his parents really doesn't like me because of our culture differences how can i get to his parents what will i do to accept me as daughter in law
2007-09-09 01:54:43 · 12 answers · asked by wyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not have to be in the far east for this to happen. This happens her in the USA... Mothers do not like their daughter-in-law..... This type of thinking has been going on for centuries.... My heart truly goes out to you.... First--you do not have prove yourself.... They did not respect there sons judgement to marry you... It is there sons fault that he fell in love with you...Then they punish you --- the ancient way is there life and it should not be compromised...... Sorry...
If you are with them be cordial and show respect as if they were your parents... No panic.. Please continue to love you husband a whole bunch and he wii do the same... Remember you do not live with his parents and you did not marry them.......
2007-09-09 02:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by being a little more japanese. Its like when a guy is courting a girl's parents, he'll have to know what they like and they don't like. Same thing with your in-laws but it'll be alot more different coz you'll have to abide or act within their culture because they are japanese people and also your in-laws. Try doing that and also ask your husband tip on how to get along with you in-laws. Its true that when you start to have kids your in-laws suddenly will accept you but isn't it better if they would accept you even if you don't have one yet?
2007-09-09 09:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by reeiyan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Japanese culture is a very proud one. They see the world as populated by two kinds of people, Those who are Japanese, and those who are not. The fact that you are not Japanese is difficult for them to accept. It is important to remember that you married their son, not them. If you and your husband dedicate yourselves to making each other happy, it doesn't matter what the parents think.
2007-09-09 09:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have the emotional energy, try to be as involved with them as possible and connect with them on a personal level. Personal relationships make bigots make exceptions for you in their prejudices. And then when you guys start having babies, your in-laws will melt and forget about the cultural differences.
2007-09-09 09:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of this is up to the husband. He can tell his parents that he loves you and that he expects them to treat you respectfully. It is time for hubby to be a man and intervene on your behalf.
Plus . . . you don't mention if you two have children yet. A lot of times when a daughter-in-law gets pregnant, the in-laws will suddenly decide they like her after all, LOL. Silly but true. They suddenly realize that if they want to be close to their grandchild, they have to be nice to grandchild's mother.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-09 09:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Japanese husband's family isn't so keen on him marrying a Irish/Cherokee Indian girl,but we got married anyways.
You have to be nice and friendly and ignore whatever rude things they say.
2007-09-09 09:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you can't make someone like you. Just be yourself, and maybe they will understand you better. If anything, tell them that their son chose you as his wife because he loves you and accepts you for who you are and maybe they should consider that as well.
2007-09-09 09:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to like you. You married their son not them. Ignore them the heck with them. Do as many other couples do you tolerate them publicly and privately you can't stand them.
2007-09-09 09:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh... everyone has problems with their in-laws. There's nothing much you can do about it. I come form a mixed, bi-racial family... I am already used to racism... you just have to be kind to them...
2007-09-09 09:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people like you. Just be yourself and if they can't see past the cultural its their loss.
2007-09-09 09:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋