About 2 months ago, my fiancé broke up with me after 4 years together since college .Needless to say, I was devastated. I loved her more than anything and had a amazing relationship. She said that she needs to find herself, and spend more time with family and friends. In the past 2 months we have talked ,and even spent the weekend together and got dinner( which went totally fine) I even thought there was chance of reconciliation. Tonight, I went to my best friend’s wedding. My best friend’s girlfriend ( now wife) became very good friends with my girlfriend since we have been dating. Of course, I RSVP’d for the both of us 4 months before we broke up. My friend’s girlfriend insisted that she wanted my girlfriend at the wedding ,after she found out that we broke up. I saw her tonight, she was so friendly, and acted like we were still together, she was like her old self. BUT When I went to give her a kiss, she said she would rather shake my hand? Is that
2007-09-09 00:56:30 · 8 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is that normal? When I went to say goodbye she gave me a quick hug and said goodbye. I feel like she is doing this to piss me off? I was with her for 4 years and never shook her hand before.
2007-09-09 00:56:46 · update #1
I think she has moved on and you should too. I know it's not easy and I have been through it my self. I can assure you, it's not easy and if you truly love her, you will never get completely over her, but you have to move on.
2007-09-09 01:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats rotten of her. She could of at least kissed you on the cheek.
I don't think she should've given you the cold shoulder but she shouldn't have lead you on either.
Are you maybe reading into her behaviour a little and trying to see something you had rather than what is really going on now. Was she really acting like you were still together or was she just being happy and polite?
I would give her a call and ask her what was with the handshake? Tell her that after 4 yrs together you deserve more than a handshake, a cheek kiss and slight hug would've been considerate.
I can also see that I think you still have feelings for her, so ask her if she thinks she can see you two dating each other again. If she says definately no then move on and find someone that will appreciate you. If you get a mixed reaction from her then I would still move on because she will keep stringing you along like a puppy and you will wind up alone and upset.
Best of luck and try talking to her but don't come accross as a sad puppy :( be confident, let her know if she wants you to come and get you or you are moving on.
2007-09-09 01:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it's normal. On the bright side the fact that she presented to everyone there that she was with you is a good sign because it means she hasn't put herself on the available list...and a wedding is a good social setting to find people because romance mbues there...Maybe you got careless or at least took the relationship for granted and you need to do some Don Juaning to win her over again or convice her you'rre what she wants or perhaps she felt smothered and after a while will come back around. I'd make it a point not to let her forget you care and to leave subtle reminders of how good it was just so she settles back into you when she's ready rather than looking elsewhere.
2007-09-09 01:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry guy ... when a lady now wants a hand shake ... the ol' relationship is dead and burried.
You need to wrap your head around it that she ain't commin back ... and you now need a date for a wedding.
You might wanna try expanding your circle of friends to keep from running into your ex.
Good Luck .... it's gonna hurt & tick ya off for a while ... you'll do fine in the long run.
2007-09-09 01:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was just letting you know that she still is standing firm on her decision, of staying apart.
Even though she was talking to you, if she would have kissed you, that would have confused you even more.
So she was just trying to do the less "confusing" thing.
Which I think was the right thing to do.
I know you "wanted" a kiss, and if she would have kissed you, that would have given you the wrong impression.
Sounds like she is moving on with her life,
I think you need to do the same.
Good luck :)
2007-09-09 01:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was you id forget the Boitch I'm sorry if i were you and if i ever saw her again id keep walking with your head up high and not say a word sorry but its over she doesn't like you that way if she wants to just shake hands she shouldnt hurt you like that she is mean maybe she gets off on itgeesh after 4 years?dam
2007-09-09 01:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by NovemberRain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants a friendly relationship, rather than an intimate one, with you. It's time to move on......
2007-09-09 01:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be this is her way of saying she just wants to be friends,or she is trying to peeve you off .
i would just go with the flow you may become good mates again and who knows where that could lead good luck.
2007-09-09 01:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by molly mallise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋