badboy for a boyfriend?

Question

im 14 and my boyfriends 16 he is what u would call a badboy he smokes and drinks (yeh i no its illegal) etc.
my mum saw me with him and told me i had to breakup with him i really like this guy and im not breaking up with him

if your daughter was dating someone like that what would u do to make her end it?
what would u say to the boyfriend

Answer 1

Is this the type of person you want to associate yourself with?Sounds to me this person is heading down the wrong path in life.Do you want a husband one day that can provide a good life for you or one who you may be bailing out of jail .Dump him.

Answer 2

Well I think that you obviously know he's not a great influence on you. Especially if he's smoking and drinking and acting out as a "badboy"....to me that's just a cry for attention.

So considering you flat out just said that you aren't going to break up with him, why you care what your mom or anyone else thinks about this is beyond me?

I mean if your mind is set to stick around with this guy, then that's what you're going to do right? Despite what anyone thinks about it, and no matter what your mom does or says to you about him...it only makes you want to "rebel" and stay with him anyways.
In a way I think you are also staying with him, simply because you feel like you're being "bad" yourself. Not to mention it kind of gives you a small adrenaline rush to be doing something your mom is against.

If my daughter was in your position, I would simply state my opinions about the boyfriend and let it be known. Then I would let her continue to date him, and if/when they broke up or anything and she gets hurt...I would be the one to say "I told you so."
TOUGH LOVE.........
I think people have to learn their own lessons in life, and the only way to do that...is to let them experience life and the people around them first hand. You have to fall before you learn to walk........so if this is the guy you have your heart set on right now, then that's fine.
But when push comes to shove and he bails on you for whatever reason, don't expect the deepest of sympathies from those who warned you about what was to come.

.......Choose wisely.

Answer 3

NOTHING. In probably 90% of the cases of a parent interferring in a daughter's (Or a Son's) relationship, the child winds up doing something totally stupid with the person you as a parent don't like.

Each child has to find thier own way in life. Whether it is picking the wrong person at first or picking someone they stay with the rest of thier lives...it doesn't matter they must find thier own way.

Answer 4

i would not say anythin to the boy. I will make my daughter understand by talking to her. Also knowing that he is into bad stuff, try asking him if he can quit this for you. and i am sure, you would have tried that too. Stop talking to him unless he quits. its difficult but sacrificing couple of week now may have both of you spending a good life thereafter. If he does not quit even after this, its better he is not in your way.

Answer 5

With you being 14 and him 16 just shows he's not good for you. Alot of times we think our parents just don't want to see us happy, but they do know what they be talking about. Maybe your mom went through the same thing when she was young and she don't want you to go through what she went through. I think you need to listen to your mother more and worry about an education and less about a bad boy.

Answer 6

If my daughter was 14 & seeing someone like that I would limit her time with him & it would be in a supervised situation.If you tell her she can't ,it will make her that determined.Let her see him some ,but show her their are better people that she could be seeing.She needs people to compliment her,not people to bring her down.

Answer 7

I was very bad when I was 14 and I regret it now, a lot. Concentrate on your schoolwork and friends. You're too young to get involved with a "bad boy" right now.

Answer 8

i would be honest with my daughter...that kind of boy only wants one thing, sex. actually all boys want that. i would tell her that she's young and she better be prepared to get her heart broken because this boy isn't going to stick around forever. i'd want my daughter to learn from her mistakes. she will need to experience a bad boy to learn that they're not best for her and that a nice boy will make her a lot happier. but, she will only learn that if she can experience that herself!

Answer 9

my friend is really into the whole badboy thing and thats who she always ends up falling for.
you just have to make sure your boyfriend sucks up to your mom and makes himself seem like the nicest person alive

Answer 10

Maybe he'll grow up to be like me? Search "Puzzlez" (Music Search) (Myspace) (Ima Rapper) AND I'M CLEAN! I used to pop X, smoke weed, smoke cigarettes, and drink Hard Liquor. U SHOULD BE HIS SUPPORT. Why? CAUSE I BET HE NEEDS U.
DO NOT LISTEN TO UR PARENTS!
IMA BAD BOY... WITH A BAD GURL...