:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dolly,
Sorry this LOSER hurt you the way he did!
Simply, he is a BS'r and lies alot, coz i know a "duplicate" guy who was the same way and what you described about your "ex" friend's behavior, he's a user all the way!
Good for you that you told him to his face you were done with him, even as a Friend!
You see, guys like this WILL see how far they can go with you, and if they think they have got you hooked, then they try to make you a slave. he just wants to fool around when he wants to, that's all he's after!
I see all the "signs" right away as you said them, and his problem is this--------- he does NOT want to be responsible for his own actions so he plays this "I'm Stupid" game, to confuse you in which gives him the opportunity to put the guilt on you when it belongs to him! THIS IS SOO CLASSIC!
Now, here's another tip: the minute he was acting cold towards you, means he has another girl on the side, AND maye more! he isn't capable of caring, you see?
he already had a gf and was hiding the fact. don't feel bad., it's HIM and NOT you! his "wiring" is all wrong!! haa-ha!
anyway, you sound like a caring person and just fell into the trap of a "Player". it happens and these guys know how to "snare!"
don't give him another thought., he's out of your life now that yu stood up to him!
i know that sometimes gals like us will like a guy soooo much that we don't want to see past that, you know, we get it in our minds that they care about us and due to that we put those "blinders" on and we don't see what's going on, then we wonder why guys like this will "turn the guilt around" and dump it on us, as if we are the ones who are dumb!
And what he said about still being "close aquaintences", he's FULL OF IT, again. he'd just want you on the "side" when it would be conv. for him. DON'T go there!
IF he ever comes onto you, kick him where it counts!
meet someone else! someone who doesn't play mind games!
hope this helps!
2007-09-09 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 06:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not mistreating you. He told you straight up he didn't want a relationship with you, that he wanted "friends with benefits" meaning he'd come over to have sex and leave.
You're the one trying to spin this into a relationship. You have no right to be mad. You let him do this and when it didn't turn out the way you wanted it to, you got mad. Get over it.
He didn't lie to you, he told you what he wanted.
2007-09-09 03:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be friends with this guy, hes a sex addict, that's all hes using you for, don't ever speak to him again - that's my opinion
2007-09-09 04:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋